Giving up on what was a dream

Mi-sama

“First, does giving up on a dream mean losing or running away?
Is there a standard for determining whether you'll regret it or not? If so, what is it?” As for the question, what is a dream in the first place? The world says to have dreams and have dreams, but what does this mean? I think it's an extreme thing to say to people who are reluctant to live.

We are definitely being kept alive even if we don't have dreams.
The feeling that I want to do this job and don't want to do it isn't even just a feeling. Maybe it's desire. I'm not saying desire is bad. Once desires are satisfied, they turn in the other direction again. I got the job I wanted to do. But I'm not motivated. It's not that I'm dissatisfied. This feeling is probably because the desires I've wanted to do until now have been satisfied, so I'm looking for something even more stimulating.

Please don't be swayed by your feelings too much. Feelings come out one after the other and then disappear. There are no answers in the world of thought. No matter how much I think about it, I'm just swayed by feelings I added later, such as profit and loss, pride, and this is how it should be.

Please look at reality to see if it's a job you can continue to do. Don't look at it with thoughts I added later, but real work. I have a boss I want to follow. There are many parts that I sympathize with about the job description. etc... and if you think you can't continue, why don't you choose a different path?
I don't think there's a single thing that “life has to be like” or “should be like this.”

You don't have to have dreams. It's just about whether or not it's a job I can continue without any worries.

Mi-sama

Thank you for your question. I understand how you feel.
There was a time when I tried to make my dream come true, and I thought, “Something like this.”
That's when I thought about it.
Dreams are “also images of oneself created in the past.”
Then, I noticed something. They say there are 2 types of dreams.
One is a TO BE dream, and one is a TO DO dream.

A dream I longed for when I was little.
Baseball players, doctors, dancers, models, presidents, rich people, heroes...

A dream I longed for when I was an adolescent.
Consultants, film directors, musicians, hairdressers, monks...

My dream when I was little was nothing but a TO BE dream.
And that dream, which finally came true, was different from the dream I had as a longing.

Despite the fact that it is self-evident that the dream I had and reality are different
When my feelings for the dream I had were so strong that I was confronted with a different reality
A kind of identity crisis will occur.

I think this could happen to anyone.
In particular, dreams that came true by making an effort to bleed
I have no choice but to do that! Especially the dream I kept chasing.

The moment a dream becomes reality is filled with joy, but even if that moment is ephemeral, it probably passes quickly.

At that time, the most important thing
I think it's about abandoning the obsession with TOBE dreams and switching to TODO dreams.

Actually, that dream may have just stood at the starting point.
In that dream position

To whom
What
How would you like to do it?

It has been verbalized up to this point, and I think it will become a real dream.
Also, I think whether or not it can be verbalized will also be a criterion for deciding whether to continue chasing dreams or chasing different things.

I was in the following order.

A monk → a nice monk → a monk who knows a lot about society and the world → a global monk who disseminates Japanese Japanese Buddhism to the world → I want to become a global monk and disseminate Japanese Japanese Buddhism to the world → I want to create a world that respects Japanese

There's absolutely no need to be dragged by past dreams and be determined to do it.

If that TODO dream is different from what you are currently doing, then that is life too.
I found out that the dream I was chasing wasn't actually right for me.
I think that's what it means. I think that taking on challenges is an asset.

I pray that Mi will find a dream where she can shine!

Dreams are nothing more than expanding one's imagination to create one's own path where there was originally nothing, setting a goal as the goal of one's own path, and encapsulating the completion plan of that goal with the word “dream.”

A goal is no longer a goal once it is achieved.
Dreams are also dreams that are drawn when they haven't come true yet, and when they come true, they are no longer dreams.

If it's different from the finished drawing you were aiming for, revisions may also be necessary,
Once you've completed your goal, you don't need that blueprint anymore.

Dreams are fictional images that target one's own desires, and once realized, they are no longer fictional images.
People dream about things that aren't here.

Buddhism teaches that everything in this world stems from delusions.
However, even if these are all delusions that aren't real, if you misunderstand your way of thinking, you won't even be able to draw goals for your own progress.

Giving up on the completed plan you were aiming for may mean “abandoning your dream,” but since you pour your heart into something that wasn't there, nothing will go away even if you stop halfway.
The only thing I think is missing is the completed drawing I had drawn at that time.

But there, the process called “experience” that you had been through until then remains firmly within you.

Even if one completed drawing is gone, it's just a matter of changing the shape and drawing a different finished drawing.

With the process we have cultivated up until now, people can draw new blueprints again.

You can modify anything you draw yourself in any way you want.

Whether or not you regret it is determined by whether your passion at that time was something you were satisfied with.

Wouldn't it be better to draw a new finished drawing and seriously prepare the blueprint now?

Maybe I shouldn't think of it as a dream.
Since it is treated with the word dream, it may be “not being able to wake up from a dream.”
“Dreams” only because they are out of reach
A “dream” is only when it comes true
Dreams come true — only successful people say these words as if they were talking to themselves.
What would happen to the world if everyone became successful?
Do dreams come true? Something that becomes automatic? Something I should let them do? (^<^)
They say, “Dreams will surely come true someday.”
However, the people who have made such dreams come true are very constructive and hard working people.
This is because they do not obscure dreams; they determine reality.
There is no need to spend time and effort to materialize your goals.
I know what to do to get closer to that.
There is no choice but to do it step by step, step by step.
Should we continue to look for our dreams in an inner world that makes us dream?
Should we continue to act in the real world where dreams come true?
Time should be used as time to act towards the realization of dreams, not time for dreaming.
This is the only way to make your goals and aspirations come true.
I'm sorry for ruining my dream.
However, if that is broken, dreams can always be realized constructively and concretely.
For example, I used to try to make mountains out of sand.
The tower on the sand has collapsed.
From a certain point on, I made it with soil, not sand. Sometimes dust, even dust, turned into mountains.
From the beginning, I just thought I wouldn't be able to build a castle without sand.
It was an obsession.
You can make higher mountains with other things.
If you go up there, the scenery is the same, and more.
It doesn't have to be a mountain or a summit.
In the act of piling up anything, there is a sound of living up and making use of it.

Mi-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Whether it's a “dream” or an “ideal,” or “reality,” causality (cause and condition) is always necessary for the “result” called “realization.”

There is something called a “causal relationship” aimed at “results” in everything, and if the result is the way you want it, it will come true, and you will probably be satisfied with it, but it is actually quite difficult to be able to adjust the causal relationship the way you want forever and continue to have the desired results.

In particular, the more “reality” results are not accepted due to anguish due to greed, thirst, obsession, etc., or ignorance (fundamental ignorance), etc., the more dissatisfied and stressed you may suffer.

Also, when it comes to causation, there is a considerable limit to what you can do on your own. Therefore, the surrounding environment/situation, such as support, help, encouragement, etc. from many people around them, is also quite necessary and influenced.

The fact that nothing is possible without a lot of support or help is called “good luck” in Buddhism, but to put it simply, everything is made up of being dependent on others.

Whether you quit your job, give up on your dreams, or whether you regret it or not, it seems like it will continue if you are able to calmly look at the current situation around you and look at the current situation around you calmly, and after taking into account the support and help from those around you so far, and thoughts of consideration, gratitude, and reward for them, the cause and effect toward the results you think of yourself can be adjusted in a reasonable way from your own state and the state of your surroundings If not, it seems that relationships with those around you have been slightly restructured, and I think quitting, giving up, or resigning in the midst of that may be a good option.

Finally, “I feel like the dream I should have been chasing has suddenly disappeared”... this is true in a sense. Everything is sometimes expressed in Buddhism as a “nyo-phantom” or “nyomu.”

In order to understand this, it is necessary to learn the teachings of “sky” and “good fortune” in Buddhism to some extent. Also, if you are interested, I would be grateful if you could continue studying Buddhism.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho