Is it a punishment for not having children?

It's painful to lose the meaning of life even though the child's prayers have been swollen. Visiting Buddhist altars and graves is fine even after Honey Joe's feelings have been sorted out, so please keep it to a minimum. punishment for not giving birth? It's not there. The Buddha does not punish.

If you're 24 years older, your husband is probably about 70 to 80 years old. I imagine how happy they would be to have grandchildren. Maybe I feel like Honey Joe's feelings have been left behind. If that's the case, since they're a married couple, I think it's okay to complain and be spoiled once in a while.

I think there are still many more roles. Of course, it's up to Honey Joe to decide whether to do that or not. I personally would be happy if you could aim for a cool and cute grandmother when you feel like that.

Congratulations, Honey Joe, to hear that your grandson was born.

Honey Joe seems to be happy that her grandson was born, but I think Honey Joe's dignity is threatened by her husband's words and actions at that time.
“Because your job is over!” Maybe it's not your ancestors' words, but your husband's words.

There's one thing that made me wonder.
When I looked back on my family, the blood connection with my family wasn't the most important thing.
This is because in order to build a family, it is impossible without a partner who is not related by blood.

Also, it is a workshop to simulate one's own death called “Death Experience Trip” hosted by Master Uragami, who is also active in Hasunoha, and it seems that what that person relies on until the very end is their “spouse.”
The “spouse” you rely on the most is the family with the fewest blood ties in the family.

Why did Honey Joe get remarried?
Is it to preserve your husband's DNA?
If that were the case, they probably wouldn't have remarried.

I think the reason Honey Joe and her husband remarried was so that Honey Joe and her husband would spend the rest of their lives together.
until they both grow gray hair.

Your husband may be infatuated with his first grandson.
Once your husband has settled down (laughs), why don't you discuss it again with your husband and confirm that they will spend the rest of their lives together as partners?

I really congratulate you on your grandson being born.
We are delighted.

Hello Honey Joe.
Congratulations on the birth of your grandson.

Well, as for your question, first of all, it's probably “not punishment.”
Simply, my husband has turned into an old man (my first grandson is cute and can't be helped). Plus, it's not a baby return, but it seems like it's going back in time.

And secondly, “our efforts up until now to pray for children are not in vain.”
It is also thanks to Honey Joe that my grandson was born safely. you went out with each other like that and prayed for a child treasure, didn't you?

Furthermore, it seems that your role is still going to continue.
What's next after praying for a child treasure? They probably prayed for safe delivery. Loops with physical safety, family safety, academic achievement, prayer for employment, good marriage, child treasure... There's no limit, is there?

Men are selfish, aren't they? I apologize on behalf of you, I'm sorry.
When it comes to married couples, the one who becomes a “baby” first seems to win. I wonder if a relationship where they are spoiled by each other is a joke by Seiji Ao.
Honey Joe is lonely too, isn't she?
“I'm also happy that my grandson was born. We've been praying for a child together, and I'm really happy. They are my grandchildren, even if they aren't related by blood. But lately it's been a bit hectic. Even if they aren't related by blood, I think they're my grandchildren, but even so, when I think about ourselves... I know you're happy, it's just... like you're saying it to me”

However, I don't know how the long-awaited grandson was born, but if the son and his wife are said to be children, and Ursiner and they are in a very troubled situation... you may not be unaware of your husband's feelings.

Anyways, congratulations.
Also, showing up more is a matter of order.
http://www.rinnou.net/cont_04/myoshin/2011-05a.html
The Zen sect says perverse things. But I wonder if this makes me happy.

Does Honey Joe have perverse eyes? Please try talking about it.

Dear Honey Joe
Congratulations on the birth of your grandson.
Even if the wife tells her not to worry about a word from her husband, it's probably something she cares about. Based on sentences, I think he is a kind person who is careful about his words on a regular basis. I think the answers are what the monks up until now have said.
What I want to say
“The words and actions since my heir's grandson was born are difficult for me, who has remarried and not given birth to children, and I'm about to lose even the meaning of life, wondering what my efforts have been until now.” It's very disappointing. You're a woman in her 50s
① When they remarried, I don't think they got married for the purpose of having children.
② My husband wants to live with him for the rest of his life rather than having children. I'm also expecting a real problem as someone who can take care of me. I don't want my children to struggle in terms of nursing care.
③ I don't think men in their 70s have many things that can be called hobbies. So, I went to Shinto and Buddha to pray, and held memorial services for my ancestors. Can you understand this as your husband's hobby in his old age? Please don't dislike people from the Edo period. That's disrespectful to people in the Edo period.
“Right now, I don't feel like taking care of Buddhist altars or visiting graves, and your role has already been over since your ancestors! I even feel like it's being said. ”
① I don't like cleaning the main hall or graves either. The reason is different from yours, but... However, big discoveries await when it comes to being reluctant. Not soon. A few years from now. If you're looking for results right now, stopping once and for all is a big discovery awaiting you.
② “Your ancestors say you've finished your role.” That was great. From now on, you won't be given difficult missions by your ancestors. A load has come off my shoulder. Your life just got a little easier. It's hard to make meals for my family and think about the daily menu. Even when I clean up the housework and laundry, no one in the middle of my family praises me. They often don't even show their gratitude. Even though I'm faced with such a difficult situation, it's not something I've accumulated if my ancestors tasked me with missions. That was great.

Based on the above, one last word. “Return from Uroji (Uroji) to Muroji (take a break) Ikkyu (take a break) if it rains, it rains, it rains, the wind blows, blow the bag.” This is the Dōka that was the basis for Ikkyu-san's name.

Honey Joe

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

Having been under pressure and heavy pressure until now has reached a major milestone, and at the same time, I think there are times when we fall into a kind of sense of emptiness or collapse, and we lose control of our mind. If left alone, it may cause mental illness such as depression or adjustment disorder, so I really need to be careful.

Childbirth, in particular, is a very worrying event where you don't know what will happen until you actually give birth. I know that not only those in question, but also everyone in the family is under considerable mental pressure. Even with Honey Joe, I think the expectations and anxiety about the first grandchild she will welcome as a grandmother were, of course, the same for her husband. Maybe it's still not noticed that the husband hurt Honey Joe because of his freedom from heavy pressure and joy, his words and actions have gone a little too far...

For example, Honey Joe is a member of the family, and I know that emotional bonds are more important than anything else, even if they are not real children or grandchildren. Sometimes kind, sometimes strict, it's important to be able to cherish your bonds with your children and grandchildren as a family, and child-rearing support as grandparents is also in the future. While praying for safe growth, I am aware that there is still something big ahead of Honey Joe's role.

Due to various circumstances, there are many people who are in a relationship where they have not had children. Even with Honey Joe, if you feel a little bit burdened by that, and if you want to think of your remarriage partner's child and grandchild as a real child, be sure to watch the movie “Born” (http://www.umareru.jp/) once again and be able to check and love the thoughts and feelings of your own parents once again, and what kind of emotional bonds you have with your children and grandchildren from now on I know even though I would like you to think about whether it should be deepened into. More than anything else than blood ties, Honey Joe is in an important relationship, and I would be really happy if you could think that she was chosen to become a mother and grandmother today.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Grandchildren are cute, aren't they? Children's smiles are soothing, aren't they?

I understand your feelings very well.
There must have been a lot of hardships in watching over the happiness of the children with what kind of thoughts you have had. Being my husband's stepchild, there must have been some invisible anxiety that my husband didn't understand. Even casual words can hurt you.
My husband was born with a lovely grandchild, and he is also putting effort into his ancestors, and he may be giving instructions that are too detailed. I understand your strong feelings as a man, but there are times when women feel that something is necessary, like being outside of a mosquito net.

Still, it's not your punishment. The Buddha and our ancestors never punish us.
Above all else, they want us to meet precious relationships and spend time with a smile. All you have to do is put your hands together in gratitude. Thank you for your new life.

Please be your own grandmother with a wonderful smile, even for your children and grandchildren.