Live by worrying only about appearance and evaluations

I use this place as a base for my heart every time I have trouble, and I am always indebted to you.

I'm 24 years old, female, and a civil servant (public security position).

Two years ago, I was able to get a job in the hometown where I was born and raised, and my parents, grandfather, and grandmother were all happy. People around me say, “That's filial piety, isn't it?” That may be the path I chose because I was concerned about the evaluations of those around me.

My true self was that I wanted to get a job in the Kansai area.

That's because I spent 4 years of university in Kansai and learned about the disparity with the region. In particular, I got a job with medical qualifications. I'm not looking down on the local community, but I felt that there was a huge difference in the level of medical care, awareness, and human resources. I really want to work in a place of this level. You might think so.

However, being close to my parents is very reassuring, and I feel that strongly because we have been separated for 4 years.

Regarding recruitment tests, I took 10 local public service examinations in 1 year, assuming I had a chance with Kanto, Tokai, Kansai, and Kyushu. As a result, only the local community accepted it. So I couldn't even choose. If I had accepted Kansai with my hometown, I might have chosen Kansai.

I'm still confused about the path I chose by worrying only about my surroundings's evaluations and appearance. I can't say it to my parents, and I can't say it to my colleagues or boss at work. Even though I got a job in my hometown, would it be an unfaithful parent or an unfaithful teacher to go out to Kansai again?

3 Zen Responses

I'm doing what I want no matter which way I go in the end

No matter what you choose, it's your choice.
You can change what you've decided.
It's your life no matter how it turns.
It's not supposed to be a year to take care of your parents, so take the plunge and do what you want.
Maybe the purpose of your worries is “I end up talking alone.”
Try starting by talking to someone.

Is there anything I can do right now? I think about it carefully.

Talaleva has no sense when you start thinking about it.
So throw it all away.

There is a limit to what humans can do.
I have no choice but to do my best to the extent I can.

On top of that, think carefully about what you want to do.
It doesn't matter how others see you; how I lived matters.
Wouldn't it be better to think carefully before making a decision so that no regrets remain within you?
But it's hard to live without regrets.
No matter what path you take, there will always be difficulties and setbacks.

“Living through hard work is the path to immortality
Living lazily is the path to death
People who work hard do not die
A person who lives lazily is already equal to a dead person”
(Dharma Sutra)

The Buddha explained that “living while striving and working hard is the path to immortality.”
I will do my best to do what I can in my current environment.
In the end, it will save you.

Please live your life, not for anyone else.

Of course, appearance and evaluation are also necessary.
That's why it's encouraging and conscious.

Then what do we do? That's right (*^^*)

You can't tell what's inside just by what you see on the surface. There's nothing more empty than feeling like knowing and not being aware of what's really good.

There are times in life when we have to make big choices.
Getting a job, getting married... was that good, wasn't it better? I think it's okay to stop, think carefully, and go back, but that's something I want to do after “thinking carefully.”

In the center where people gather, there are many companies, and information and distribution are thriving, so it is natural for me to want to grow. Also, since there are people who continue to live in their hometown, there is probably something wonderful that cannot be found in a city. It's important to worry about this way, isn't it?

You can worry about appearance and evaluations ◎
However, please live your life, not for anyone else.
Don't regret it.

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