It's Hard to Raise Children Just Because They Get Angry at Kids

For example, Enma-sama and Ofu-sama have fearful faces, but this is to admonish humans not to do bad things.

It's not always possible to smile when it comes to raising children.

Sometimes it is also necessary to show an angry expression.
But please don't fill your heart with anger.

MOMO-sama
As Hiroboshi Inoue said, it is important to sometimes get angry when practicing discipline in order to cultivate various morals and ethics while raising children. And it's also for future kids. It is important to do this so that we can spend our time in society in a firm moral and ethical manner so as not to walk the wrong path in our future lives.
However, discipline due to anger can also have bad consequences depending on the time and circumstances. It is also important to determine when to teach as gently as possible and when to administer harshly, according to the child's growing ability. For example, we must determine the child's degree of growth and sense so that there is no choice but to get angry by yelling and slapping at children who are only a few months old, saying “don't turn over because it's dangerous.”
Also, it is necessary to be very careful that anger at children relieves one's own stress and does not fall into anger due to one's own convenience or complacency. This can eventually lead to abuse and neglect. That's why Hiroboshi Inoue said, “Don't fill your heart with anger.”
With compassion and wisdom, it is possible to walk properly in Buddhism. If mercy is a teaching of kindness, then wisdom is a teaching of harshness. I think it is important to proceed with child-rearing in a well-balanced, unbiased manner, and with both kindness and rigor. I pray for the healthy growth of MOMO's children.
Gassho

MOMO

Nice to meet you.
I would like to express my opinion on the question.

I appreciate the hardships of raising children every day.
Sometimes it's important to get angry.
That too is a human being.
Be honest with your feelings.
Then, let's think about ways to relieve stress, etc.
Get help from those around you and free yourself from everyday life.

In particular, the last sentence is “I don't want to get angry, I just want to smile all the time.”
That feeling is important.
If you have that kind of heart, I think I'll go down that path.
People move forward with what they think and what they imagine.

Be sure to cherish that feeling forever. Gassho

We also have a two-year-old child.
It's a so-called bad season, and no matter what you recommend, people don't like it.
At first, I was swayed by it.

A child's attitude of disgust, denial, and rejection is exhausting, isn't it?
Just as I was able to express myself only by crying when I was a baby, I'm still around two years old, and I guess I can only answer everything with NO except the one thing I really want to do.

There's one point here.
There's only one thing I want to do.
If they understand that, both mom and dad can become good understanding people for children, saying, “Oh, you understand.” I think it's good to let them think that they are simply limited in what they want to do.

There are times when I say bad times like bad years or demon 2 years old, etc., but that makes me feel sorry for kids.
Anyway, children are testing whether their mom will never betray them and whether they really love them.
You have to keep being a gas station clerk of love until your bucket of love is filled with gasoline of love and your sense of security is satisfied. This is because gasoline for children's love quickly becomes empty.

Being angry is the energy of anger, and it has a bad effect on people living with you, your children, and yourself.
When you're making a fuss and want to get angry, let's basically treat the only thing you want to do, what you want to do, gently, from a child's point of view, and treat your husband so that he can be healed by that voice.
Almost 80% of them say pour in mom's love oil.

Maybe what I want to do is sit quietly next to my mom.
Sometimes, you just want them to leave you alone, but maybe you want them to stay by your side.
is this really it? The answers are often so surprising that I think, so 99 out of 100 are landmines, so I think it's a good idea to be as gentle and gentle as possible and let them continue what they are obsessed with right now.
Really, it's easier for the child to choose only that one book they want to do at that time, let them do it, and don't interfere too much.
Of course, when you have something dangerous, such as scissors or a lighter, you scold them to your heart's content, and then hug them while you're important, right? It teaches them so that they can say “hi” properly.