Is suicide something you shouldn't do

Hi
I'm a 20 year old guy who is currently in his 3rd year of college
I'm still in a situation where my third year of college has just started, but for some reason, my retirement years have been confirmed, and I'm in a situation where it's difficult to graduate even if I continue to stay at the university.
I couldn't find anything I wanted to do or hope for the future anymore, and I was worried, and I even began to think that I would take my own life. I think Nagoya university students who passed away the other day felt the same way.
Looking back, luckily until now, I have been blessed with family, friends, and a lover (now we are separated), and I think I have lived a very happy life. It is also true that the feeling of “I wonder if that's enough” has also sprung up from such a sense of satisfaction.
My ideal, or rather what I took for granted, was to get married like my parents and have a family and raise children. However, as I thought about my current situation, my abilities, social environment, etc., all the time, and investigated what kind of lives people with similar circumstances were going through, I found that that was impossible either.

To be honest, it's already tough and I'm satisfied.
There is no purpose or hope for living. Living a life far from one's ideals is also miserable and painful.
I'm sure there are people who think it's about Soshiki, but for me it's painful, painful, and irresistible.

Is it bad to take your own life?
Also, when that happens, what kind of words should I leave to reduce my parents' and siblings' worries even a little?

4 Zen Responses

You shouldn't commit suicide.

I read it.

Dear Angus, I'm feeling really overwhelmed since my second year of college has been decided.

Thank you for taking the time to ask about suicide.

My personal experience is that you shouldn't commit suicide.

I also experienced the suicide of an acquaintance, and I was tormented by flashbacks over and over again.

I'm in trouble if I kill myself.

I'm also hurt when I'm in the middle of the consultation.

Please don't die.

“It's also miserable and painful to live a life far from my ideals. ” and

As they say, life isn't that sweet.

Those who live while looking at the bottom are also living while being hurt.

Angus's goal is to get married like her parents and have a family and raise children.

This retirement year will definitely enrich your life.

You can be kind to others only because you've failed. I understand people's suffering.

It fosters a heart that empathizes with the feelings of wives and children when they have a family and children.

You are having a very important experience.

Let's start over from here. Let's live together.

Namu Amida Buddha

One for all. All for one.

Wouldn't it be a problem if people recommend “suicide is a recent trend”? that kind of world will degrade, right?

Who is suicide “bad” for in the first place?

It doesn't just mean “bad” for you.

Because you're not just who you are. “You” is a collection of various “relationships” and “miracles” that lead to you, starting from the moment a wild boar dwells in your mother's stomach.

A long time ago, I almost killed myself once because of something. But now I think “I'm glad I didn't die at that time.” I'm glad I stopped.
Such a day will surely come for you too ('･･`)

Are 90% of people who commit suicide “depressed”? Talk to a medical institution

Some experts say that 90% of people who commit suicide are “depressed.”
If that's the case, your desire for suicide may be a “symptom of depression” that goes away once you become healthy.
I don't really want to commit suicide; maybe I'm just temporarily out of energy due to symptoms of “depression.”
Why don't you talk to a medical institution?

Buddhism says that the mind is impermanent.
Don't think that your current feelings are the truth that won't change forever.
For example, a person who committed murder after being swept away by temporary murderous intent would regret it if murderous intent had passed when they were arrested.
However, once you've done it, you can't go back to normal.
Like that, being swept away by temporary emotions is risky.

Everything about humans is Saio is a horse

Dear Angus

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

I feel that you are a little pessimistic and have fallen into a sense of emptiness...

I remember being quite disappointed that due to circumstances, after the third year of college was over, I took a leave of absence for 2 years and was forced to go to ascetic practice as a monk, and the life plan I had drawn up until then was greatly shaken...

I wonder if it's going to be the second year...

When I was a student, there was also a tough historical background for employment, and I wonder if about 30% of people left their years, including those from employment ronin and civil service exam ronin...

The exam was tough, depending on the department, to the extent that there were rumors that the number of international students was increasing in order to raise various expenses for the university.

So, there were quite a few old people around... but well, it was about to be done, and I feel like there was some brightness...

Well, I was given a year's grace and time, and at this time, how about studying abroad, setting up a double school aiming for qualifications, or going on a backpacker trip to see the world...

It is also said that detours and detours are the real thrill of life.

My son actually wanted to be a politician.

However, I became a monk, began to practice Buddhism, and now I am able to find greater significance and work on it than what I wanted to become.

Everything about humans is like a horse, and disaster and fortune are like a rope raging.

“Is suicide a bad thing to do?”...

If you were to answer in a Buddhist way, you would place importance on the state of mind rather than the pros and cons of suicide itself.

If the mind is invaded by ignorance (fundamental ignorance) or worry, it is necessary to somehow treat it with Buddhism.

I would be grateful if you could take this opportunity to start practicing Buddhism in order to overcome that.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

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