I don't understand the feelings of people who don't want to be cured

There is also a possibility that the statement “I want to stay sick” itself is due to illness.
It's a dilemma, but in order to make the person want to cure the disease, it may be necessary to treat the disease.
I don't know the specific name of the disease, but in the case of mental symptoms, the sense of burden of changing the status quo (taking new actions) may be much greater than normal people.
For example, “Let's go see the doctor tomorrow”
To the extent that I was told, “Let's go see President Obama without an appointment right now,” “Murimuri! It's definitely impossible!” I feel it.
Then, in fact, even fans of the president will say, “I don't want to go that far and meet the president; it's fine not to meet the president.”
In other words, when it comes to initiating the action called treatment, we feel burdened by the fact that it is “a difficult act” more than we can imagine, and it may be tough.
People with lower back pain cannot carry normal weight luggage. People with mental illness may feel abnormally burdened even by normal things.
It would be better to consult with a specialist doctor, public health nurse, or even someone at the government office in charge of people with mental disabilities about how to connect to treatment.
Buddhism says that the mind is impermanent. The feeling that “it's okay to stay sick” is also changing moment by moment.
Maybe you think “I have to treat it after all” at an unexpected moment, and I may think so in the near future.

Nice to meet you, Mr. Tail the Corgi.

The text conveyed a lot of feelings that important people care about their mental illness and that they want to get better at something.
Is someone important to you a lover?
I'm sure Corgi's tail is a gentle person who likes to take care of and is easy to take care of.
However, from the text, I also got the impression that he is a strict person who is strict with himself and demands from others the harshness he thinks...
I'm sure if Corgi Tail receives similar advice from friends, etc., they will surely do their best to help them somehow.
I think it's very precious and very wonderful.

I also think that the severity of the corgi tail is extremely positive for my work and my own way of life,
However, I feel that it is a bit dangerous if you ask for it from other people, especially those close to you, such as family, lover, children, and friends.

In the world,
There are women, and there are men.
Some people are serious, while others are lazy.
Some people are hard on themselves, and there are also people who are sweet to themselves.

And for important people,
There are people who want that severity,
For important people
There are also those who seek peace and healing.

By all means, the tail of a corgi
Please acknowledge the diverse minds of others.

And by all means...
Please acknowledge that you're not a perfect person.
Please acknowledge your weaknesses.
and
Please acknowledge other people's imperfections.
Please acknowledge other people's weaknesses as well.

> How should we accept the feelings of people who want to stay sick?

However, instead of trying to understand and understand the feelings of sick people,
I think I should just accept it as it is.

I think that means admitting all of that person's flaws, weaknesses, and current illnesses.

I'm not a doctor, so
I don't know what kind of mental illness that important person has,
It is said that they were diagnosed as “irretrievable at this rate.”

I was consulted by appropriate institutions and teachers such as hospitals, etc.
We recommend that you follow those instructions.

I hope that important people get well soon.

Hmm... this is very painful... I really understand.

I'm not a medical expert, so it's just my personal opinion, but as long as physical violence has occurred, we must never accept the current state of affairs. Shouldn't we be aware that not only important people, but Corgi Tail himself could be in an irretrievable situation due to some kind of “momentum”? I don't know what kind of medical condition it is, but it's probably a state where the person himself cannot suppress his impulses due to illness?
Corgi Tail is fine alone, so please go to the doctor who diagnosed you again right away and discuss your current condition.

I've heard that the most difficult part of treating a mental illness is taking them to the hospital. In that sense, the tail of a corgi isn't the only special problem. I'm sure the hospital teacher will accept it and make some suggestions.

Okay, skipping the conversation, but there are multiple people around me who have mental illnesses. It is true that some of those people “feel safe because they are sick.” This is because I can tell myself that the reason I'm not doing well at work or in my life is not because of my humanity, but because of my illness. But, it's the opposite of the feeling that “I really want to live like a human being,” but not being able to.

It's just my guess, but I think the important ones really don't want to hurt the tail of the corgi. But it hurts... and by hurting you, you feel guilty... I want to be sick to distract from that feeling of guilt... but the real truth is that I don't want to cure my illness... but I can't do it myself... isn't that right?
This is my request. It's fine to be alone, so let's go to the teacher again.

Then, at the same time, please contact us about DV related or something related to violence at the same time. This does not mean turning important people into criminals; it is to get hints on how to keep a distance from violence.

① They seem to want to stay sick.
That's a lie. No one wants to stay sick.
You're just spoiled because you're a good person in a good or bad way.
Aren't you just trying to stay in a safe zone because you want to be yourself without leaning towards the doctor or you, and you don't want to fall either way?

② I use verbal and physical violence because of my illness.
It's just DV because he's justifying that it's because of an illness.
You're a good person, and your weak position depends on good things.

③ The person himself~ refuses to go to the hospital.
Normally, no matter who listens to this story, it's dangerous. If I were Anata, I would run away to my parents' house and get divorced, but I wonder if marriage had twists and turns. Even if you don't retreat, you should create a really peaceful home for yourself and the child born from your stomach.
Just because you fell in love with it, don't feel like a responsibility just because you got married!
He has parents at his parents' house, so it's better for him to break up early.

➃ They say they can't stop the violence themselves, and that's sad.
That too is a lie. I want to do DV because I want to. I choose to do DV because I want to do it.
If you're really important, I won't make you suffer, and I'll listen to what you say.
People who don't do it will never do DV, so you've been completely fooled.
That's because you're a super nice person for better or worse ~ ♪

Corgi's tail should grab Danna's tail based on the above points and make them call him Gawan.
I think I'm being fooled too much by using superficial language.
If I were your father, I would recommend divorce so you don't make your partner emotional.
I can't even control my own mind, I can't stop my violence against my wife, I don't try to heal my body, and I don't think about my family after that at all (it's important in words, it's a lie!) Such a man has no future or bright future. It's bad to say that you still like that person, but isn't it too loud?
Damn it, you're not qualified to have a family. Children are also faced with the same situation, and they are unhappy.
It sounds cold, but I think that's where you really should open your eyes.