hasunoha

I want to be myself.

Previously, I asked myself the question of whether I was a man or a woman.

It doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman, just be yourself.
I told him so, and I've been living since then.

However, when they go out into society, men and women are often separated, and I feel sad every time.

You must write your gender on official documents and small questionnaires.
If it's something I can avoid, I'll avoid it.
However, even if you want to avoid it, the world is full of things you can't avoid.

I am myself.
Even if I think so, the world doesn't make me think so.

she's not a woman. he's not even a man.

There are also various sexual illnesses,
As far as I know, nothing applies to me.

Please give me some advice so I can think in a positive direction.

4 Zen Responses

Above all else, acknowledge yourself.

I don't know if that would be an answer, but I don't feel like it's something I can do about it because of my way of thinking.
For example, your skin color is darker than others. Let's say people around you say something like this because of that. However, no matter how you think about it, the facts don't change.

No matter how they are divided by people, they are others after all. It's not that I don't like it because they are divided into men and women, and I think not being able to recognize who I am now is a problem.
I don't want you to hate yourself even if you don't like yourself. Please think about accepting who you are now, such as seeing a specialist doctor once.

There must be a lot of people who are worried about the same thing

Nice to meet you, Tama-san.
This is Nakamura Taishaku from Tokushima Prefecture, the temple of Dharma and ceiling paintings.

Tama-san said, “It's not a woman. He's not even a man.” Since you feel that, I think you are worried about how you perceive your own sexuality. Maybe it corresponds to LGBT (sexual minority).

I can't say anything clear, but it seems that there are not a few people who are worried about things similar to Tama-san. Incidentally, LGBT people make up about 5% of the population, and it seems that there are over 2 million people in Japan.
They have painful feelings about gender, and it seems that there are times when they fall into the dark of deep worries because of that.

There is a place where people with the same problems can discuss, including basic knowledge such as rainbow diversity. Take a look, and if you feel that your senses are close to Tama-san, why not discuss your concerns?

Use it

Nice to meet you, Tama-san.

I read the Q&A from before.

Certainly, if you try to take either a man or a woman, I think the world feels inconvenient in various situations.

I also know several people with gender identity disorder, but it seems that they are being forced to experience considerable inconvenience precisely because they can only have one or the other.

Having chosen one or the other, they can only circle the gender column on the document exactly the opposite.
In particular, it seems that more feminine men than masculine women are not accepted by people of the same sex and are being forced to face difficulties.

If you ask, Tama-san, both men and women seem to feel it.

It might be rude to say it this way, but instead of making being a woman a pain, why don't you find value in yourself who can stand in both positions instead of taking being a man as a contradiction?

As a man, I can only imagine how women feel.
Men in the world are probably like that too.
Women are good too.

But that's not the case with Tama-san.
Born as a woman, she has been treated as a woman.
That's why you should understand women who can only be felt in women rather than men.
However, they also have a sense of being a man if they are not women

This means that even if Tama-san can't become one of them,
Doesn't that mean you can be either one?

I feel that admitting both is more honest for Tama-san than denying either one.

If you can understand both feelings, even if not completely,
It's a special ability that only Tama-san has.

You should be able to live like a man even if you're not recognized as a man,
On top of that, places that can be used as women should be used without any inconvenience in the world.

If you think about it with the words “overcome” or “be convinced,” it becomes extra painful.

This feels like taking advantage of the world and “using” it, so why don't you honestly use both of you that you have?

I'm sure you'll be a good counselor for both women and men.

Me and it are just like that

In the Zen sect, there is a commandment called the Immortal Commandment.
Generally, it means don't indulge in indulgent acts or indulgent things,
Actually, deep down, this commandment is not simply about not doing sexual things.
It is only when you forget your gender and live that you have fulfilled the commandments of immorality.
It means don't create a gap between men and women.
Of course, physically, there are cases for men and women.
However, in Buddhism, having a separation or view between being a man and being a woman is a way of life centered on discernment, so such a way of life is a state of nibbling on the fruit of wisdom being banished from paradise in Christ.
I can't see the respondent's face or appearance, and some of the respondents have false names or lies. Well, this is an answer regardless of gender.
Well, Tama-san must have forgotten how old she is now.
I must have forgotten what prefecture they are from.
You must have forgotten your eyes while looking at things. You must have forgotten your ears too. Also, they must have forgotten their gender.
When you “can't stand up” your thoughts and opinions, if there are no good or bad things, no happiness or misfortune, even your age and gender are ruined.
This kind of situation is called a state of not being bound by thoughts, or called carelessness.
If you say mindlessness, it smells like Zen, so you might think it's difficult, but it's simply a state when the mind that separates you between things and genres isn't working.
Green beans are just like that at that time.
Try living your life as if you were like this without saying “this is it” too much. It's just right for me to forget who I am.
If you forget yourself, the separation between the outside world will simply become that kind of thing and not something that will make you suffer separately.
That's it.