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A life of bankruptcy and restructuring

Nice to meet you. This is my 51-year-old father.
The company I worked for 20 years went bankrupt, and the next company was also restructuring due to the Lehman shock
Also, the next company was restructured due to business contraction. I am currently living with unemployment insurance.
My wife also works and gets help, but I'm sure she'll be restructured again in a few years...
I'm in the mood to give up on my job search. Suicides in what is said to be a rich Japan
It is calculated that 30,000 people die every year, or 1 person dies every 15 minutes, and I am among them
I also think it's okay if I go in.
From the chair you do the interview, sit on the chair you'll be doing, and your life should be like this
Otherwise, I wonder how many times I drank bitter alcohol... But it's no good if it stays this way
I know that it is a man's duty to work and support children
Mentally, I don't think I'll actively look for a job. Until now in semiconductor-related matters
I've been working, but they won't hire me at this age anymore.
However, it is also difficult to search for jobs in different fields. I don't like myself
Please give me some advice to get out of this situation.

6 Zen Responses

It's a tough life, isn't it?

It's a tough life from bankruptcy, restructuring, and restructuring.
Then it's unavoidable that life would be disgusting.

Do you know the term prenatal memory?
It seems that young children still have memories from before they were born.
It seems that babies are born by choosing which mother they will be born to.
I looked down from the gap above the clouds and wondered which mom seemed kind.
And it seems that if you choose this mother, she will also choose what kind of life you will have.
I've learned this kind of thing in my previous life, so now I want to learn this kind of thing.
At that time, God tells me that if you choose this mother, your life will be like this,
It seems that they are born with the understanding that that is fine.
Then choose a slightly more difficult life than the last one.
However, I think my life will be like this when I'm born
It seems that they forget everything God has taught them.
I don't think it's strange at all when you think about reincarnation.

I thought it was just like some kind of video game.
The game also has various levels, starting with an easy stage.
If you clear it, you'll move on to the next difficult stage.
Then, as you get used to it, you move on to more and more difficult stages.
Not every stage can be completed in one go.
I failed over and over again, and then finally cleared it.
The more mistakes you make, the greater your sense of accomplishment when you clear them.
Have you ever experienced such a thing?

This game called Life was also chosen by you.
Will you clear this stage or retire?
That's your life, too.
It's the life you chose.

I've probably cleared all of these games called life,
I'm relieved that I don't want this game
Is it Buddha or Christ?

People from the olden days said it too.
What has 2 degrees is 3 degrees. Life turns seven turns and eight wakes up.
These words are from our ancestors who experienced something similar to you
Aren't those words left for you?

“Enjin: Subtlety, Encounter, Sacred Cause”

Hiro Kichi-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

As I look back on my life so far, I'm certainly in the midst of an unbearable predicament right now. Of course, I know that the lives we have received, the days we have been protected and raised with great love, and the many relationships and blessings we have received up until now have also happened in various ways.

Under such circumstances, this may certainly be a difficult time, but I also think that in this relationship, it is possible to take a short break and take a break, and think that we have been given an opportunity to heal the hardships and hardships up until now.

It may be easy to immediately change your mind and not feel like a new job or workplace, but I think it would be nice if you could take this opportunity to slowly think about the future while looking back on the world, life, and society even from a slightly different perspective. As one of them, for example, actively participating in volunteering, community service, charitable activities, etc., I know several familiar examples where the way of thinking up until now completely changed, and people were able to spend their lives meaningfully after that. I was told about a typical example of “Enjin wa Suki Taiseijin,” where good relationships continue to give birth to good relationships.

Of course, when it comes to living and raising children, I think there are times when people get impatient, feel burdened, and have various regrets and resentments.

You may not be able to quickly get a job that is worth spending or living in that you are satisfied with. However, I think it is one thing that will take this opportunity to test various things. If there is a job offer you are interested in in job safety, you may be able to challenge yourself positively, even in a different field, and unexpectedly find fun and fun in it. Of course, if it becomes impossible, I think it is important to quit easily and try again, and to accumulate good causes (relationships) little by little to produce good results, in the spirit of “seven turns eight events,” which Mizuki Nobushin also mentioned.

