Hello.
I work in the hospitality business.
Most of our customers are elderly, but often, foot problems don't heal easily. What happened? They say things like that, but I can't really put into words what to answer.
How can I ease my feelings
I think it might be light weight, but I can't find it.
You are a very kind person.
I think I'm just asking you to listen to the story.
They're not talking about wanting you to get rid of your pain or getting good advice.
I see, it's tough. It's enough just to say that you take care of yourself and that feeling.
I'm sure that old man has been saved.
Marurin-san
Problems I have that I can't do anything about
I think I'd like someone to listen to it.
It's not an answer, it's about getting an answer
You're probably looking for it.
If you tell them words like this
If you think about it in the direction of softening feelings
The words might not come up.
Let's do our best
It's fine
It can't be helped
Everyone is like that when they get older etc
Instead of telling the other person something
The other person's emotional words
listen
Agree
I'm going to ask questions
Is that so
How now
Are you feeling it
If you say it's painful
It's painful isn't it
If you say it's painful
It's painful isn't it
However, this too
If you say it like this, it's fine
It ends up being the same thing.
The other party isn't looking for answers
I think they want them to respond
I think I want them to accept their emotions
Try putting it in one corner of your head.
Wanting to respond to the other person's suffering is a wonderful spirit, isn't it?
What that person is looking for may not be just “words” or “answers.”
For example, there are people on this site who are genuinely asking questions about Buddhism and Buddhism, and this is also something that can be answered clearly to such people. However, there are also people who simply want people to understand their loneliness, want to tune in, and just want encouragement, and there are also people who feel refreshed by saying it in the form of questions here.
Whether or not they are really close to themselves and face them sincerely may be a major way to get rid of the other person's suffering.
Even if it is an intractable disease that cannot be cured, the feeling of being close and in tune with “this person accepts me and I can spend my time with peace of mind,” and the act created by it is one aspect of mercy. Seeing each other as it is is also a side of mercy. Not only do they give good advice, but they are also merciful to help them act together.
Even if you never know if it will heal, please stay close to the feeling that person is looking for. I don't have enough of that feeling, so I can only offer these words.
I think it's important to determine what that person is looking for.
A. An information advisor group that provides information that can be cured by that person doing this.
B. A sympathic group that understands that person's loneliness and is in tune with them.
C. An action volunteer group that acts with that person.
D. A family that dares to watch over that person for their own spiritual growth.
They say they wouldn't dare teach this or that in the world of traditional Japanese palace carpenters.
After all, they don't listen even when they teach while they're doing their own thing. Most people don't come to the ascetic dojo, nunnery, or sanzen-kai. Everyone “comes to do their own thing.”
It seems that they keep it quiet until they really want it to be taught.
If you want to help that person even if you want to give up your private wealth, please buy them an amulet first. If you really listen with an open mind, ask them in a way that really snuggles up, and give them encouraging hopeful information.
We often talk about our jobs with the elderly.
I don't know if it's helpful, but in my case, I often answer this way.
it hurts, doesn't it...
That's because I've used it a lot.
It's proof that you've been working so hard for a long time.
But that's because it's not a good reason to pour oil like a machine.
They get along very well without adding fuel, don't they?
If it's a machine, it won't last 2 to 30 or 80 years at most.
I've been working a lot, so maybe it's about time my legs are getting louder.
Even though I use the body I got from my parents at my own leisure, they've often asked me that it's impossible until now.
Are you properly thanking your feet?
It would be a pity if they only complained “it hurts,” even though they've been dating me for a long time.
They've asked me a lot about how to do it until now, so I have to rub them thoroughly even when they take a bath.
“Thank you so much for today. Thanks for hanging out with me.” I mean.
Then I'm sure they'll go out with you without raising the sound a little more.
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