It drags on events from years ago

Nice to meet you.
The haze won't clear up, so I'd like to discuss it with you.

I'm going to drag on past events forever.
It also doesn't mean that my gaffe is dragging on for a few days; it feels like events from a few years ago have been dragging on for a long time.

Because of my laid-back personality, I always feel that others dislike me easily.
Probably because of that, I was often distanced, cut ties, and abused again at school and at work.
These experiences of being “disliked” and “being cut off from relationships” drag on forever, and anger builds up against the other person every time I remember them.

I don't think it's very popular either.
However, there are times when I cannot control my anger and sadness because I remember people from the past who hated me every day.

How can I spend my time without having past experiences rooted in them?
We look forward to hearing from you.

2 Zen Responses

What is the cause

I read it. What is the cause of the anger and sadness you have built up deep in your heart?
When things don't go the way they want, people get stuck in their hearts and turn into anger, resentment, and sadness towards others.
And you're going to make yourself suffer.
It's the unbearable struggle of Buddhist interpretations.
Things are always correlated, so your thoughts are also caused by your own relationships with various things.
Therefore, it is also an emotion created as a result of yourself directing your own words and actions.

The world certainly exists as if everything is unreasonable. There are many times when people wonder why this is happening.
However, first of all, I think that facing one's own heart sincerely and maintaining a humble attitude towards things and people is a way of life that is not burdensome to oneself.
Please relax, rest, and live your life with peace of mind little by little.
By doing so, the people and the world around you will expand and begin to change.
I sincerely pray that your future will unfold brightly and that you will grow healthily.

Even if the past doesn't change, the way we look at the past will change

When humans are moving

There are relationships that stick together, and there are relationships that fall apart.

If you have a relationship with someone you like (love separation),

There are also relationships where you have to meet people you don't like. (Resentment causes bitterness)

It's painful if you get carried away by people you don't like, but have those people already left? How long have you been clinging to it? You don't have to dwell on that anymore.

However, since the past won't go away, there will be times when you remember it. If you still have a grudge against that grudge against the past, that grudge won't go away.

In this world
By envy
What does it mean to calm down
Absolutely impossible
Envy is envy
It calms down by throwing it away
This is an eternal truth. from “Words of Truth” 5

These are Buddha's words of truth.

Can't we forgive anymore? Let's cherish the relationship in front of us over past relationships that have separated us. There are important people around you right now, right? If we can cherish that relationship, we will be able to reassess the past after it is because we had a relationship in the past.

“Now” and “from now on” are important.

I don't think “saying things clearly” is a bad thing. I think the way you say and communicate will change even if you think about the other person, whether you just clearly clash your own opinions or clearly say what you need to say in your thoughts.
Your past experiences aren't in vain either, are they? I was able to study for people who had left.

Even if the facts of the past do not change, the way you look at the past will change depending on your steps “now” and “in the future.”

Let go of envy, accept the present, and make use of it in the future! There is nothing but practice and appreciation.

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