forgive, forgive, be forgiven

“Forgiveness” is a word that comes from one's own stereotypes.

“Must” and “should be” create forgiveness and unforgiveness.
If you don't have the notions of “must” or “should be,” then you don't even have the idea of forgiving.

Where there is no idea of “forgiveness,” there is also no such thing as being “forgiven.”

A heart that thinks “unforgivable” creates forgiveness or unforgiveness.

There are things, but there aren't even any.

That is the Buddhist way of thinking.

If you think “it should be like this,” you can't forgive it; if you think “this is too,” you can forgive it.
If you think “I don't have this,” it's not forgivable; if you think “I don't even have this,” it's forgivable.

Is it like this?

If it means permissive, it might mean accepting everything “as is.”

Does forgiving mean forgiving someone who has done something wrong or harmed them?
First, Buddhism says let's develop a heart of mercy, so it's better to get rid of anger and hatred that get in the way of mercy no matter what the reason.
Also, in the precepts, getting angry and not forgiving someone who has apologized is a bad attitude.
Therefore, on the emotional side, it can be said that being compassionate without getting angry is important, and on the emotional side, we must forgive.

On the other hand, there are rules and laws in various organizations and societies, so even if you allow it emotionally, you cannot afford to be exempted from regulatory penalties.
If a Buddhist is a police officer, they may not feel angry at the culprit, but if it is a criminal who must be arrested by law, they will be arrested.
In that case, it's like, “It's a pity, but it can't be helped because it's a penalty determined by law,”
“Zamamiro! That's a great feeling!” You wouldn't think that.

This is probably a question from the three perspectives of the general phenomenon of “forgiveness,” “forgiving” oneself, and “being forgiven” by others.

First, “forgiveness” means

If you confront hate with fury, your battles and fights won't end. Forgiveness ends all anger and jealousy (envy) and leads you to eternal bliss (Dhammapada 5)

According to the sutras, it is an act of stopping resentment and jealousy and leading to eternal happiness. It can also be paraphrased as an act of calming the mind. This is because if “if you confront hate with fury, the battle or fight won't end” forgives your partner, the hate, fury, anger, and jealousy will stop, and your heart will be at peace.

So how do you “forgive” yourself, and how can you forgive? As for how to forgive, Barry, an American doctor who is an ascetic monk of Tibetan Buddhism
http://humanvalues.jp/tag/%E8%A8%B1%E3%81%97/
Please refer to things like that. The meditation on mercy for one's enemies should also be helpful. Learn specific methods of forgiveness based on Buddhist wisdom.

Regarding being forgiven by others, Shinran Shonin of the Jodo Shinshu sect admonishes listening as “being forgiven,” and says “being forgiven and listening.” Originally, we are not in a position to listen to the Buddha's teachings, but in particular, we are “forgiven” to listen to words of salvation. Therefore, “permitted” probably means that people who are not originally in that position and are not qualified are given that position due to special consideration. I think being in the vast heart of the Buddha's compassion means “forgiveness.”

Recently, I think there is a trend in the world where people don't forgive those who have committed crimes. You can probably gain peace for yourself and others by stopping hatred and forgiving, thinking that you are a person who has been “forgiven” and has gained a position in the here and now. In fact, Aizumi might not be as easy to forgive as if she were a victim.

There is nothing in our lives other than the truth. The television, computer, pencil, eraser, book, person, pet... etc. in front of you

I think people have thoughts and ideas, but they come out, then disappear. The feeling of a fingertip tapping on a computer keyboard is felt the moment you touch it, but it disappears the moment you speak. If there is no attachment there is no such thing as jealousy or suffering. The heart is the same; suffering is born by capturing it.

The feeling of forgiving and not forgiving is a world of thought. A world of lies without reality. It's easy to be fooled, but the idea is false.
It exists right in front of you before forgiving people or not forgiving them. The eye does not reject it, and it is projected as it is. That's the truth. Don't believe what came out of it, your own thoughts, which aren't real. Please don't be swayed.

I'm probably answering questions from the past, wondering if that's the case.
Other people are other people.
Even parents are different people, different personalities, and different beings.
Try not to clash with your lofty ideals.
Please stop demanding high humanity from that person.
It's clear that “Oh, this person is really different from me.”
You can live your playing field.
You don't have to get into that person's ring.
Live your field.
That is forgiveness.
Loosen up.
It's not about forgiving the other person,
It's about letting go of one's obsessions.
To forgive someone is not to forgive them, but to forgive yourself.
It was a story for people to realize that it was about loosening and resolving one's own obsessions.
Now, those restrictions must have been lifted.
Originally, nothing should have bound you.
Please live for yourself.
Please live for yourself now.
Please spend your time in a world where you can see, hear, and feel so that you can be at ease.