I haven't had confidence in myself since I was little, and even when praised by people around me, I have doubts and can't take it honestly.
Therefore, I often become timid at work or in love, and I feel that I am losing money in my life.
If I had more confidence in myself, I would be able to act more, and that would expand the world... I think, how can I have confidence in myself?
It's about abandoning pride.
I have confidence that as long as I have confidence, I can do something with my own strength.
If I have confidence in my lack of confidence that I can't do anything alone, and that I can't do anything without the help of those around me, I can confidently rely on other powers and expand my world.
Being able to appreciate that there are people who praise me like this, and that I have friends who support me, is my greatest strength.
Listen to the outside world from inside my shell, and if I go outside, I can do something about it too! It's not about being brazen, it's about being crushed with the whole shell to your heart's content.
Try struggling first.
Beyond self-reflection, it's about shattering half-hearted confidence by being guessed by others that “you're no big deal.”
The world is big. Let's live by relying on them more and more, causing more and more trouble, and apologizing more and more.
And you also become a person who can be relied upon, bothered, and forgiven.
I believe in myself.
I look deeply at my own way of being and believe. That's where confidence will come from.
Confidence is not something you try to have. It means that it will naturally become like that as a result. I think that will happen when things look right.
You've probably always had a habit of evaluating yourself. How do you compare to people, and how do you compare to ideals? If you do that, it's natural that you'll lose your confidence. In the world of thought, one's own evaluation always drops.
When you touch things, don't evaluate them in black and white, good or bad, likes and dislikes, profit or loss. If it's curry, it's curry; if it's pasta, they accept the thing itself and don't evaluate it as tasty or bad.
First, check to see if you haven't done that. I think that kind of thought comes out in our lives.
If it had appeared, it would be before that thought came out. In other words, try to live your life the way it is when you touch things. When I eat curry, I get that flavor. There shouldn't be any ratings there. You might think there's no salvation in such a thing. However, when the Buddha realized this, he was able to find that by cherishing it, the way could be paved.
Please do it and take a look.
Chocolatemilk
Hello. I took a look.
What is “confidence”? This is an unfounded assumption. People in the world assume that confident people are confident. Conversely, people who don't have confidence assume that they don't have confidence, or there are cases where they believe in adult values due to the experience of not being recognized by parents or adults close to them during the process of growing up.
For example, my parents didn't recognize me. I wanted to spoil them, but they didn't let me spoil them. They didn't believe “you can leave it as it is.” So I came to believe in “values.” In that case, it's about accepting the weak feelings within yourself.
Buddhism teaches us to become aware of feelings that are obsessed with absolute values or expect too much. It's about questioning your own values. I thought I had no value, but the adults around me who said that were the only people who had anxiety in their hearts. That's why you “couldn't see” even though there were “a lot” of good things about you.
Buddhism is a practice. Be grateful for the “obvious” things around you. Even if you don't have that kind of feeling at first, just the shape is fine, so try saying thank you in your heart (aloud if possible). Anxiety is not satisfied by things that come from outside. I am not satisfied with the evaluation. You will be filled by filling up the bottom of your heart. Find yourself supported. Appreciate the air if you don't find one right away.
“I don't have confidence, but the Buddha is watching over me ~”
You don't have to think “I'm being timid, but I'm loved ~”, so try tweeting when you feel uneasy.
Do you know Dragon Quest? There are levels in the game. Starting today, it's fine to do something comfortable, say hello, pick up trash, etc., so when I went there, I thought, “Level up!” Please say that. If you fail, you won't level down. Please keep leveling up. I think before I knew it, I was in a state where I didn't think about confidence. I'm rooting for you.
Gassho