Is it painful to be with my mother, are parents disrespectful

　　In conclusion, I think it is necessary to keep a little distance from your parents. It is only with parents that children are born and nurtured in this world. Therefore, I think there is a saying, “A parent's kindness is higher than a mountain and deeper than the ocean.” But that doesn't justify parents controlling their children and directing their children's lives. As parents, I think they want their children to be happy, but I think that worrying about children and interfering too much may spoil the child's present and future.
Occasionally, I see parents who put up a sign called “filial piety” in front of them and hold up parental rights or impose duties on children. Haruka's parents also seem to have this tendency. Interfering with children may be a reason for life, but it can also be said that it is a symptom of so-called “parents who cannot leave their children.”
I think the actual countermeasure is to leave home and live alone. Self-reliance as a full-fledged member of society is also a way to return the favor to the parents who raised them. Leaving home and supporting oneself does not immediately become a “parent disobedient.”

However, there is something I'm concerned about in your question.
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I talked about leaving home for the first time because I wanted to change myself and grow. However, there was a financial problem, and I also told them that they would end up living together in the room with the guy I'm in a relationship with now.
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I don't understand what “I want to change myself and grow” means. It seems like they want to grow themselves by changing the environment, but I don't know if there are specific goals and methodologies for moving towards them. If my kid said that, “What can I do with such a sweet thought.” I'm sure they'll kick you off. Excuse me, but I feel “dangerous” from the sentences in the question.

If my fears are unfounded, there's nothing better than that. If you have goals with a proper eye on the future and are accompanied by planning and practice, show them to your parents. No matter what your parents say, your life is yours. You don't need to be tied down by your mother for the rest of your life. Even if you are opposed, if you solidify your determination to move forward in your life and show direction and practice for that purpose, I think someday the time will come when your father and mother will understand your actions.

They get angry right away even when they live together, and they get angry even when they say they leave, so what kind of form is the “ideal” your mother is looking for?
Conversely, what is the worst thing you least want to happen to your mother?
Also, what is your ideal mother-child relationship, or the worst mother-child relationship?
Are your ideals completely at odds with your mother? Do they have a few things in common?
Maybe we should avoid each other's worst first.

To Haruka
It makes me feel suffering, I want to leave the house,
What makes me want to get out of this situation
Mother's aggressive words and actions
I think it's a dominant relationship.

You are being hurt on a daily basis
That's why I want to get away from my parents

but when I try to leave
The attitude of trying to leave
It was denied that the parents were disloyal, ungrateful, and betrayal
With the word “raised”
A sense of guilt has been instilled in it.

And Dad also told them to take care of their parents
I think they're hurting Haruka with common sense.

Also, people around me understand how they feel,
Parents may say they should take good care of it.

Feelings of gratitude to parents
What is the feeling of wanting to cherish

I think it's something that naturally develops in relationships with parents.

You're not unfaithful.

It's not about what to do
Why don't you think about what you want to do?

“There is only one interpretation of a fact, as many as there are people. Biases occur when people look at interpretations. But the fact is one, and the interpretations are limitless.” Ryoei Osho
You're just leaving the house.
That is one fact.
No one gets hurt.
I don't mind when I'm not at home for work or shopping.
Seen from one side, it is an independent, autonomous way of life, keeping a distance from parents, and there is also an aspect of independence. If the mother is an obsessive type of mother who can't leave her parents, I think it would be just the right stimulus. As a result, it may also have the effect of gradually becoming aware that children are not their own property.
My mother sees only the bad side.
That's a one-sided point of view.
It's ❝ watching ❞ in terms of thinking, not ❝ watching ❞.
To watch is to look after thinking.
To see is to see actual facts.
This is the training you are looking for in your home.
That's because it's Buddhism.
You don't have to put an end to your guts just because you're leaving separately.
That kind of thing should be properly conveyed.
Conditional love is not love.
It's restraint, obsession, and self-love.
It's also a good idea to take this opportunity to awaken to a higher level of love.
Resistance is born when people try to change their current stable lives.
It's about leaving the house wisely while reassuring your mother.
Well, until now, I've been asked to talk about my mother, but in fact, I was talking about you. You too should move away from a state where you can only look at things one-sided, get out of the world of thoughts, and live faithfully to the world of facts.
Please tell your parents about that kind of thing properly, and save parents who can only take a one-sided view of things.