What is the whereabouts of the deceased after that?

I read it. I wonder if your husband passed away and you are devastated by that grief. I understand your feelings.
We will be offering a memorial service so that your husband is led by the Buddha and is born under the Buddha and has peace of mind to attain the Buddha.
Namu Amida Buddha
Please be kind to Nembutsu and hold a memorial service for your husband.
The Buddha always listens to his wishes, and his master can attain Buddhism with peace of mind under the Buddha.
And they will continue to watch over you and your children and guide them correctly.
The unbearable days and difficult days may still continue, but please keep an eye on the future while sincerely holding memorial services for your husband from now on. The morning always comes when it opens brightly. Also, many people you have relationships with will help and support you and your children.
The future for you and your children is yet to come. Please look to the future little by little, and look ahead to your future.
Your husband will definitely want you and your children to have a bright future in your life.
There will be many hardships, and there will also be joys.
I also pray that you and your children will receive lots of support and that you will be raised and live a healthy and happy life both mentally and physically.

I read your consultation.
It seems like about half a year has already passed since the initial consultation, and you've been able to spend your time repeating ups and downs all this time. I've also been involved with your previous question once, so basically the content I'm going to answer is the same as before. Also, be sure to reread it from time to time along with the monk's answers to other questions.

Well, this time I'd like to have a conversation with “Yuko-sama now” based on that.

You've always felt lonely and painful, haven't you? The phrase “they will watch over you from the side” may certainly be a relaxing word used by people around you and us monks so that what is left behind does not feel lonely.
That's because there's no way to confirm what the deceased husband is doing now.

However, what I want you to cherish is the “wish” placed on words rather than those words. And it is “function” expressed as that word.

“My husband is the only person I can show who I am... even now.”

I think this is clearly reflected in Yuko's words. Even if you don't know what's actually going on with your husband now, it's probably true that your husband still works as a base (center of heart) for Yuko.

We call this “factual function” a “Buddha” that transcends people, and we praise and respect it. For those of us left behind, the husband is one of the Buddhas (called Buddha).

I float up, sink in, overdo it to behave well, and I can't help but block it up. But the world doesn't allow me to be who I am.

However, in front of her husband as a Buddha, she is probably “Yuko-sama just the way she is.”

That's why the husband, as Buddha, sees Yuko's current situation and is sad and happy together with Yuko. “That's no good,” I'm not angry. That's not the way it is, is it? Your husband's job is “just the way it is.”

It is precisely because we have a “base as is” where any person can be forgiven, so we can do our best while overdoing it in the world. That's because there's always a place you can go back to.

There are people who say a lot of things. There are also various difficult situations.

But please take good care of that “just the way it is.”

As a Buddha, her husband doesn't get angry no matter what choices Yuko makes. Let's live our lives with peace of mind.

Do you know the picture book Freddy the Leaf (by Leo Bascaria)?
If you haven't read it, I recommend it.
If I had to give you a rough summary
The main character is Freddy, a single leaf growing on a large tree branch.
They were born in spring, were illuminated by sunlight along with the surrounding leaves, and lived in the rain.
However, in the fall, the surrounding leaves wither and fall one after another.
Freddy, who has become anxious, says to his best friend Leaf, “If you fall, you won't be able to meet and I'll be lonely.”
However, my friend said, “Falling down isn't lonely. Sadly, leaves that fall on the roots of trees return to the soil, become nutrients for the tree and are absorbed, and sprout from tree branches in the same way.
We look different, but we were born and fell from the same place, and we will live our lives forever. It's just slow or fast. We'll see you again soon. I went ahead.” I will answer.
My friend fell down fast, and then Freddy quickly moved away from the branch and fell to the root of the tree.

Then, in spring, buds sprout from the tips of the branches again, and new leaves begin to be bathed in light...

Trees represent large life forms = the universe.
Is the branch the Earth?
Our lives are nothing but a fleeting phenomenon.
However, at the root, it is connected to all lives.

Your husband, who has returned to Earth, is still alive in you. This is because you yourself are living on this earth with your feet on earth, and because you keep thinking about your husband.

This is what reincarnation is.
Why don't you read this picture book once?

Yuko-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

place after death...

Since the person's whereabouts after death depends on a fine state of consciousness (including karma and karma) that is no longer influenced by that person's physical body, there are places where it is difficult to say unequivocally where and how it is.

Also, for example, where and what state it is in the three thousand thousand thousand worlds (one billion thousand million earth), and what kind of state it is in which French land, to be honest, it's not something we ordinary people can measure very much...

However, no matter where you are, unless you reach enlightenment or nirvana as true comfort, you will be lost and suffering, so anyway, Buddhism is necessary in order to ride the flow towards enlightenment and nirvana.

A memorial service means “nurturing (Buddhism) as a servant (also),” and by practicing the Buddha's teachings together with those who have passed away, they are required to follow the same flow, and eventually reach the goal of enlightenment and nirvana together.

If you follow that trend, I'm sure we'll meet again if we meet again. Honestly, it's only a moment in a long, long journey right now. It's not just this life or 100 or 200 years; it may be a tremendous flow in the midst of hundreds of millions of years at the longest, no, even longer.

I'm sure if you confirm your connection with the Buddha, I wonder if it's possible to practice Buddhism under the same Buddha again.

Until then, I cherish my memories with my husband, thank you for the kindness and kindness you have received from your husband, and I would be grateful if you made an effort to make your family happy along with your children.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho