How to improve your sense of self-affirmation

Aren't all people's evaluations based on “what others think”?
First, let's stop using that yardstick. The yardstick for comparing yourself to others is something you make, so you can stretch and contract freely. I'm not satisfied no matter how long it's been.
People's evaluations are the standard for everything, so if you get scolded or warned, you blame yourself.
Furthermore, I have developed a habit of blaming myself.
Maybe you have a habit of saying negative words? “It's no good,” “it's difficult,” “it's completely zero,” etc...
If you have a habit of saying it, it's also important not to consciously say it. That's because this is also a lie I made up myself.

When you meet people for the first time, you get nervous talking about a new environment and people at work that you aren't that close with.
However, even if you're nervous, don't think it's good or bad, just leave it as it is.
Also, when talking to people, if you are aware of their evaluations, an extra feeling arises, such as “I want to look good, I can't be this kind of person,” and you won't be able to see people just the way they are right in front of you. Please take a look at the person in front of you right now without adding anything, such as likes and dislikes, or strengths and weaknesses. Surprisingly, it's something you can talk about with peace of mind without being nervous.

I don't think I'm good at talking to people either, so I always try to do this. It's fine, there's nothing to be afraid of. Failure is OK, too.

Maybe there were bad things about my relationship with my father in the past. But there's absolutely no going back to the past. Right now, a new time is beginning. Please put aside things from the past and look at “now,” “what is in front of you,” and “what is in front of you.”

If there are people who fall in love with you, it may change.
It can be a friend or boyfriend, but it seems like a friend already exists, so
Maybe it's a good idea to be proactive in love.

The essence of every phenomenon in the world (eye, ear, nose, tongue, body, and mind) is suffering.
Even images seen by the eye are stimulated by light energy hitting the eye, and eye cells continue to be attacked by weak light rays.
There will always be pain and dissatisfaction in any situation in life.
If you're completely satisfied with everything, you'll be able to graduate from living and attain Buddhism. Those of us who have not attained Buddhism must be full of dissatisfaction.
What I want to say is that there is no life without suffering or dissatisfaction, and that is “illusory happiness.”
Once you've despaired of everything, try searching for good places in the world and searching for your strengths.

Marie

Hikusaya of a sense of self-affirmation
What is a negative image of the home and the world

As if you were feeling it yourself
Maybe my relationship with my father is extremely big.

If that's the case
If you have a low sense of self-affirmation, you can raise it
In order to change negative to positive
Instead of doing something

I think it's about knowing the reason and being convinced.

Father to Marie
In order to obtain a title or educational background from an early age
I think they requested thorough efforts
If you don't have a title or educational background, you can't go around the world

If you turn this upside down
It's a message that you can't just be you.

I think that's why Marie has a low sense of self-affirmation.

What I think is childhood in particular
Who you are, who you are

You are important
If you're a special person, you have to get your whole existence accepted
I think they might be driven by anxiety.

What is Marie's low sense of self-affirmation
It's not essential
By father's message
I think it's about knowing what has been planted.

At the same time, Marie went through her father
I wonder if they've created something called a male image
Isn't there

Therefore, it is also sometimes seen by men as romantic partners
I think I'm no good at it.

“What should I do to positively perceive the world and myself?
Also, what kind of state of mind can we call it “happy”? ”

In response to this question
I think this way of thinking makes it impossible to see a way out.

Instead of taking it positively
Know why you're taking it negatively
I don't feel happy right now.

nor
“If you're not someone you think 'I can trust this person, '
I don't feel like talking or socializing. ”

I mean
I think intuition is important,
I don't think you can understand people unless you interact with them.

If you get involved with people, you may get hurt.
It's not just that kind of encounter
An encounter where I think I'm glad I met this person
I think it will definitely happen.

Please try it with a sense of heart and a little bit of courage.

huh? You might think so, but let's forget those words for once.
You just need to be “just a person.”
Ordinary, ordinary, very ordinary. They live in mediocre, super-mediocre, and po-mediocre.
Being aware of mediocrity is the shortest, shortcut, and shortcut for returning to your true life-size self.
This is because trying to walk up the “likely uneven mountain path” built by someone who “enhances self-affirmation” is like grasping shadows that are too abstract and vague, and have no shape.
I think that kind of thing is to establish “the illusion that something that didn't originally exist can be saved by making a special facility and meeting those conditions.”
Self-affirmation, self-esteem, self-acceptance are words that have come to be often said in the psychology industry over the past ten years, etc., and there is magic in these words. When such words are made, many people may operate a circuit where they specifically want something they didn't originally have, such as “Oh, I don't have a sense of self-affirmation,” “I'm equivalent to that,” and “I want to be able to love myself.”
In words similar to that,
lack of confidence, love for oneself, self-esteem, identity...,
A lot of people get implied when they say, “You don't have a hundred, do you?”
You might think it's a strange conclusion
“It's fine without it!” Let's get excited.
At that moment, there will be no laughter from such words.
“It's fine not to be positive, it's fine if you don't have a sense of self-affirmation, you don't have a great title, it's fine, it's just plain!” Please try saying it cheerfully in the futon.
You have been freed from the illusory sense of inferiority and spells you have created, and starting today, you are your true self. You'll be aware of your mediocre self (Buddha nature).

('-omega-`) “Self-affirmation? Those are words created by people. From the time you began to affirm in your heart that there was such a monster, you became even more captivated by those words, and you probably couldn't even move as a bonus. If that's the case, right from the beginning, if you don't carry something that heavy, yay.”