About marriage

About 4 months ago, I had no desire to get married, and I was asked a question saying, “Please have a relationship with a view to marriage,” and I was confused.

After that, I had a relationship with that man, and strangely enough, I began to think that it wouldn't be bad to spend the whole time with this person.

My parents also like him, and he is often invited to our family's meals.
However, I've never met his parents.
His parents' house is a far away place that can only be reached by using a bullet train or an airplane.
If I often invite him to my parents' house without being able to say hello to his parents' house, I'm worried that the parents over there won't think well.

Now, he's back at his parents' house for New Year's holidays, and he said on LINE that he was told, “Go home with my girlfriend for Golden Week,” and he was brought a souvenir for me.
When it comes to the next Golden Week, my mind isn't ready yet, and I'm frightened.
But that doesn't mean I won't go forever...
After all, do you think I should go to his parents' house for the next Golden Week?

4 Zen Responses

You'll know if you go

Wouldn't it be nice to go there ^ ^
If you go, I think you'll understand. You don't need to prepare yourself. Actually, you've been in a relationship, and it's different from what you thought, and even if you imagine it before you go, there's a completely different reality from that. The relationship continued until that point, and if the relationship deepened, I should go, and until then it would be different. Is this a farewell? I don't want to think like that ^ ^
For now, for now, wouldn't it be better to assume that I'm going?

You don't understand the fun or difficulty of sports even before you do it, do you?

Please see you

I read it. After all, you should go there. It's a bad way to say it, but if you look at your parents, you can understand children. Not a few different children's personalities, sense of life, and values are greatly involved depending on the parent-child relationship.
There must be something that you will feel in a variety of ways by meeting them in person.
You probably won't know what the consequences will be, but it's not for nothing.

It's going to have a huge impact on your life.

Please be sure to meet them early.

I sincerely pray that everyone will understand each other and have a deep relationship in the future.

Let's follow the rules.

I read it.
First of all, don't you think it's good that they only let Aya's parents meet without saying hello to his parents' house? That being said, of course, there is also the idea that it is polite, but for now, if it means that you go back home with your girlfriend at Golden Week and let her bring a souvenir, you probably don't feel bad about it. Rather, the feeling of blessing is greater, and I think it's a feeling that I want to meet my son's girlfriend who is thinking about getting married.
After that, I think it's Aya's feelings.
I also think there is a possibility that new feelings will sprout again if I go there. I think there are a lot of things I feel like the parents over there are good feelings, such as that they seem to be able to get along well even if they get married, or that they are kind of cozy.
Strangely enough, I also felt like it would be okay to stay with him, so the relationship is not something you can understand in advance where the relationship is rolling and how it will develop in the future.
That depends on the “relationship.”
There is a little time until Golden Week. If anything, it might be a good idea to tell him the feeling that he might not be able to decide everything right away, even if he went to his parents' house to say hello.
Please make your decision calmly.
If both parents are in a blessed mood, it may be a relationship that your ancestors also accepted.
And marriage is never a goal. I myself am keenly aware that a good relationship between husband and wife is “something to be created.”
FYI.

You'd better go.

Hi, thank you so much for your question. After all, I have the same opinion as the other boys, but I think it would be better to go through the term once-in-a-lifetime meeting, but it's up to that time to decide whether you like it or not after going to his parents' house, but I want them to do their best by valuing their relationships. Gassho

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