I want to meet you

Nice to meet you, Mika.

This is Nakamura Taishaku from Tokushima Prefecture, the temple of Dharma and ceiling paintings.

It is said that Mika's father has passed away. I really understand it.
Losing someone close to you is heavier than words. All of a sudden, the person who was there until yesterday is gone. They answered me when I talked to them, but I never got any replies back. The bereaved families can't hold back their grief over the reality that the water from the river can't be flushed up the river, and the reality that it won't come back anymore.

Mika seems to be feeling lonely with the ossuary in front of her.
I have a suggestion. I hope you can think about it after consulting with the bereaved family.
It is a store that sells Buddhist altars and Buddhist altar fittings, and products for in-hand memorial services (memorialization) are sold. There are various products, such as those in the shape of a pendant, the shape of an egg, and a container for storing the remains along with the photograph.
How about putting just a few bones in the memorial service container and keeping them as a watchman? Other bones can be buried in graves.

I think one way is to consider holding a memorial service until Mika's mind has been sorted out and the death of her father can be stored in her heart as a memory.

May Mika's heart be at peace.

I would like to talk about the Jodo Shinshu sect.

A Buddha called Amida Nyorai built a world called the Pure Land of Paradise in order to save all lives.
When we run out of lives, we go to the Pure Land of Paradise with the power of Amida Nyorai.
There, the person who went first will greet you as a Buddha.
So, breaking up after death isn't an eternal farewell.
We'll meet again in the Pure Land of Paradise.

We have worries, so we can't see the Buddha.
However, our appearance and thoughts are in full view from the Buddha.
Dad is definitely watching over Mika.

We can't meet right now.
However, a world where we can meet again is ready.

Dad loved it, didn't he?
I'm so sorry.

I also lost my mother when I was in my 30s.
My mother was also my only counselor, so I was quite shocked when my mother passed away.

However, since my mother passed away, I've never been able to cry in public.
While my older brother and sister shed tears and were sad, they saw their father acting in a dignified manner and put up with it without permission, saying “I can't even afford to cry.”
I wanted to see my mother every day, so I went to my parents' house every day until the 49th.
While praising the sutras, I desperately held back the fact that tears seemed to overflow every time I remembered my mother during her lifetime.

One day, while reciting the sutras in front of my mother's spirit as usual, I suddenly looked up at the portrait, and I noticed something.

“I don't know faces like this...”

Yes, no matter where I looked in my memory, I never saw the same face as my mother cut out in a photograph called a portrait.

When I closed my eyelids, there was a living, living mother's face.
There were many images of my mother that I had seen since I was young, the many words she said, and even the warmth of the hands she held.
The image of my mother, who showed me her life to the fullest, was alive and well inside me.

That night, when I returned home, I cried so loud that I cried loudly in front of the principal image of the main hall for the first time since my mother died.
But these were not tears of sorrow; they were tears of gratitude for the many teachings my mother left to me.

Mika, pain may be taking over her heart right now.
However, please try to remember your father's various appearances once again.

Didn't your father's eyes directed at you and your father's words to you tell you to live well?

Right now, the more I think about my dad, the saddest I may feel. It might be extra painful.

But if possible, I want you to cry to your heart's content by now.

Tears don't dry easily when spilled inward.
That's why I want my tears to be shed thoroughly and dried as soon as possible.

We want you and your family to take a new step as soon as possible.

The one who wants that more than anyone else must be none other than Dad...

Mika

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Everyone, breaking up with a loved one is painful, sad, and lonely.

The pain of separation from Aibetsu...

Until now, I have answered the following questions regarding the separation from Aibetsu.

“On separation from Aibetsu”
http://blog.livedoor.jp/hasunoha_kawaguchi/archives/cat_319854.html

Of course, it's something you can't overcome right away, and it's natural that you can't come to terms with. For that reason, in Buddhism, “Aibetsu no Haru” is also cited as one of our eight hardships (suffering, old suffering, suffering, death suffering, love separation, grudge, suffering, unrequited hardship, five suffering) as our representative suffering...

However, Shakyamuni taught the teaching of what should be done to eliminate the suffering of eight struggles represented by these. What is the basis for this is the teaching of the “Four Holy Traces” (suffering, gathering, destruction, path).

“... There is certainly suffering, but there is always a cause and condition (relationship) for that suffering, and by clearly determining the cause/condition (relationship), it is of course possible to eliminate that suffering as a result by solving that cause/condition (relationship), so I was able to explain the methods and means for that in a variety of skillful and convenient ways. ・・”

There is still a long way to go, but I think Mika will also be able to overcome those suffering as she learns and practices Buddhism little by little from now on. Let's work hard together.

Also, when you have trouble, there may still be a shortage of roles to replace your father, who always listened to me, but please feel free to continue to ask questions and consult with Hasunoha.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho