Marriage with a 13 year age difference

He seems to be concerned about his age, but when you usually talk to him, are you aware of his age somewhere? When you really look at him as a person, there's no age attached to him.

Is age the reason you're hesitating? Is it a difference in values? Is there something about your personality that bothers you?

If you haven't revealed your age, or if you're the same age, if you feel that you have no hesitation in marrying him, then I think age doesn't matter.

People of ethnic groups living deep in the mountains seem to spend their time not knowing their birthdays or ages. However, it is living without problems.
I don't think age is that important when it comes to living.
The important thing is whether the couple trusts each other and is prepared to live together while helping each other.

I think it's important that no one knows what's ahead, whether he's someone you can trust based on how he is now, and whether or not you want to live for him.

Other people regret it, so surely you too?
You won't know that until you open the lid, right?
After all, an anxious mind is nothing but a delusion created by yourself.

“Delusion arises from delusional obsession, and fear arises from delusional obsession. If you leave your paranoia, there will be no sorrow. Why are there things to be afraid of?”
(Buddha's words of truth translated by Nakamura Hajime)

Of course, I understand the feeling of anxiety.
Darkness is just around the corner, and no one knows how one's life will turn in the future.

However, forever regretting the past that has passed and worrying about the future that has yet to come is a waste of time if you ask me.
After all, those of us living in the present have nothing but “here and now,” so we have no choice but to make the best within the “here and now.”

There is a saying “gyoun flowing water.”
Clouds that travel through the sky change shape moment by moment depending on the wind, but even so, clouds are clouds.
While river water flows, it hits rocks and changes direction, and changes shape according to the terrain, but the essence of water itself does not change in any way.
My aunt is like that too.
She is a single woman, daughter, and lover, and may eventually become a wife and later a mother.
It changes over time, but the only person in this world, the true humanity of “Aoba,” who never changes, is within you.
I want you to believe that.

Marriage is one of the most important things in life, so don't be swept away by the atmosphere, think clearly and make decisions with your own head.
Once you've decided on this path, all that's left is to do your best.
Whatever the outcome, you won't regret it.
People who believe in themselves can live that way.

It's called Marriage Blue. As is unusual, there are times when my aunt regrets getting married. Everyone sees something and regrets it. It's a path everyone goes through. It's a stage in life where they unknowingly see only the good things and don't see the bad things, going from being lovers to becoming a married couple who share all of their good points and bad points. That's a good thing. It's proof that you're on the right path. However, I believe that only couples who have the will to overcome it can continue their marriage.

Get hungry. Be prepared to overcome hardships together.
Let's say the engagement is dissolved and the partner is carefully re-selected. Next, let's say you've found your ideal partner of the same age. But people change. If you don't change, there will be no growth.
As it changes, it gradually deviates from my own scoring standards. There is a saying, “If there is a millimeter difference, heaven and earth will be separated” (if there is a gap, it is far worse than tenchi). Even if it's a difference once in terms of angle, it's a difference of 1 mm 2 mm at first, but it gradually opens in the shape of a ha, and eventually they are about as far apart as heaven and earth.
People who don't allow it get divorced. The logic of marriage has broken down since the marriage hunting stage. You said “out of the ordinary,” but the example of a world where 1 in 3 people are divorced is wrong, no matter how you think about it. In Buddhism, this scoring criteria and careful selection is called the heart of greed. I am unmistakably worried.

It's the opposite. It is important to have an attitude of sharing grievances and regrets. Is it possible to put those differences into each other's hands... that's where preparedness, not love, is called into question. And conversely, as a result of years and years of effort over and over again, a true bond is nurtured.

Well, I thought it was a good opportunity, so I wrote katai, but for the time being, this anxiety is Marriage Blue, so it's just right. It's surprisingly important, “Oh, this is Marriage Blue!” What I think I don't feel like it, I don't feel like it.

As a matter of fact, there is an age difference, so it would be better to calculate when you were how old he was and how his life was going.
For example, if Japan still has a retirement system in the future, there is a possibility that he will become unemployed sooner.
Let's keep that kind of calculation for now.