When dreams for the future don't come true

Don't worry about that — your parents are right.
I don't think parents are investing just to make your dreams come true.
Dreams = reality; this is not necessarily the case. Also, dreams can change as much as you want. This is because I see, know, learn, and change, and it changes due to the influence of many people and the environment.

Are all people unhappy when the dreams they drew when they were kids didn't come true?
I wonder if people who didn't meet the eligibility requirements due to injury or illness are hopeless?
Rather than making that dream come true, what really matters is how much effort I made towards that dream.

That's why your parents are supporting you, saying that you don't have to worry about it, that nothing is wasted.

No one has a wasted life.
Don't get caught up in your dreams and throw your best into something you can get carried away with right now ◎
I'm also rooting for you (*^^*)

It was a “traveler.”
That's a terrible one.
Wandering around the world, going back and forth as I felt that day...
I was longing for a trip around the world by hitchhiking in Monkey Rock!
However, writing it as the occupation I live in now is the exact opposite of “chief priest” (laughs)

Well, this was really a “dream (not reality).”
But Sakusan is a “dream (goal),” isn't it?
So from here on, I'll replace it with dreams ⇒ goals and talk about it.

The goal of the first aspiration is difficult to reach, and there is also a second aspiration, but it is inferior to the first...
If you don't reach your goals, your parents will be unhappy...
Is that what you think?

Now, all of a sudden, here's the problem.

Q: There is a very steep mountain. There were two climbers there.
The first person made a desperate effort and was able to climb to the 8th station, but unfortunately they couldn't reach it.
The second one flew over to the top of the mountain by helicopter.
I was able to reach it without any trouble.
In this case, which climber do you think would be praised?
Also, which one has the highest “experience points as a mountaineer”?

... do you understand what I'm trying to say?

The summit is a goal, and certainly a great thing to reach.
But what's more important is the process up to that point.
I want them to gain experience points, train, and live a strong life without getting frustrated in this difficult and difficult modern society.
This is what your parents want.

Just as there are lots of mountains, it's okay to have lots of goals.
And none of them are superior or inferior, and the appearance of that person moving towards them is important.

Incidentally, I haven't secretly given up on my dream of being a traveler.
I plan to take on the challenge someday! Life is long, isn't it ♪

I've had a dream since I was a kid. I really wanted to be a pilot, but I studied too much (?) Then my eyesight got worse when I was in high school, and it became an unfulfilled dream. I loved building ore radios, making batteries, and making speakers. The university was also aiming for the Faculty of Engineering, but I gave up due to family circumstances.
In the world, even if you want to be a sumo wrestler, you may not be tall enough, or you may not be able to choose an occupation depending on your gender. It has nothing to do with the person's efforts. There are many dreams, hopes, and goals that you cannot do anything with your own efforts. But it's important to have dreams and goals.
From 1941 to 1944, Nazi Germany has a history of deporting millions of Jews to extermination camps and murdering them in specially developed gas facilities. Among those deported to the camp, there are also those who lost their dreams and hope of living due to the reality they were placed in, and died in the camp. Among them, it seems that there is a fact that people who did not give up hope that the war might end survived reluctantly.
It's sad when your dreams don't come true, but that doesn't mean your life ends. Also, what I want to do isn't necessarily my field of expertise, and it's rare to be evaluated by others for doing what I want to do. If you look at the careers of people who are currently active on TV, there isn't a single person who has lived the life they wanted. Everyone went through a life of twists and turns, hit a wall, and developed their own values.
I am currently a 67-year-old chief priest, but I left college at age 22 and worked for the same company for 36 years. Since it was a nationwide enterprise, I experienced the financial insurance business, hotel business, ceremonial ceremony business, etc., and I also experienced sales, advertising, customer service work, food management, contract management, general affairs accounting, labor management, etc. All of them were my first fields, and I was often confused, but I was able to work with a fresh feeling. Even when I was a salaryman, I almost never got the job I wanted.
You have a youth that respondents don't have. Parents don't invest in their kids either. Your role as a parent is to empower you to live alone. You are the one who crosses the ocean of life. Please face forward and move forward. Gassho

Sakusaku-sama
Hello. I took a look.

It's also an amazing story about dreams for the future where results come out when you're a teenager. That's probably what I've been working on since I was little. It is said that that dream didn't come true, but for me, my dream was “this!” It's not something like that, I think the “shape” is changing. If you keep thinking about it, for example, you may not be able to apply it to an occupation that is a dream itself, but there are also occupations that do similar jobs even though the occupations and industries related to the occupation are different. Of course, there are things you can't do without that occupation, but in fact, there are quite a few things about other occupations where you notice, “Oh, I've wanted to get that job, but in fact, I wanted to do this job through that occupation.”

For example, since I was little, there was a time when I loved flowers and wanted to be a flower shop, partly because of my grandmother's influence. Right now, it doesn't seem like they have anything to do with it as a monk, and in fact, monks have an important job (waitering) of putting up Buddha flowers in the main hall. It's not a flower shop itself, but I'm able to interact with flowers on a regular basis.

It's important not to “make too many decisions” about life. There isn't just one hope. Hope is something that goes away “when you're not watching,” and it won't go away “as long as you keep watching.”

Giving back to your parents is not about you doing something for your parents; it's about living with the feeling of “thank you for giving birth,” and living in a good mood from the bottom of your heart. That's because your joy is your “parent's joy.” There is no such thing as “regret.” People only show up as regrets when they lose sight of their gratitude, their background in life, and the important things in front of them right now. There are people who don't regret doing anything, and there are also people who continue to regret it even if they have achieved tremendous success in society.

When in doubt, stop and focus on the important things in front of you. I think that accumulation will turn regret into hope. It is only because we have been frustrated that we can know gratitude and gratitude. I'm rooting for you. Gassho