It's hard to have a job or environment that I don't want.

Nice to meet you.
I am a single mother with 2 children with a history of divorce.
Since I was single, I have had esthetic and massage qualifications, and I have been working related to them. I used to work part-time at night when my income was insufficient for living.
My parents' house is close, so I was indebted to my parents for something, but now by accident, I have my own store.
My mother originally worked on Japanese miscellaneous goods and kimonos, and in addition to that, I knew that she wanted to open a store that handled food and drink, but it was like a dream story, and I was only half talking about it, and I was only talking about it in half.
At what time did that happen, the story progressed at a rapid pace. However, my mother had other jobs, and the arrow was singled out at me.
Let's do the same shop for miscellaneous goods and massages, and the store was completed in a blink of an eye.
However, the customers who come still want to talk to my mother, and they are looking for her. I don't have much interest in kimonos, and I don't feel like I'm talking.
I want a stable job if possible, and I'm tired of being a store manager and worrying about everyday sales.
Your parents are changing generations and you have to do your best from now on! I say that. I am aware that I have been blessed in many ways and have been well off, but I don't think it's right for me.
I don't want to destroy the store, but every day is hard.
What should I do?
It's hard to go to the store every day.

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Now I think this is also some kind of connection

You've become the “president” before you know it. It's not easy to become a “president,” but...

Tomoko wants to earn a stable income from her position of work, doesn't she? I think that's a plausible idea. Since they have experience and qualifications, it is probably possible to do that.

However, in the current situation, isn't it possible to stop being a manager right away? So why don't you learn about management until you find someone who can split it with your life experience now and manage it for you.

Even so, jobs that everyone can't help but do are boring. I don't like it if I have to keep going forever. One way is to expire there, spend ●● months left, and think about searching for someone you can entrust to your place during that time, persuading your mother to do it for you, etc.

As far as I've read the text, I don't think management itself is going well and debt is increasing. If there are no management issues, it might be a good idea to try valuing “relationships.”

Because it's not on track right now

In the current state, you probably think it will be difficult, but if you learn about the store and attract customers well, there will probably be no need to worry.

I think it's also important to refine yourself as to how to attract customers and how to promote well.

It's not a bad job, it's a job I don't like

I'm blessed with a direction that is different from what I think.

What a frustrating story.

But think about it.

I say it harshly, but aren't you the one who categorically didn't say “no” when your mother started the store?

There are situations where everyone always selects “YES” and “NO.”
No matter what the circumstances are around you, you are the one who chooses it.

If you don't like it, you can say “NO,” but they probably thought about various situations and said “YES.”
I can understand that in itself, but once you say “YES,” it means you made your own choice.

If you haven't thought that far, I think it would be nice if you could take this opportunity to make your choice again.

If you don't like continuing, say “NO” to your mother properly.

But if you're hesitant to say that, in some way, you won't continue unless you make your current workplace a comfortable place for you.

Chiropractic work will also require customer service, so it's probably not a completely useless job, and you can even draw in customers at the store.

Look at the posture and walking style of the customer who tried on the kimono, and if their spine or pelvis is distorted, they may be able to fix it and put them in a posture that suits the kimono.

There must be an infinite number of directions in every way of thinking.

It's not your parents' life, it's your life.

Instead of doing a job you don't like, think about making it a job you don't like.

I'm sure your possibilities will expand again.

Enjoy yourself instead of living as a store person

I'll tell you what I would do if it would be helpful to you and if I were in your position.
First, even though they are store managers, they don't have it.
When you hold things consciously, you become pressured, burdened, and bound.
So I forget my position and consciously abandon my position as a store manager even though I own a store in order to genuinely enjoy my work and what I meet and learn.
Decide now if the job is right for you.
Anyway, I'm thankful that our customers just came, so I treat them with a feeling of gratitude.
Right from the beginning, I'll try not to have any preconceived notions or assumptions that it's suitable or not.
Apart from that, rather than doing that work, I do it as if I were doing it myself.
We also treat our customers so that they don't have any preconceived feelings of likes or dislikes from the beginning.
Even if yesterday was the enemy, today we will create a new relationship.
Try not to look in front of you.
When customers don't come, the atmosphere is the same as the store that makes me want to go.
That's because there's no time when I'm not myself.
This is because I have no choice but to live myself rather than live my life or work. (^<^)
Try facing it with the attitude of doing yourself and whether you should do it yourself.

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