I lost my daughter who was 27 days old

Hiro-sama
Nice to meet you, my name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an, thank you for your support.

It is said that she lost a young lady who was born into this world less than a month ago. I know you are in the midst of unspeakable sorrow. I would simply like to express my sincere condolences.

Is it good or bad for a young lady to split her bones?
Will she be reborn?
What path will the deceased take?

I don't think any of these questions have clear answers.
If you ask the 10 hasunoha monks, you might get 10 responses.

On top of that, what I think is that the late young lady became a Buddha and asked important questions to people with whom she had relationships.

Losing a child or grandchild is called an “reverse relationship.” Losing a grandparent or parent is hard and sad, but it's not inseparable from order.
However, when a generation younger than myself passes away, it causes even deeper sorrow. But I think the deeper that grief, the stronger the ability to ask questions to those left behind.

I'm not saying that right away. Whether it's 1 month later, 5 years from now, or 30 years from now, when the death of her precious daughter becomes an important source of awareness for Hiro-san, I think it can be said that she is living her life as a Buddha.

I'll tell you one song.
“Tell me about the ephemeral body in the world of dreams
Teach me, the child who returns is good knowledge”

Thank you for your hard work. Hiro-san
It's been a lot of trouble this time
I understand your feelings

Let me state my thoughts

What I met in this world as your daughter
That's a big relationship
I'm sure it had a lot of meanings
I think we'll be able to meet again even if we're not in this world because we have a relationship

There are many ways to go after passing away
I think I'll be reborn
Now I'm a Buddha, and I think I'm telling you about this world in that world

Also, about the question
You'll never be ashamed
It's such a place
Please listen to various questions

Gassho

We offer our deepest condolences.
While I'm sad, it's hard to tell you, but I hope you can be even a little positive, so I'm going to tell you about it.
At the funeral that I attended, there was a child who passed away after half a year in her mother's tummy.
Also, there were children who died soon after they were born.
Naturally, the mother was not attending the funeral while she was in the hospital.
Everyone in attendance at the venue, including the funeral mentor, was in tears while their mother wasn't there.
Everyone waited impatiently, thought of a name they wanted to give, and it was really heartbreaking, and everyone felt the same way and burst into tears.
Despite being sad, the lives of children who had just been born showed the true fragility and preciousness of life to each person at the venue.
At the birth of life, everyone felt the preciousness of life, including themselves, that life and death went back to back to the point where life and death went back to back...
It is good to ask children who have passed away to be reincarnated, but having them have a unique sense of respect is a proper memorial service.
There is no substitute for the existence of life, even if it is the same organism.
Even if they are twins or triplets, each is unique, and there is no replacement.
That's why life is precious.
Therefore, hoping for reincarnation is sad for her right now.
Please properly face her inherent dignity of life, and respect the dignity of a child who existed only one person in the entire universe, not reincarnation, but as a life! is the number one memorial service that makes her most happy.
By doing so, you can meet her right now in your heart.
Of course, your next child will also be desired and gifted by her.
By showing respect, respect, admiration, and memorial services for Issei, he shows guidance as an influence as a Buddha who has lived even though he has not appeared in the future.
On the 49th, the memorial service is to let them go.
The first anniversary is the first birthday as a Buddha, and the third anniversary is the third birthday.
It is a small, authentic Buddha who conveyed the importance, dignity, impermanence, and mercy of life.
I hope you will continue to watch over Hiro-sama. Gassho

Hiro-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

I'm guessing that the 49th anniversary of his death has already come to an end.

I also had the experience of a child having a miscarriage, and I really suffered and worried at that time.

Along with being the father of that child, as a monk, if I didn't send that child well... my voice trembled when reciting sutras at the memorial service in front of Mizuko Jizoson, and I couldn't stop my tears unwittingly...

After that, it probably took about 5 months for the couple to get back on their feet... due to the pregnancy of their next child (eldest son), to be honest, both the couple were happy, “Oh, maybe that child has come back,” and they had various anxieties, but they managed to overcome them and were born safely.

On the 24th of every month, the memorial service for that child continues along with the regular water child care, and even if they didn't come back, I'm sure they were able to get a good relationship with the Buddha and the Bodhisattva through the guidance of the Buddha and the Bodhisattva, and they are on good terms.

It is said that the next destination for those who have passed away will be decided between three weeks at the earliest and seven weeks (49 days) at the longest.

Of course, if you are a member of the Nichiren sect, it would be best to aim for enlightenment and nirvana under Shakyamuni through a pilgrimage to the Pure Land of Ryozen, and even if there is Mizuko, even if she has received an award or guidance, or even if there is a Mizuko who has lost her way in Sai no Kawara because she has no admonition or guidance, and no memorial service, I think Jizo Bosatsu will surely be guided at that time.

Also, I know that even if the cause of being born as a person still remains, or if you are encouraged to practice under the Buddha or Bodhisattva, you may be able to return to this world or be reborn if you work a little harder to practice in the human way.

If you do that, you may even be able to meet that child who has been reborn again.

Maybe that's the case with the next child, and maybe the other kids. If I can feel that kind of feeling, even if it's another child, if I think... it will lead to feelings of concern, kindness, and kindness for everyone, I think that would be precious and appreciated.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho