To live by killing anger

First of all, I salute your coolness and intelligence. I have the power to endure that I shouldn't get angry or ignore my father when I'm like my mother or sister. You're probably a wonderful person with a great personality.

Now, I don't think your surroundings will change dramatically, so I think the practice of meditation is to keep your mind calm, not be influenced by anger, and even feel sorry for your family.

I belong to a sect called the Jodo Shinshu sect, so if you read this sentence, you might think that some people say strange things. However, in its history of about 2,500 years, Buddhism has always preached a way of life that is not influenced by hatred or desire. When it comes to how to do that, there are specific practices, and one of them is meditation. It might not work out the first time, and I can't guarantee that you'll be completely free from anger, but I think it's definitely going to be lighter.

There are quite a few details written on the Japan Terraverda Association website etc. I found a site that I think is easy for first-time users to understand and stick to. Please refer to it if you like.
http://homepage3.nifty.com/harunaji/a021.htm

Nice to meet you, Ariha-san.

It is said that my dream is to become a writer.

When I'm listening to the story, even if you're still working part-time and doing creative activities at home, aren't you worried about your family and not the place to create?

Another person wrote earlier about how to solve it by staying at home as it is now, so I'm looking at it from a different point of view...

Why don't you switch your mind once and take the plunge and go outside?

It's true that time may decrease, but isn't it possible to have enough time without worrying about unnecessary things?

If you look at the home you were in from outside, you can also look at it in a different way.

Taking a look at your family from a standpoint one step away may also be a plus for creative activities.

It says to face your family, but even if you look at the sentences, it doesn't seem like you're taking a stand to do anything about family relationships, so why don't you think about it with a view to leaving once?

I'm sure it will expand my horizons again from a different, neutral standpoint.

Ariha-san

They say they're worried about their family. I'm sure this problem is the same for my mother and sister. The fact that it hits me emotionally means I want you to help me somehow if I turn it around and I'm in trouble. It's a sign. Maybe they're asking you for help in a sense.
Wouldn't it be possible to create a place where you can calm down, get down on one knee, and talk about your heart over tea? I think it would be a good idea to have a third party, such as a counselor, join in.

Wouldn't your own anger be saved by looking at it from such a point of view of pity? Observe swearing from the viewpoint of capturing it as it is, without assigning meaning to it, and having a sense of trouble. That alone might be a little different.

Getting rid of anger is easy.
Try not to demand lofty ideals from your partner right away.
You are probably healthy and have high ideals. That's great.
However, I think my own rules and sense of justice are too strong.
“I want to be smooth, I want to be smooth, I don't want to be with people I don't like, I want it to be the way I want it, I don't want to be disturbed, I don't want to be told bad by my partner”
If the “rules you should have,” or worse, the “self-centered way of looking at things,” as described above, are too strong, a gap is created when reality is not the case.
Your everyday stance on opponents and events has a high ideal of “it should be like this,” and maybe you weren't aware of it yourself.

Anger doesn't have to go away.
You should never try to put up with anger when it seems like it's gone. (is that so?)
Anger doesn't go away after anger comes out. (hmm)
By eliminating the cause of anger beforehand, they make them stop getting angry. (I see)
What is the mantra for eliminating the cause
“Don't ask, don't expect, don't impose your own rules”
Please recite this beforehand at the scene where it always causes anger.
It has an amazing effect.
If it doesn't work and you get angry, try bashing your anger at me in the thank you section.
“This bastard didn't work at all, even though I expected it!”
Then I would answer the following:
“That's why I said it, didn't I? You can't expect it.” Chan-chan

I don't demand my ideals from my partner. This is an effective way to get rid of anger. Kakugen