About denominations

Basically, you will be converting to the religion of your marriage partner.
Therefore, originally, it is preferable to marry into a family that believes in the same religion as the religion of your parents' house in order to avoid conversion.

Of course, freedom of religion is guaranteed in Japan today.
However, in reality, things are becoming more and more inconvenient.
If the couple's beliefs are different, every milestone such as a funeral or memorial service may not go smoothly.
If you work in daily legal affairs as a chief priest, you will occasionally run into such trouble.

You don't have to convert.
However, you must be aware that there is a possibility that you will get into trouble with your marriage partner.

Thank you Momoko for your question.

The family's religion is different. That's the story, but I don't know what kind of faith you have.

So, it becomes a hypothetical story. Please bear with me.

If you think the religion of your family is your own faith and is extremely important,

Please discuss the following carefully.

Even if you keep the religious rituals of your marriage partner, is it OK to think of it as a separate issue from your own faith?

If you recognize a specific denomination as your family religion, but you don't believe in that religion in particular,

Are you able to believe in the religion of your marriage partner yourself?

Originally, there is freedom of religion, so it should be recognized that family religion and individual (person) religion are different, but it is not something that can be properly distinguished.

As others have pointed out, differences in religion may also cause trouble.

I think it's important how you and your new family can accept this.

However, there are actually various ways of believing in that family, and even if I give a uniform answer here,

In a sense, I think it's invalid.

Please make a decision by clearly grasping your own issues of faith and your family's issues.

Therefore, if you have any questions or concerns, I would like you to consult with us again.

My name is Yoshida Toshihide from the Soto sect.

As for your question, I think many people are struggling with marriage. Therefore, similar questions have been asked several times for this hasunoha. I also answered about 2 times. Please also refer to the questions and answers there.

http://hasunoha.jp/questions/1172
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/513

Generally speaking, it may be common to the responses of other respondents, but as there is a saying, “If you enter your hometown, follow your hometown,” it is safer to match your marriage partner. You can't even bind a person's heart, so for the time being, please keep in line with the purpose of your marriage partner and cherish your individual beliefs within as before.

As I said, in reality, problems may occur during funerals.
I will give an example that is different from the answer above.

An elderly woman has passed away. That person was a Protestant in terms of the deceased. It seems that he was eagerly attending church when he was well. Also, on a daily basis, “I want to have a funeral at church when I die. But I want them to be buried in the same tomb as my deceased husband.” It seems that they conveyed that hope. After his death, I had a funeral at a church and cremated him. A few days after the cremation was over, a representative of the bereaved family visited the temple, explained the circumstances, and said, “The pastor of the church told me that if they were to be merciful to the chief priest, they might be able to approve the burial as it is, but is that OK?” I've heard that.
I said, “The Constitution guarantees freedom of religion. Therefore, it is possible to assert the dignity of this temple, which is a temple of the Soto sect, in the main hall, in the precincts, and within the graveyard of this temple. There is a rule (cemetery management regulations) that people who have received a kyo name from the family temple and performed a funeral as a member of this temple are buried in a cemetery. Trying to bury the remains of a Christian funeral as it is is an act that infringes on the freedom of religion at this temple. Prepare minimal majesty (flowers, offerings), and it doesn't matter only to the bereaved family, so please receive the kana name from the family temple and perform a funeral before burying.” I asked them to do that.

Please take care of your own faith. However, please consider and be careful so that trouble does not occur during funerals and burial, and bereaved families do not have to be confused.

I think there are many parts where the teachings overlap. I hope you can keep an eye on that.

However, I think the ceremony is completely different, so it would be better to follow the method of the family temple where you got married. Also, in the Jodo sect and the Jodo Shinshu, the nembutsu is “Namu Amida Buddha,” but since the other religious denominations are different, it may not be easy to get used to it.

I think “the exterior is the sect you married to, and the heart is the Jodo sect” is also an ant.