How should we live

Hi Anna, my name is Sanuki from Shikoku.
I've read your question.
It seems that the act of pulling out hair comes from stress, but it is true that it has accumulated quite a bit of stress.
Do you have a lot of anxiety about the future?
I think it's great to have so many things I want to do. The place where each one of them would originally be a brilliant future has stumbled at a place where people can live.
I think it would be a waste.
Work and life are important issues that are inseparable, but I think worrying about whether you can eat is a sign of not wanting to make a mistake with your choices.
When you're young, you also have time to start over even if you fail.
Have the courage to take on the challenge of doing what you want to do most. You won't know the results until later.
Right now, I think all you have to do is look forward and move forward.
I feel that it would be a waste to look only at one aspect of the future and get bogged down.
It seems to incite irresponsibly, but isn't it far healthier than losing hair while pessimistic about the future?
Don't give in to stress, because only you can walk through your life.

Nice to meet you, Anna.

You don't have to worry about your grades.
You might think you're being sluggish, but who are you comparing yourself to what?
They just don't show it to people, and they all have things that are surprisingly dull.

I wonder if it has to work well?
Isn't it okay to take a little detour?

I think they were really frustrated because they didn't like class?
You weren't messing with your hair because it was dull, right?

I wanted to make sure.

I mean I'm here...
I mean I'm alive...
Only then can you go back to yourself.

I was lonely.

huh! I wanted to say it, but I couldn't...

There were a lot of things I wanted to say, but I know it was hard, so I can't say everything I thought, and I really don't want to see a painful face, but I unknowingly did my hair...
there's nothing you can do about it, is there?

I don't want to cause trouble, so I want to be able to live on my own.

but...

You don't have to be a good kid who can tell the difference.
You don't have to think that I have to work hard.

You're not sweet at all.
you're doing your best to worry about it, aren't you?
You should do what you can do now as much as possible right now.

You don't have to worry about anything.
You're more important now than thinking ahead.

You may not be able to be honest, but once you say, “Wow!” Let's try shouting.
Let's cry to our heart's content.
Let's try spitting it all out.

I'm sure what's stuck in my chest will go away quickly.

It's fine.

I'm sure that person understands you better than you think...

I'm sorry.
I wonder if that was off the mark...?

just hair?
Are my nails okay?

Both are very important to girls.
I have to take care of it...

It feels like you're not living in the present, but in a world of thought. I thought about what was the cause, and I thought it was when I was in elementary school.

“My grades are mediocre, and my personality is poor, so no matter what I do, I don't do well...” ↑ These are all thoughts away from reality where you compare yourself to someone else.

First, stop comparing yourself to others. It doesn't mean anything. If you compare it to people who are better than yourself, there are probably only bad people in the world. You can be who you are now. As is. That's the truth. It's neither good nor bad.

One more thing, let's not bring up stories from the past. Maybe you had a bad feeling when you were in elementary school. However, there is no point in dealing with it now. You are living well in the present. That's reality. It should be satisfied. When I move with my heart and thoughts, I don't notice that I'm satisfied, and I have something else to be happy about. and I will search for happiness.
You'll go blind.
Your eyes should be showing the truth exactly as it is.

Humans were just doing their own thing back then.
Humans are strange, aren't they?
Group living, even though they seem to be acting in a group, it's just that everyone is only doing their own thing.
Whether you go on an excursion or do the same studies, your point of view is different.
It doesn't taste good to people who have eaten the same thing, so I can't eat it.
Even though they think cats are cute, there are people who hate them so much that they hate them.
Everyone acts differently after the chime sounds.
Everyone is doing their own thing.
I live my own life.
This is the essence of life.
However, this doesn't mean you can do whatever you want, selfish.
There are rules in group life, so it's not common to disrupt everyone's harmony.
If you come across a similar situation next time, try strongly to live your own life without being influenced by these people.
If you intervene there and it just becomes painful, please read it through like a line.
Things you don't want have been read through. Don't deal deeply with them.
This is because it is important to read through your own inner thoughts as well.
You don't have to pick up every thought that comes up one by one.
Even with this answer, you can leave the answer “I don't really like it” as read through.
Don't store anything heavy on yourself. That's the way to get rid of your stress.

When I was in high school, I also had a habit of warming my hair around the center parting of my hair.
Instead of picking it off, just peel it off one by one.
The hair doesn't break quickly, the root (hair root?) It's a pleasure when everything falls out, and it doesn't hurt much when it falls out well.
Around that time, I began to worry about my hair because I was worried that my hair might be thin or that I would go bald in the future.
Strangely enough, when I was worried, I lost extra hair, and I became nervous when washing my hair or losing hair on my pillow.
However, when I was a college student, I noticed that habit had disappeared.
I also feel that my hair loss was worse when I was worried about hair loss.
I don't know the exact reason why the habit disappeared when I became a university, but the environment changed, and I feel like I had a fulfilling life since high school.
So don't worry too much and don't give up hope that someday when the environment changes, it might resolve itself.