Thinking about the future is daunting
After 2 years of marriage, I got married from Shikoku to Tokai, and I got sick and ended up in the hospital.
It's an intractable disease that cannot be completely cured, but luckily now I'm in good physical condition, my physical strength has recovered, and I'm thinking of going outside and starting a part-time job.
Recently, there was land where I could have a house maker with my husband, so the story progressed all at once, but apparently, my husband was also thinking about building with 2 households.
My husband's parents' house is in the Tokyo area. My mother-in-law lives alone in her old house. My mother-in-law seems to be providing financial support for the building.
But I told my husband that it was absolutely impossible to have two households. We discussed it and decided not to split it into 2 families. However, my husband says he would like to take him in when his parents are too old to move.
Even though my older sister also lives in Tokyo, I can't rely on my older sister because she was separated due to a bad relationship with her mother.
From my point of view, they didn't seem to be on such bad terms.
I also have the risk of not knowing when my chronic illness will worsen.
In terms of personality, I feel that she is the complete opposite of my mother in law. I want to clean the kitchen of the house properly, and my mother-in-law is not good at tidying up. Since we're getting along, we can still get along well, but what happens when we get together? Should nursing care happen by any chance, I wonder if I can keep it.
My husband made it so that they didn't have to live together in 2 households, so I don't think it's okay for them to cheer up there, so I can't say anything about it.
Incidentally, I am the eldest daughter of 2 sisters. Unlike my husband's parents, my parents don't have room and can't afford to help them.
I don't know if children can do it.
Next time, I intend to return the financial aid little by little.
My husband says you don't have to think about it, but once you receive it, you can't afford not to take care of it, and it will be difficult to go back to your parents' house. I feel more comfortable if I return it little by little.
It made my biological parents very worried, and it hurts my heart to be told I'm sorry for not being able to provide any help. It's a time when I can finally enjoy life like a newlywed, but when I think about the various things that may happen in the future, my feelings sink and become heavy.