An important friend left

It's been 10 years since we've known each other. I have a friend of the same age that I've been in a close relationship with since 8 years ago. Since they didn't become close through children, there is no point of contact between children, and it's not like what is called a mom's friend in the world.
Since we became close, we have shared our problems with each other, just like sisters.
We were close enough to rush right away if something happened to each other.
Over the past few years, she has become addicted to MLM. I now take expensive supplements every day, buy daily necessities, and even electrical appliances. It's pretty expensive. I shared my concerns with her, who conveyed the goodness of the product as if she had been brainwashed, with stories I read in the book.
Then, I was shocked that they didn't trust me, and I was contacted at a later date because I didn't want to meet you and that I wanted to keep my distance. What I thought of her and said didn't seem to be conveyed. I'm not saying anything that denies her personality.
To her, I trust you. I told them I'd been waiting a long time, but they said please give me some time.
To me, she is an important friend. I'm also worried about continuing to take supplements every day.
Will this just end our friendship? It seemed like a gaping hole had opened up in my heart.

5 Zen Responses

Dare to be untitled

Tama-chan, I read the questions and answers.
I think I said the words because I was worried and had a lot of trouble thinking about my friend.
Right now, I'm writing this sentence with the same feeling as Tama-chan.
I think not being able to get in touch with you will increase your worries, but as a monk, one thing I can say is why don't you pray for your partner?
The nature of the Buddha is inherent in our souls.
The Buddha's properties are not individual and closed; they are connected through the Buddha.
So, I can feel your pain, and I think Tama-chan's thoughts can be understood by the other person.
But it won't be soon. It's different if your partner feels the same way as Tama-chan, but I think it's still different now, so why not put your hands together first so you can talk to the other person?
If you don't have a place to put your hands together, keep your mind at home and put your hands together.
I'm sure the answers to my prayers will come back even if it takes time. I'll put my hands together and pray for you. Please don't give up.

People don't notice until they hit their heads

Hello, Tama-chan.

There are actually quite a few issues with Tama-chan's story.

In the world, it's commonly called MLM, but not all of them are bad.
However, it seems that there are many people who have fallen into the feeling of a kind of cult religion and think that they can only find good things there.
That's why I recommend it to people I'm particularly close to.
From her point of view, it was probably because she was close that she wanted “something good” for you.
At that point, I fell out of touch with her.

I think it would be better to wait some time now.
Please keep in mind for her even when you're away.

If you're an important person to her, you'll notice when your current fever cools down.

If you can't understand her right now, it will be difficult for her to understand you too.

If you can understand her condition, please keep an eye on her now.

For now, we'll have no choice but to wait

Tama-chan

Your thoughts were conveyed to your precious friend, weren't you?
I'm sure those words are left somewhere in my heart. You may not understand the meaning of that word right now,
There will surely come a time when you will calm down and understand.

I'm sure that friend was worried because he wanted to rely on something. If they notice something and come back to you, I think all you have to do is give them a warm welcome.

Tama-chan said, “I trust you. Those words that conveyed “I've been waiting so long” may one day be a very powerful emotional support.
Please wait for them now.

May the day come when she wakes up as soon as possible...

To Tama-chan

I'm sorry for your heartache.

It's not a question of having bad friends or you're not bad
Seems like the relationship sandwiched between them (MLM) is bad.

Is she in MLM now? Just wait for them to wake up from
No matter what I say to my current girlfriend, I don't think she's listening.

If the time comes for her to wake up from MLM,
Please accept it with an open mind.

I'll keep you as a friend

When I was a student, the girlfriend I had been in a relationship with contacted me for the first time in a long time, and when I was expecting it, it was a solicitation for MLM or pyramid schemes. I am Tange, a multi-monk who observed the impermanence of the world and solidified the will of the monk, and both sorrow, joy, and misery. [crying]

Your friend is in a state of believing in a bad story, isn't he?
I don't think I'll be able to get out of it for a while.
However, please work on them regularly. The internet is full of information about MLM methods and victims.
I'll print it out and send it to you on a regular basis.
Damn it, even if you try to sell that product to your friends, they'll probably be rejected, so you'll have no choice but to lose a certain amount of money with your friends and wake up being soothed by people around you.
Please be my friend even then.
I think it would be important to ask her how she became addicted to that kind of thing.

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