Why can't children and parents choose each other?

“Sorry for being a bad mother”
or
“Thank me for being a wonderful mother”

What if conflicting words were used

I feel that the former words are precious.

I am aware of my own impotence
What is human weakness

Bring out the kindness of the people around you
I think it's creating a connection.

The presence of Yu-san and her child
Husband, mother, and parents-in-law's
I think it brings out kindness and fosters connection

Everyone
Rather than being bothered
Spend time with your kids
I think you had a rich time

Children are also raised by diverse people
I also think I was given a new perspective.

Above all else, your presence
It may have encouraged your child to grow

The idea that extreme nuisance must not be caused
It makes people feel at a loss and creates isolation.

From a place of pity and lament
Thank you for being able to help me, I thought I had a good relationship
Why don't you thank

and
If Yu-san gets well
Why don't you help someone who is in trouble

nor
Are humans born
You can't choose your parents, times, countries, genders, or talents
As long as I try to live my life the way I want
There is no choice but to hold a grudge against the circumstances and envy others.

Live the self you've been given
Including good things and bad things
If it's something that supports me
When accepted
I think a new world will open up.

When I died in a previous life, my heart was at a level where I just wanted to still live, and I wanted to live because any circumstances were fine, so I think they were born by jumping on a fertilized egg close to them.
If he were a saint who mastered spiritual unity in a previous life, he probably only reincarnated as a god like Bonten or Heaven because he only likes a world in a state of spiritual unity.
There are probably various physical conditions such as illness or disability.
Humans are beings that have suffered like that.
It was born as a result of reincarnation due to an obsession with a wild and desperate life where even such a difficult life is fine.
The moment your child was about to be reborn, your body was ready for life, that's all.
At that moment, the interests of the child about to be born and your body about to be born probably coincided.

I feel like it's a difficult problem, but it might be easy.
This is because there is no way for things to go the way humans want them to.
Yu-san feels sorry for her children, doesn't she?
It seems like they think it's because of their illness that they haven't done enough.
Take it easy and ask your child what they've enjoyed lately.
Next, ask about the fun things you had with your mom.
Your child will probably tell you that it was fun.
That might be boring from Yu-san's point of view.
Kids also like going to Disneyland, but being with their mother and being able to spend time together is better
It's impressive, and they may be delighted.

If the child is raised using a parent or husband, it is enough for the mother to pass.
Unless there is a problem with abuse or child personality development
It doesn't feel like that at all.
From my point of view, she's a great mother.

This is because “this world is a world completely unrelated to one's own thoughts and wishes” = everyone is suffering, impermanent, and selfless.
By realizing it, you too will have nirvana silence, and your mind will be quiet.
First, we should know that this is the main premise of this world.
However, by deeply understanding it, you will no longer have your own demands or wishes in this world, so you will be at ease.
Unfortunately, in this world, human rules don't come first.
Suffering is only born because humans demand their own rules for human convenience, and “normality” and “self” in this impermanent and selfless world. So, once you realize this sense of emptiness, you won't be imposing unreasonable human demands on this world, and you can just leave it up to us, so your mind will feel at ease.
In your case, you should realize that impermanence is not what you thought it would be like, that because of impermanence, there are no rules or regulations,
Let's be sure to be saved by reading this world that everyone, including myself, my children, and ancestors, was born without whichever parent they were born under, and that we should not have such wishes only if things don't go the way we want them to, so we can realize true silence and lead to nirvana (peace).
Thinking that children are pitiful, despising oneself, and treating children with that despicable expression or attitude makes both yourself and your child the most unhappy. It's just a one-sided way of looking at things; you're just trying to stick to it. Stopping that kind of negative euphoria and the tragic heroine syndrome for today only, absorbing mud from the past, using it as nutrients, and living without getting stained, like a lotus flower, is your daily rule for raising children and your family.
Please call us anytime if you have any problems.

Yu-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

That's right... in this world, there are overwhelmingly many things that don't make you think because there are so many things you can't choose from...

Of course, there's a good reason for this too. Most likely, in this world, there is nothing formed as an entity (something that doesn't change forever and is independent), so neither the things you choose or the things and things that are chosen exist as entities, and originally, there is nothing to choose or choose as an entity.

As a simple analogy, it's like something like an illusion chooses something like an illusion, and something like an illusion is selected by something like an illusion, but even so, the world in front of Yu's eyes is certainly unfolding, and there are things that exist, and that doesn't mean there's nothing at all.

Of course, these beings, things, and things do not exist as entities, and Buddhism thinks that they are formed and changed due to various “good fortune.”

There are several ways of thinking about luck, but I think it would be nice if you could first think about the “causal effect,” which is the easiest to understand.

Causality means that causes, that is, causes (direct factors) and relationships, in other words, conditions (indirect factors) always act on the results of all things and things.

Also, of course, there is an appropriate causal relationship with the three items mentioned by Yu-sama, and of course there is a causal relationship with Yu-sama's current results.

From here on, we can't do anything about past causal relationships, but future causal relationships depend on the future, and by making steady adjustments to something better, it is also possible to move towards better results.

However, if you are left falling into regret or self-loathing forever, and you are unable to make an effort to adjust a better causal relationship, there is a risk that you may not be able to escape that trouble and suffering forever.

First of all, I think the future will change in various ways just by making it possible to change the feeling that I am no good and that my children are pitiful and pitiful, and just being more positive and able to work on it with more fun.

I pray for good deeds.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Nice to meet you, Yu-san.

It's not a Buddhist theory, so it's just a personal thought...

People live by the law of cause and effect, and the purpose is to sublimate karma, and when you think about reincarnation and living in the present, I don't think it's strange that children are born by choosing their parents.

Academically speaking, there may be times when things don't fit together,
Everything in this world is made up of “cause = effect” and “relationship = reward.”

If I were to be born in this life with homework left over from my previous life that I couldn't surpass, I would choose my parents who would take me in the direction of that homework.

If you think that people who become parents were also born to do their homework left behind, they must have originally wanted the child they were born with.

Incidentally, I have no memory of my previous life, so it's natural to be confused, but in order to be given, there must be some kind of cause and effect, and there must be some kind of karma once you get it.

There is no choice but to do your best.

It is said that Yu-san is suffering from depression.
I think it's going to be tough, but I'm sure your child
He was born choosing you.

Aren't you happy?
Aren't you thankful for that?

I don't know what caused my depression, but I don't like everyone's words, attitudes, and feelings.
There are a lot of things that people don't understand, things don't go well, and you can't move.

But I'm sure every child needs you.

It's not a special you
It's not you who can do anything
It's not you who can do it well
It's not your mother
It's not you the kid wants

Just you

The real you

Because among so many married couples, among so many women,
I went out of my way to choose you.

Please cheer up.