Due to religious issues

I have a boyfriend that I've been in a relationship with for about six months now.
They are also thinking about getting married, and they greeted each other's parents for the future.
I was thinking that discussions about the ceremony and housing would continue unabated, but his parents got caught up in the religion of my parents' house, and they were fiercely opposed to marriage.
In order for his parents to approve my marriage, I wasn't particularly involved in religious activities, so I thought about leaving the membership, but for my parents, I just want them to stop unsubscribing. You don't have to do any activities.
That was the story.
I told his parents that they wouldn't do any activities in the future, and they wouldn't solicit them, etc., but they didn't really believe me, and it's reached a level where they didn't want to meet me anymore.
It is also said that they won't forgive you even if you get married and break up.
However, neither he nor I feel like giving up, and we want to persuade them somehow, but I don't think they'll accept it anymore.
I was so worried, stressed, and I even developed eczema all over my body.
It's just that I and him just want to have a happy time, but it's very painful that they don't acknowledge or understand it, and I'm really worried.

Please tell me what to do next time and how you feel about getting through it.
Thank you for your support.

4 Zen Responses

Marriage is a challenge for two

Being opposed to marriage is very painful, isn't it?
It's only when people around you bless you that you feel happy.

In my own way, I thought about it a lot, but...
I thought it was his parents who had an inappropriate opinion on this matter.
Both Maro and his parents can of course recognize the religion of his parents' house.
I think reconciliation will be difficult unless persuasion, or rather, his parents notice the mistake.

Even if I leave my parents' religion, nothing will change.
I don't think it's necessary to unsubscribe.

If you go to France, what is your religion? It seems that they will be asked.
There are many Japanese people who answer that they have no religion, but it seems that they are also ridiculed.
Faith is fundamental to human beings.

Marriage is ultimately an issue for both of them.
I feel that it is more beneficial to actively work on a “marriage” decided by two people without being affected by the current situation.
Time is limited.

Marriage is only possible when we acknowledge each other's family's religion.
He has recognized your religion, so I think the minimum issues have been cleared.

I hope his parents notice him as soon as possible.

Both parents have problems

Your parents should remove you for both of you, and his parents should acknowledge your denomination for both of you.
Both parents have problems.
Preconceptions, assumptions, public opinion, or something else probably make parents do that.
However, if the two of you have strong feelings, I don't know how many years it will take, but I think they will be able to overcome it.
Please don't be in a hurry and nurture the love between them.

Because of religion

We often suffer because of our religion.
I was bullied very badly when I was young. My grandfather (former chief priest) used to say, “That house is ◯◯, so I'm doing that to you,” but in the lower grades of elementary school, I couldn't understand it, and it was hard for me to understand.
As I found out later, it was a certain religious organization with intense activities.
Now I'm on good terms with my friends at that house.
It may take time, but please spend time with the two of you while cherishing your time.

It's about making up your mind.

Anyone is free to believe anything.
Not believing is also freedom.
You are also free to criticize people's beliefs.
On the other hand, listening is also free.
Principles and assertions cultivated over many years.
What's more, when it comes to faith, it's not easy
It would also be difficult to change it.
The point is what you and he choose.
You can't change people,
You guys can change.
you, your boyfriend,
Abandon your parents, abandon your faith,
A heart that shuns people's beliefs
You can throw it away.
Mutual parental support, etc.
I don't rely on it at all.
Even if I'm having trouble with tomorrow's food,
If two people drink water and get better,
You just have to decide.
Two people worked hard for years to get their lives back on track, and it's called a happy family of 2
Once you've built up a new sense of faith to protect,
No one will blame anyone anymore.
Rather, they often did their best together!
I will definitely recognize the two of them.

I don't need a wedding or honeymoon,
Now, the two of you should think about how to create a new life for the two of you.
Believing in each other is also
This is admirable faith.

I congratulate the two of you on their happiness,
I pray from the bottom of my heart to be happy
I'll tell you that.

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