I was told that giving birth would be difficult.

Nanami

I read the sentence.

There is also the environment I grew up in,
I want to have a happy family, have children, and start a family

However, due to congenital heart disease and the medicine you are taking
There are considerable risks when giving birth
Does the disability occur in either mother or child
Or they end up losing their own lives.

Nanami is now in a situation where she can't help but feel lost
I think they are there.

“I struggle with complicated feelings every day.” It's called
Your deep conflict is conveyed in words.

As advice from outside
Also “why don't you take care of your own body”
“Why don't you take on the challenge with the intention of accepting the results”
Words to stop too
I can't even say words of recommendation

It is none other than being able to give an answer
I think Nanami is the only one.

through fighting with complicated feelings every day
You're probably trying to come up with an answer

I want to respect any decision.
I'm rooting for you.

I think it's still too early to give up.
That's because it affects a lifetime.
For example, there are people in Japan who are proud to cure any type of cancer.
They are people who are said to be the best doctors of all time.
❝ Even if it's not curable ❞, I think it is necessary to conduct an examination under such people and seek an accurate final opinion.
Even though you know your own body the most, there must be parts you don't understand.
That's what medical institutions are for.
Even though the medicine you are currently taking is appropriate, there is a possibility that you can continue your second and third opinions and change the medicine you take on a daily basis ❝ maybe ❞ I don't know. I don't understand that.
Although the test costs some money, it may be possible if delivery is a caesarean section.
Also, it is called mental and physical unity.
It's not one, but it's like one.
I think the mental part also affects seizures.
There is also a part where you can suppress some kind of body movement with your mind. Depending on how you live a certain way of life, I think there are parts where heart attacks can be suppressed.
However, even so, physical strength is superior.
No matter what! If you understand that, you too should be able to give up.
If that happens, you should give up properly.
But if there is a possibility, you should believe in that possibility.
If I give up, maybe even this one! Until then, let's get better at our bodies, know our limits, and then give up. I'm rooting for you.
A long time ago, too, there were things I absolutely had to give up.
Even so, if you get through with it, you can give up properly, even if it doesn't work.
The world you see there isn't what you feared; it's something you have a different way of looking at things.

Hello Nanami.
A fierce life. I'm glad you've made it this far. And congratulations on your marriage.

Nanami has always dreamed of having an absolutely happy family, having children, and creating a family.
However, due to heart disease, there is a risk that the medicine you are taking will cause childbirth.
As a result, relatives tell us not to overdo it. I think it's more important that you're alive. Children implicitly told them to give up. My husband and my husband's family also told me they didn't have to overdo it.

BUT!
“I think it's normal to be born a woman and want to have children,” Nanami said.
I'm a nursery teacher, and I'm confident that I can create a very happy family.

I was wondering where that power comes from.
It's important not to give up. At the same time, it seems important to clarify. I'm sure Nanami herself is familiar with her fight against illness.
Give up and make it clear that “I can't use this medicine,” and I won't give up if “I'm absolutely happy.”

It's not a bad thing. Turning jealousy of healthy people and hatred of parents who abused the lives you were born to into power.
It doesn't seem like a good thing either. But I respect that. It's your opinion.
But, nonetheless, I want to talk. There are many forms of happiness right before our eyes. Let's not forget Yume Yume. Please stay well.

Nanami

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Thank you for your hard work, and I'm really sorry that you have been able to work so hard while you have had a lot of thoughts.

And I would like to congratulate you on getting married this time. Also, I am truly grateful to everyone around me who is understanding and kind. Thank you very much.

Until now, we have answered each of the following questions about “what I want to be blessed with children.”

http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/cat_319589.html

I've touched on it a bit in one of the humble answers above, but I'm dealing with the child of Councilor Seiko Noda. There are probably various criticisms, but it really made me think a lot. However, as a woman, I knew it was an expression of an important and earnest desire to have children.

Of course, it's not easy to say that it's not very irresponsible, but as long as there is a possibility, I think it's okay to choose a method with less risk and try it out without giving up. Anyway, medical technology and pregnancy/childbirth medicine are progressing rapidly, and if it is the latest method in advanced medical settings such as America, it may be possible to have a low-risk pregnancy and childbirth. Even if you don't go to the US, there may be hospitals in Japan that have introduced America's most advanced medical technology, so I think it would be nice if you could try gathering information.

Also, although it is not officially recognized in Japan, if you really want a child, there is also a method called in vitro fertilization or surrogate delivery by receiving a mother's fetus donation.

Anyway, in this world, nothing is completely or completely determined from the beginning, and of course there are various risks involved. However, good results can be obtained due to the flow of good causal relationships (causes/conditions).

As is the case with Buddhism, it means that devotional efforts are necessary to accumulate as good causal relationships as possible for good results.

Anyway, I fully understand how you feel, but “jealousy,” which is one bad affliction, is a bad thing to do. Actions due to jealousy are bad deeds, bad causes, and may have bad consequences, so I would like you to be careful.

I sincerely pray for good deeds.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho