I'm about to get a flat head

I live with my wife.
I wasn't making children, and I was planning my future life so I could save money and live as it is.
However, after 3 years of marriage, they had a baby.

After suffering for both of them, they are about to have an abortion.
My wife is surprisingly easy (probably pretending)
While there are couples who want children but don't have them, I often think that they are God's failure that the world doesn't need.

There were a lot of things I had to be careful about, such as contraception.
It was all over, but let your guard down.
Reality cannot be changed.

The child I had with my ex-wife is extremely cute.
While knowing that, I made this decision.
Akan Akan Akan Akan

It might be sweet.
It might be sweet.
But this is my honest feeling.
Please monks, could you lead this imperfect human into the world of Buddha?

3 Zen Responses

If you leave it up to nature...

Hello. My name is Fujinami from the Jodo Shinshu.
It is said that they have had a child. That is something I appreciate very much.
If you have children, are there any circumstances that are definitively troublesome in terms of life?
Things that have passed, such as contraception, etc. will not go back to normal, so there would be no point in saying that now. What are you going to do now? I saw that the couple were hesitant to come to a conclusion when they were brought here for a consultation.
I think so. The one I was given was probably a good match, so why don't you leave it up to nature. I don't think you can go wrong. If it really didn't work, it would have been extremely difficult for a relationship to be connected here, and the people who came here to talk about it were probably because they were happy about the children that were given to them by the Buddha and the Bodhisattva...

The gift is a treasure

Unless there's a reason why you can't raise them much, it's not a plan, but it's a gift, so why don't you switch your mind and nurture them with care.

I have kids too. When I think about those children, I can't proceed with having an abortion. However, even though I can't say that you should always give birth, there is a lot of love you can get from children. It is also true that once a child is born, it won't be a relationship like a lover, but if two people go to raise children, they are 3 times happier.
I want them to have a good and thorough discussion.

Please have a thorough discussion with your husband and wife

Giving birth to and raising a child is extremely difficult financially, mentally, and physically. Also, childbirth is dangerous, and abortions are also dangerous, as there was an accident where a pregnant woman died last year.
So we can't say which one we should do.
The two of you have no choice but to face each other firmly, make up your mind, and come to a conclusion.

Note that children are not personal property of the two of you. It is public, and it belongs to the whole country. If you become a good adult, you will support your country and society. Without that kind of support, would your future be secure just by saving money? Don't forget that.

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