It makes me think I wish I hadn't given birth to children.

I am currently living with my 19 year old husband and child (6 months).

When I found out I was pregnant, my husband and everyone around me opposed it. There wasn't a single person who was happy.

I am the only one who will definitely give birth. I decided and didn't bend it.

But after giving birth
I wish I hadn't given birth to this child.
It makes me think.

Most of my friends around me are married and don't have children
I'm playing around.
If you see it
That's great. I want to play too.
I could have done whatever I wanted without this kid.
I had more time with my husband.
I wonder why I wanted to give birth so stubbornly at that time.
I wish I hadn't given birth.

Every time I think so
I'm in tears because I feel sorry for the worst human child.

While no one else wanted to give birth
I said I wanted to give birth and gave birth
I don't think it's good to exhale a weak voice
I'm not talking to anyone.

I wanted to give birth that much before I gave birth
Thank you so much for coming to me.
It definitely makes me happy.
I thought from the bottom of my heart...

I can't help but hate myself for thinking like this.

but
I think it's cute every day.
Sometimes I think I'm glad I gave birth.

However, there are many cases where people wish they hadn't given birth.
I heard that parents raise their children with unpaid love
but I didn't understand it

I'm sorry for being a terrible mother. I'm sorry. I thought,
It's like my chest was filled round and round with black crayons
Like my throat is stuck
It's going to be painful.

I wish I hadn't given birth anymore
I don't want to think about it.

I'm glad I gave birth. I'm happy to have given birth.
What should I do to think

3 Zen Responses

The feeling of parenting

I read it.

Let's stop living with the stance of putting “our own thoughts” at the center and making them come true.

I'm not happy to do what I want. “Thoughts” are selfish. At that time, “Just get it!” I thought, but when I got it, I thought, “I want to keep it forever!” Then, at the end, “I'm tired of it, so I want another one!” or “More! and more!” It will be. This is a repetition. There is no end. “I wish I hadn't given birth” was also the work of this thought. If you put this “my thoughts” at the center, it will be a path of ruin.

When children are born, “raising children” becomes the main thing, but along with that, the feeling that you are also being “raised by parents” is important. I think raising a child without this would be different, and I think it would be difficult. The real thrill of life is “improving one's level.”

When you think “I'm going to raise children,” please grin (^-^), “That's proof that you've leveled up as a parent.”

Enjoy the pain. Enjoy being as uneventful as you want.

Life is long. Don't stick to “who I am now suffering,” let's just relax a bit and have fun.

Please don't try too hard alone and be spoiled by those around you.

thank

Maa-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

I think for a moment that maybe even if a child was born or not, they might have regretted this or that...

I would like to express my gratitude and thanks for nurturing the lives we have been blessed with, and that it is a thankful and precious thing on behalf of children. Thank you very much.

I'm sure happiness exists in a way of life where people are appreciated when they are thankful.

Along with the feeling of gratitude, the feeling of being appreciated is also important, and I want to spend a peaceful and safe time.

Also, as the child grows, there will be room little by little, and it is now that we can stay together all the time. Eventually, you may feel lonely as you grow up.

Of course, don't accumulate too much stress and take a break in moderation.

I wish your family happiness.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

I envy the young mother

When your child becomes an elementary school student or middle school student, if you have such a big child and you look youthful, I think all of your child's friends will be envious.
The fact that a child is born early means that it is also fast for a child to be out of touch.
This also means that they finish raising their children sooner than other mothers.
When you're still in your thirties, your child may have a perfect physique and become someone you can rely on.
When kids grow up, there are lots of fun things to do, such as going shopping together.
The most difficult period for children is probably until they are around 2 years old.
Even when I was a student, I spent 2 or 3 years studying hard, being burdened with club activities, and there were periods where I couldn't play.
Why don't you think you'll be studying in a tough school for 2 more years?

Anyway, regret is stressful. There's no going back to the past, so let's produce who we are now for the future.
Please be a good looking mom.
It's only when you're young that you can do that.

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