I'm building a new house that I should be happy with, but when I think about the head of the household being 43 years old and continuing to pay loans from now on even after retirement, I don't have peace of mind.
Since we're human, there are times when we think positively, and there are days when our feelings sink.
Maybe I should change my mind. You might think that, but I don't feel like changing my mind either.
What should I do?
Nice to meet you. My name is Kameyama Junshi. I'll give you my own answers. One of the Buddhist sutras is a sutra called the “Muryoju-kyo Sutra.” Among them, it depicts our way of being and says, “If you have rice fields, you worry about the rice fields; if you have a house, you worry about your house. ... (...)... Also, if I don't have rice, I'm worried that I want rice fields, and if I don't have a house, I'm worried that I want a house.” It has been explained. If I had a house, I'm worried that it might quickly disappear due to loans and unexpected floods, earthquakes, fires, etc. due to abnormal weather in recent years. Well, that's not the case when it comes to whether you can calm your mind if you don't have a home. I want to live in a newly built house even if I get a loan. In other words, whether we have a home or not, we are troubled beings. So how should we live? Buddhism for me is a teaching that makes people aware of “being kept alive” in the “now.” This world is made up of “various connections (good fortune).” By no means do you exist on your own. Also, these “various connections” are not limited to human relationships, but all kinds of things are involved. For example, this is probably the case with nature, which sometimes brings us disasters. Also, so are many living creatures. And the one who woke up to that is Buddha. However, we cannot live our lives constantly feeling that we are being kept alive by such “various connections (good fortune).” However, when I quietly put my hands together and think of the Buddha, there is a connection that never abandons me, even when I'm worried that something exists, and I'm worried that I don't want something, and it will make me notice even a little bit that I myself am being kept alive in such circumstances. And I think that will be a path leading to peace of mind. I hope it helps even a little bit.
The Buddha gives us peace of mind.
They are holding me now, who will die someday, and say “I will definitely make you a Buddha.”
That's why I'm the one living now, no matter when I die.
If you're having trouble with a loan, prepare a plan for when things go wrong.
Let's ask an expert to simulate that kind of thing.
What happens if I can't pay my loan, and what can I do about it?
It's reassuring if you have a few methodologies.
“Peace of mind” is something I receive from a place that goes beyond my inner circle.
When it comes to loans, let's listen to the opinions of experts in that field.
If it's about life, let's ask Buddha's wisdom.
The reason I lose peace of mind is because I think about it.
I can't stop thinking about it.
Our splendid hall was built by my master before prices went up, but I still have more loans.
Previously, I talked with someone at a liquor store in Kawasaki who has 1.3 billion yen due to his father's debts.
In the end, there is no choice but to return it. But it's not like I've been thinking about that for a long time.
It only gets dark when you think about it. That person was able to do the work more and more efficiently in order to return it. It seems that they still have debts in units of 100 million, but it seems that they are steadily paying them back.
When I think about the debts I have, too, it becomes a contract (laughs)
But everyone is greeted by illness, old age, and death, and what would happen if we thought about it all the time and held on to it. Time passes even as I think about it.
No matter how much you think about death, you're still alive while you're alive.
It's a life that dwindles even while praying for longevity. Then I have no choice but to live.
There is no choice but to pay back debts and loans. Oh, I wonder if I can return it... it's no use just thinking.
High mountain climbs are dangerous if you look down. If you are taking step by step in front of you, you are moving forward properly.
Let's think for a moment about worrying itself. People who come to the mountain for life counseling can be broadly divided into two categories. There are people who worry about their lives, and there are also people who worry about their lives. Worrying about life is a state of trouble due to conflict (anger) with others, illness, poverty, etc. that occurs in the process of a person's life. Let's say this is A. Worrying about life is a state where people can't find an answer because they think about the meaning, meaning, reason, etc. of the very fact that they are alive. Let's say this is B.
What is necessary for solving A is knowledge, talent, human connections, etc., and recently, training to improve skills and change thought trends during the recent outbreak may also be useful. In short, you can resolve something, including yourself, with the power to have a clear causal relationship. The easiest thing to understand is to go to the hospital to have your condition clarified, receive treatment, and heal well. However, B, like A, does not have a fundamental or concrete solution, such as having someone arbitrate a fight or changing feelings and doing your best even in a workplace you don't like. Not only do I not understand myself, but no one can teach me. If you're alive, “that time” will eventually come, and there is no choice but to say that you have “awareness.” So, first, if you have a problem, let's take a close look at the problem itself to see if A or B are you worried about.
This seems surprisingly clear, and it isn't. If it's A, we'll talk about things to keep in mind at our mountain, and in some cases, we'll also introduce doctors, lawyers, etc. If it's B, I'll listen carefully to the story, find the form of trouble together with the person in question, tell them religious thoughts and practices that suit it, and in some cases, make suggestions such as prayers and blessings. Naturally, there are also cases where A and B are mixed, and the weight changes and cannot be determined.
When we're worried, our breathing gets thinner at some point. Try to do this breathing with your stomach, not your chest. Exhale slowly while consciously retracting your stomach, and if you exhale, slowly inhale into your stomach that swells due to recoil. If you do that, at some point, you may be able to objectively view your worries as targets. At some point, “myself” will relax and “be” as a “viewer.” I'm sure this experience of time will come in handy for something. I'm praying for a change in fate.
(For details, see the blog “Notes of Feelings”)