I can't love myself

I don't praise myself ^_^
Isn't what you're trying to do extreme? It's painful because they deny it, and I want to affirm it. I felt that this feeling was a bit rough and impossible, that I wanted to make black and white clear.

If you deny yourself, you'll first be in a flat state with no denials or affirmations.
I don't think anyone praises themselves that much even if you look around ^_^

And the first thing you need to know is probably to know what you mean by yourself. I don't think it's possible to deny or affirm without understanding that. Knowing oneself is also the foundation of Buddhism, to see through the truth.

Above all else, praising people, being able to rejoice in their success like yourself, sincerely respecting people's good points and not comparing yourself to yourself first is probably the most important thing.

Midori-sama

What is the true feeling behind a sense of self-denial? You have high ideals about yourself and are hard on yourself. How much of a 100 point score do you say “I can only do this” on a 100-point scale?

Evaluation changes depending on how things are perceived. In response to the objective fact that “there is half water in the cup,” the feelings that follow will change depending on whether you recognize that “only half is in it” or “half is in it.” If you think “only half,” your mood will darken and you will be pessimistic, but if you think “half too,” you will be happy and optimistic.

Even if you only tried 30%, “You did your best 30%! If you recognize “I'm great,” you can stay well. But if you recognize that “only 30% did my best... I'm no good,” you'll lose energy.

The facts are the same, but you can decide for yourself which words you choose. And they create reality through words. So if you keep doing bad things to yourself, you'll lose energy and your luck will drop.

You can see that your body is always doing its best for you.
While you're sleeping or depressed, your heart continues to beat and your stomach and intestines digest what you eat. I work 24 hours a day, 365 days a year without a day off. If it were that body, wouldn't you be able to praise your heart, stomach, intestines, liver, and lungs? Start by saying words of comfort and gratitude to your body that is open all year round. Senryu

I dared to choose the same title as Kunimoto.
Books with titles such as Self-Affirmation and Loving Yourself were popular for a while, but I don't think that's necessary at all. In conclusion, it's difficult to get around.
As a diagram, I have had a hard time in the past, and I can't love myself because of that, so I think it's all about progressing with things I can't continue every day, such as raising my sense of self-affirmation and searching for good places for myself, or keeping a personal diary to search for good places for myself.
Honestly, it's a kind of messy procedure done in the world of [notions].
My shoulders get stiff when I do that every time in my daily life.
In Zen, I recommend doing nothing.
The point is, what are you doing “right now.”
You're probably living your own diagram.
Stories such as “You're Not Satisfied If You're Not Satisfied by People,” or “You Have to Praise Yourself,” and “You're Not Satisfied If You Don't Envy Yourself,” have probably been completed.
Let's throw that all away.
Please know that what you are doing now is an action centered on “thoughts.”
☆ I have decided in advance how to satisfy myself, but in fact, that method is wrong.
Try living today today.
Please try to proceed with on-site ad libs without having a fixed shape when doing something called ❝ let's do something ❞.
Don't live in the midst of evaluations.
I don't evaluate.
Please know that evaluation is an act of reprimanding oneself.
Incidentally, it seems that Nobita-kun from Doraemon was originally a genius.
It seems that the setting is that my grades got worse because I was so praised when I was little that I didn't even feel like studying.
Even if you are praised or praised in your life, how you live today is important.
If you want to stop living by evaluations, I recommend zazen.
I'll take you to a world before you put yourself in the middle.

I read it. I think it's also important to divide your life with things like this.
Ichiro wasn't able to hit 10% either. It's a batting average close to 30 to 40 percent, isn't it?
No one is blaming or complaining about it.
As for past results, I raised my self-evaluation slightly,
I think it would be preferable to seriously aim higher for what you try out in the future.
The possibilities are endless, but we recognize that we are beings with finite limits,
Please keep calm and do your best steadily.
Also, please praise the results of your hard work and the hard work of the people around you.
That will create the next challenge and good results.
I sincerely pray that you will try various things from now on and live a fulfilling day, and that wonderful results will be brought about. Continuity is empowering. I will support you.
Please do your best and stay healthy without putting yourself in a hurry.

Midori-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Instead of forcibly “loving and falling in love with yourself” or “affirming yourself,” try “showing mercy to yourself.”

In “Mercy Meditation,” first of all,

“May I be happy
May my worries and suffering go away
May my wishes come true
May the light of enlightenment appear in me
May I be happy”

I'll start by multiplying mercy on myself, and the reason for this is that in order to save others, you must first be saved yourself.

Even though you haven't been saved, you can't save anyone else.

Even though you don't have any money, it's like you can't lend anything else.

Also, in Buddhism, the object to be saved is all sentient (sentient beings), and of course, oneself must also be included there.

In a sense, it's similar to loving yourself in order to love everything.

However, in a sense, “loving” can also be unfavorable because it involves one's own complacency and selfishness.

Rather than that, if it is “mercy,” I think you will be able to have a positive heart and a bright heart for yourself by cultivating equal love that is not someone specific.

Please think about it once.

As for meditation on mercy, I think one from the Japan Therawada Buddhist Association may be helpful.

Mercy Meditation
http://www.j-theravada.net/3-jihi.html

Mercy (The Four Infinite Hearts)
http://www.j-theravada.net/pali/key-catu-appamanna-citta.html

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho