Should we have children or depraved

I can't believe it's my husband's affair... I thought it was the same for you (I read the previous question. I had an affair and had an affair)... It's probably not a necessary presence for the two of them, so I think divorce is the only thing.

How are you feeling right now? I also have hyperemesis gravidarum, so isn't it tough? is everything okay? I can't believe we have to make the worst choices at such a delicate time. To be honest, the life in my stomach is so pitiful.

You certainly feel a living life in your stomach. There may also be anxiety about the future, and your parents are probably saying that because they are worried about how to raise them. I think this is also kind.

I think it is difficult to continue to have dreams and work hard at studying while raising children, but cooperation from those around you is also necessary, but it may not be impossible.

I'm not in a position to say either way, but don't forget to be prepared to live with the pain of losing your life.

I read it. I know you're having a hard time mentally and physically in the face of a tough choice. I'm sorry for your situation.
I think it is very difficult to make a judgment in a situation where the physical condition is unstable, just as Sankei was worried.
You may end up regretting that decision later.

You probably have dreams and goals for your future. It's your life, so working hard on what you want to achieve will be a rewarding experience.

Also, since the newly given life is the life that dwelt within you with a probability of one hundredth of a hundred million in various encounters, I think it really comes back to life.

I hope you will calm down and calm your mind about your relationship with your husband, think carefully about what is really important to both of you, and make decisions together.

Also, I would like to receive various opinions from people around me and give advice on what is important to life and what is desirable for you and your husband now.

It's a really important choice, so please face it firmly and make a decision without being swept away by temporary or emotional things.

I pray that your future and that of your husband will be healthy.

Can people who can't take care of their lives really become good doctors?
Becoming a doctor and saving many people is probably equivalent to being a parent and raising one life into a fine person.

Both childbirth and abortion are life-threatening, so no one else can tell you to do this.
Please think carefully and make up your mind.

What should I do?
Honestly, I think I know the most.
“There are other women I like.” “I had a child and I don't like it anymore.”
Well, it's so male-oriented that I feel sorry for that kid and you.
But... but in the previous question, it was about you 💀 having an affair 💀 because “I can't see your husband as a man.” ⚡ It's probably something they deserved. Even men somehow sense the air when the female side is cool, and their love cools down and they feel like other women.
So, since there is a pattern of the previous affair, I'm not really sure who the father is, but if that child is really the husband's child, that child's father is related by blood, he is responsible for raising him. If you are going to get divorced, prepare a “notarized certificate with compulsory execution approval agreement certificate” as child support for that child.
If you don't get divorced after getting them allowed to pay child support until college, you are the one who cries and falls asleep.
If you become a single mother on top of that, the burden should decrease slightly.
Why don't you also sincerely tell your parents and husband about all of your infidelity?
I think it would be more comfortable if you had an affair, that you couldn't see your husband as someone of the opposite sex, and lived a life without lies.
I think your medical school dream was cut off at the same time when you had an affair and stepped off the path of others.
I think medicine without morality, ethics, religion, etc. is just an extension of your ego no matter how much you say it is a dream.
Honestly... to be honest, the mentality that I don't want to be examined by such a teacher occurs to me.
Are they still aiming for medicine? What you aim for is to treat your own egoistic heart that you are, isn't it?
It seems harsh, but Buddhism does not encourage the growth of humans or your ego.
Of course, as you, you will be blamed on your husband, but only you can cure a way of life centered around yourself within you. Ego cannot be cured even with the latest medical treatment.
If we treat that, we're both in a double affair. Let's suggest that he is “waiting for him to come back.” We're both like each other, so I'll forgive him for his affair.
If you do that, you won't be able to take that child's father, and you won't have to have an abortion.

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

The harsh opinions from everyone are correct, but I'm worried that they may not be a little discouraged...

Anyway, Buddhism is the teaching for saving you, your husband, and your children.

The cause of our reincarnation in this world of confusion and suffering is due to anguish and the ignorance (fundamental ignorance) of its parents, and misdeeds as acts due to such worry and ignorance.

They say they want to be a doctor, but why is that? It may be from a pure desire to cure people who are suffering from illness, but certainly if you become a doctor, you may be able to save some of those suffering from illness. However, in any case, life was slightly prolonged, and after all, no one can escape burnt stones, water, and eventually death.

If that is the case, rather than being a doctor who can only relieve a small amount of sickness, how about becoming an entity that can save all sentient beings by aiming for the Great Doctor, the Great Doctor, who can cure all of our suffering from life, old age, illness, love, hatred, and unrequited suffering, if we aim for it anyway?

Buddhism is the teaching for becoming the Great Doctor.

By all means, if you take advantage of this, and advance in Buddhism little by little, I think it will lead to true salvation not only for yourself, but also for your husband and children who are struggling with reincarnation.

However, if you are currently thinking about abortion (artificial abortion when there are no health problems for both mother and child), I don't have much time for that first, so I'll answer that in an exaggerated way, but in Buddhism, abortion is basically the opposite position, and in particular, it is a ridiculous mortal sin, such as monks recommending abortions.

Of course, there are various circumstances that should be taken into account, so I cannot strongly say that it is absolutely useless, but it is better not to do it.

Even if you are not interested in Buddhism, I would be grateful if you could give this a little thought.

Also, if possible, I'd rather aim for the Great Doctor together than being a doctor.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho