I went to get married as an only daughter, and after splitting up, there will be no one to inherit the tomb my father built.
In such cases, do graves always have to be destroyed?
Can't we just leave it as it is and let things happen?
Are your parents unfaithful?
Hello. I also read Retrospective Questions.
I don't know how bad you got along with your stepmother.
I don't know how you are holding memorial services for your parents right now.
When it comes to “what to do for the time being,” focusing on graves, “who is the successor/manager” is known, and management fees (names vary depending on the temple) are paid? If that is clear, I don't think anything will happen “right away.”
However, when I think about the future, “the next year” and “what will I do when my stepmother dies?” I think this is probably a problem that affects you.
If we're going to focus on that, I think it would be a good idea to “decide how to treat all relatives now.”
There are mountains of feelings I want to ease my feelings even a little bit, but there are times when I can't turn my eyes away from reality. I think it is also necessary for you to understand that point, so I will respond.
When a family member dies, inheritance occurs. If Yoshiko Becca's father leaves an inheritance, the stepmother, who is the heir, and Yoshiko Becca will inherit it. Each legal inheritance is one-half. Even if the father wrote a will to “give all property to the stepmother,” Yoshiko Becca has the right to receive one-quarter of the inheritance since there is a system called residual portion. If the father left no property and only debts, it is necessary to take inheritance abandonment procedures within 3 months from the time you learn about the existence of debts. If Yoshiko Becca has not gone through the procedure of abandoning the inheritance, it will be necessary to discuss inheritance division with her stepmother. One of the four struggles taught in Buddhism is grudge and hatred. It's the pain of being forced to meet someone you don't want to meet. I can understand the feeling that I don't want to meet my stepmother, but unfortunately it won't be a complete no-negotiation. It's uncomfortable, and I don't think I can run away from my father's inheritance.
If you don't like being present with your stepmother when it comes to your father's memorial service, I don't think you have to force yourself to attend. I think it would be nice if Yoshiko Becca did a memorial service for her father. However, please be careful not to turn all of your relatives into a situation where you turn enemies or have ties broken. I think my relatives will also understand to some extent that things aren't going well with my stepmother. I think it would be nice if you could successfully tell your relatives about your father's intention to hold a memorial service and hold a memorial service in Yoshiko Becca's own way.
Yoshiko Becca probably didn't adopt a child with her stepmother. I don't think I have any obligation to support or care for my stepmother. However, if your stepmother is gone and you go to the same grave as your father, I think you will be forced to act as the mourner and give them a funeral. If discussions can be made beforehand to leave it up to the stepmother's relatives, I think that's fine too. As for the future of my parents' house's grave, I have no choice but to carefully discuss it with the family temple while including permanent memorial services, cemetery reburial, etc. as options
I think so.
Graves must always be destroyed.
Don't leave it as it is and let things happen.
Your parents are unfaithful.
If you're worried,
It was crossed by a group with the people involved,
Please recommend it as soon as possible.