They probably have a habit of practicing conversation and having reflection sessions in their heads before and after talking to people.
We are living in the present moment, not in the past or in the future. First, let's be aware of that reality.
There is no point in thinking about the future or the past when you can only live in the present.
First, let's not have a reflection meeting after meeting and talking to people. Once you've come up with an idea, focus on who you are now. For example, if you are driving a car, focus your attention on the current state of the driver's hand movements, foot movements, scenery, sounds, etc.
It was good for me too, and I often had reflection meetings alone. “Maybe I should have said this,” “Maybe I hurt you,” etc...
However, once I realized reality and stopped thinking about the past, I stopped having such reflection meetings. It's about taking a close look at your current situation.