I know that if you are looking for a good relationship, you will definitely meet a good match. I think it will change drastically from now on depending on how we move towards a good relationship. I pray that you will have a good relationship.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Will there be delicious sake someday

Even if you work hard, it's painful that it isn't reflected in the results. I think it's unavoidable that anyone would hate it. If it were 20 years ago, even people who were doing it sloppily would have been unable to do anything when considering that their salaries continued to rise every year.
If Hirokichi gets a semiconductor-related job, there's nothing better than that, but if you understand “why semiconductor-related,” I think one way is to search for a job that can realize that answer. “Because my salary is good,” “because I'm used to it,” “because I have connections,” etc.

If it were to support a family, there are probably other options, and if you want to contribute to society, I think there are other options. As for me, my father changed jobs countless times. When I was a kid, I sometimes had a hard time not being able to say properly even when my friends asked me about my parents' work. However, there were children who did not have fathers, and there were also children who had parents who were prone to illness. Meanwhile, I wasn't unhappy just because I had a healthy father.

I don't know how old Hirokichi's children are, but I'm sure the day will come when I feel “thankful” just because their father is healthy. And by that time, you may be able to enjoy delicious, unbitter alcoholic beverages with your kids.

PostScript
At this time, think of it as a good opportunity to improve physical strength, drink alcohol in moderation, train your body, climb Mount Everest at age 81, and live together until age 117. I hope you will eventually find a good job.

Hiro Kichi-sama.

Please feel sorry for your mind and body for a while, just as your mentors are saying it to you.
Your current feelings seem impatient.
I recommend taking a quick bird's-eye view of yourself.
If you do, you'll definitely be able to see the road.

Let's take a break.

Positive thinking during restructuring

My temple offers a Zen Plus Thinking course at the end of the month.
The following are prescriptions for moving forward without causing Hiroyoshi's current situation to move forward or backwards even a little, not falling into negative thinking, not becoming depressed, or stagnating.

※Note
“Read it at least 7 times”
“Please read it by chewing it down to your own words”

1 [Approval] I was able to reach the age of 51 for the time being, so that should be highly appreciated. Anyway, that was good, wasn't it?
2 [Processification] My life isn't over yet, and this is a passing point. Think of it as being repaired for a better life.
3 [Acquire] There was a lot to learn.
There are specialized techniques, skills, and things that only I know.
The art of passing the world, talking skills, listening, smiles, coordination, humanity, insensitivity, sensitivity...
Yes, they haven't been lost from my hands yet!
4 [Encounters] I've had a lot of encounters = I have connections and connections I can use = I can start over, I can start over. Yes, if it were that person...
5 [Give Up/Turn Around] I lost everything I lost, but I'm glad it couldn't get any worse. On the other hand, there is also a part where I was freed from bad worries and stress.
6 [Thanks] I'm so thankful that I can live in Japan for the time being with unemployment insurance. Thanks to my wife, thank you.
7 [Action] Take immediate action. Let them wear an umbrella when it rains, wear light clothing when it gets hot, and rest if they catch a cold.
If there's a fire, call 119. If I get laid off... get a job again. Yes, that's right, why don't you get a job again?

A sense of loss or end is prohibited in life.
You should still be able to start over.
If you feel like you are being controlled by your own negative thoughts, please reread it over and over again.
If it were you, I'm sure you could start over! I'm rooting for you.
Tange Kakumoto Gassho

Hello Hirokichi.

There is a Jewish fable called “The Tree of Sorrow.”
This fable says that the first place a person arrives at after death is under a large tree at the entrance to heaven.
Then an angel tells you. I wrote a lot of sorrow in my life that I followed during my lifetime, so I thought I'd tie it to a big tree branch...

You wrote that sorrow, so I tied it to a tree branch.

Next, the angel tells the deceased to read the details of someone else's grief.
A long, exciting story. You'll probably spend days reading people's stories.

Then, when the dead finished reading, an angel appeared again and said:

“Choose the life you want to live in the next life from among the grief of these many dead”

If you think about the meaning of angel words, do you recommend choosing a “life with less sorrow”? However, in the end, the soul of every dead person will choose their own life again.

I think the dead remember the past, remember the sorrow of their lives from time to time, and surely think about the meaning.
And life means it's hard. Furthermore, it means that you yourself will choose to experience the same pain again.
From this fable, I wonder if I'm watching the part of salvation and light in suffering. What do you think, Hirokichi?