The soul of a daughter who committed suicide

Minori-sama
I'm Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.

“My soul is lost in that place, so go pick them up. The statement “If you don't go by the 49th, you won't be able to go home,” I wonder who from where said such an appropriate thing and made Minori suffer.

Hearing this, I felt the feeling of Minori suffering from not being able to go to the scene, but suffering because she had to go, and it made my heart ache too. I even feel angry at the person who said it.

There is no such thing as a young lady's soul lost. Of course, I haven't suffered or wandered around this world. I believe that I lived my life to the fullest, and now I feel at peace, that I'm in the Buddha's world and watching over people I have relationships with.

It's an invisible problem, so I think many people will say a lot of things. Most of them are probably out of favor, but I know that some of them are superstitious and malicious.

Once again, the young lady's soul is neither lost nor tormented. I would like you to believe the words of the monks who are experts and reject the words of people outside the school.

Also, “be firm” is a heartless phrase. Who can do things well in a short time after losing their most important child?

It's okay to cry. Cry, cry, cry to your heart's content. I spent 17 years raising them with great care, so isn't it okay to cry for 17 years? No matter how much Minori mourns, the young lady won't get lost or suffer because of that.

Just as the young lady lived through her life, Minori also cried, and I think that a new relationship with her will open up after that.

In difficult times, please spell out your thoughts to hasunoha again.

Minori.

I think it's painful.

I'll talk about it from the standpoint of the flow (teaching) I was taught in the Shingon sect.
If it were the flow I was given,
When the Shingon Monk is on a wake, if the person himself is not present
The person who died, no matter where he is
They call them back to the place (if it's anything other than the Pure Land) and hold a wake funeral.

So, if the funeral is over, it's fine.

But as parents, I'm worried about the world I can't see.
There's no news, so you might not believe the words alone.

However, I think it would be very difficult to go to the site etc.

In such a case, by all means, if there is a temple that Minori is related to or believes in
Go there and tell your daughter's name and situation in your heart to the principal
What if by any chance there is such a thing as parked on the spot
Please save me from the scene! Please pray very hard.

The Buddha will always save you.

If you can't think of a temple
At the temple that enshrines Fudo Myoo
I recommend praying to Mr. Ofudo.
If you are very worried, please have your Goma repaired.

I'm sure you can feel that it's okay to be protected by the Buddha.

Additional note: I don't say in my denomination that everything was fine and there were no problems as soon as he passed away.
There is a memorial service for the death of those who have passed away.
I hope to have a Buddhist relationship for my daughter and for her mother to pray to the Buddha.
The 49th anniversary is not just for the bereaved families or for those who died.
Those who have died also do their best to practice ascetic practices.
I think it's good to think that memorial services and pilgrimages for bereaved families work like walking sticks for that purpose.

People who have passed away, no matter what form they take, will pass away from this world without mistakes. There will be no physical body. However, life changes shape and continues to exist. There are also people who say they will feel even closer than when they are alive. There is absolutely no need for those left behind to think “I should do it” or “I'm useless if I can't do it.” All of this suffering is delusional.

If my daughter is at a loss, I would like someone who said such a thing to bring her.
No one can bring them. That's because I didn't get lost without making a mistake.

True attainment of Buddhism is “attaining Buddhism yourself.”
It is about awakening to the principle that each life is selfless, selfless, and immortal according to the Buddha's proper guidance.
It's about “letting go of your feelings for that person, set them free, and be radiant.”
For example, let's say the mother died.
Let's say there were 3 children.
They both mourned firmly and did what they should have done.
However, there was only one person who did nothing.
In this case, nothing is being done only within this one person, so embarrassment and emotional drag will remain for a long time. This is because they try to process it within themselves, so it doesn't become a memorial service, and it's always been ruined.
A priest called a monk intervenes as a third party, and those who have feelings of sorrow for the deceased become equal to the selfless and selfless Buddha's heart, so they can see the truth as it is.
I (myself) think of those who have passed away.
Thoughts for the deceased unfold in my heart.
It reminds me that they may be suffering even now, and that they should have done this more.
These are thoughts that are being evoked in me as ❝ me ❞ and are raging.
That figure was projected like that, only in the mind of ❝ me ❞.
It means that my relationship with that person continues even now.
So, the only way to save that suffering is to save your own heart.
When one realizes one's selflessness, selflessness, and impermanence, and one's own mind attains Buddhahood, the deceased also attain Buddhahood.
This is because thinking about that person, and that feeling, is the original meaning of “soul.”
We should speak properly and further deepen our relationships with ourselves and those people.
You are now at the stage where you are suffering from your own grief, and I don't think you have really dealt with your deceased person yet.
The center of the memorial service is nothing other than communication between the deceased and those living.
Who are you facing?
I'm probably still myself...
Please dig deeper into that, face your daughter, and wake up selflessly and selflessly.
To that end, please seek Buddhism.
Nothing, going there doesn't mean that going to that place is a memorial service.
No matter what your daughter suffered or why she chose that path, I'm just forgiving her.