Aren't only people who insist on being humble are bossy?

　Buddhism is a religion of consciousness. It's about learning the results of learning from Shakyamuni and our ancestors called the ancestors of the Buddha, gaining “awareness,” and making use of it in one's own way of life. No matter what Buddha's teachings are, when you force others to endure or obey for your own speculations and interests, the Buddha's teachings cease to be Buddha's teachings.
I think talking about “let go of arrogance” and “be humble” is correct in itself. However, if the boss moves new employees at will and has the intention of making them endure their own instructions and orders, the original meaning will be distorted.

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Conversely, if they become arrogant, it seems like they are putting the cart before the horse.
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Your perception is correct. I think it was a wonderful realization.

As a similar example, “Buy and do the hardships you had when you were young.” I think I've heard that life lesson. It's a very valuable word if you feel like a life lesson when you've achieved results and goals through a lot of hard work yourself. However, when you are causing trouble or imposing patience on the person in front of you, if you say this life lesson, it becomes an excuse to justify or deceive “your own unfair acts.”

There is a word for contentment (knowing enough) in Buddhist teachings. There are times when landowners say these words to sharecroppers for the purpose of justifying small crop fees, and managers say these words to employees for the purpose of suppressing labor costs. However, the moment it is used in this way, contentment ceases to be Buddha's teaching.
To explain in detail, it doesn't fit within the character limit.

For details, I wrote in my humble blog before, so please check here.
Know enough (before) https://blogs.yahoo.co.jp/dorinji/19674236.html
Know enough (later) https://blogs.yahoo.co.jp/dorinji/19688865.html

I read your consultation.

When you're in a position to preach or teach something to people, that position is difficult.
The fact that they insist on something important but the person in question hasn't been able to do it is just as if they are talking about a monk, and it's a deafening story.

As a monk, I'm young, and even when I talk in various places, I'm worried that I won't be seen as “bossy even though I'm young.”
However, even if you talk to Odo in a low voice when you insist on something important, I don't think that will reach the other person.
I can't say it in a very loud voice, but I'm definitely not bossy, but I'm careful about gestures and directing so that it can be seen that they are “speaking proudly, confidently, and what they are convinced of.”

When bosses and seniors try to teach something, it may be unavoidable that they have an attitude of “I'm teaching the right thing.”

However, most of these are the words of our ancestors rather than the originality of that person.
I'm sure there is some truth in the words that many people have cherished over the years, and that's probably why there are so many words I've heard somewhere.
When I quote something from the sutras, I say things like, “I may not be able to rely on it, but please listen to it thinking that these are the words of the Buddha, not my words.”

If you ask about the same content, for example, from someone you respect, you may be able to honestly hear it.
As a listener, I think it's not the other person's personal teaching, but words from many seniors,
Also, as a preacher, it would be nice if they were so humble, saying that they are not teaching because they are superior, and that they are relaying words from many seniors.

A long time ago, luggage that fell apart during part-time work hit the back of my head repeatedly. I was immediately taken to the hospital, and a thorough examination was performed at a later date, but luckily there were no problems. However, the deputy store manager lost the workers' compensation application form I submitted. When I asked them to talk to the HR department, the deputy store manager didn't apologize a word and said it without being bad.
“Hey, the people in the HR department are working extremely busy so that you can work with peace of mind! Don't bother the HR department with that! “Be compassionate” to the people in the HR department!!!”
I don't know what kind of work the HR department does, but I just don't want to be told by you. Thanks to you, I wasn't able to return the 30,000 yen test fee that my mother finally reimbursed me.

In fact, black companies have a much more cult-like structure and methods than bad emerging religions. You should be aware of that. Google it on “corporate cult.”
Rather than being the result of arrogance or humility, it has been established as a kind of method or system. It's called morahara. This kind of “humility” does not mean sincerity; you can think of it as the meaning of being dyed in the color of the company.
The Buddha didn't say to be nice to any person. “It's more wonderful than anything else when you meet someone you can improve. However, it's much better to practice alone, than to be with people who drag each other's feet together.” However, at the same time, it is also necessary to know that Japanese companies are thoroughly cold against people who quit right away, even if they are black companies, or people who don't get through the “rules” getting a job again.

On the other hand, not everyone who says to be humble is bad.
It is also true that “there is no way to learn” if you completely deny that person just because they have any flaws. Old-fashioned craftsmen are particularly cranky. But I have skills. That's why Japanese companies have grown based on this culture of stealing technology even though they are sick of their mentors. What do you get in return from that... Profit and loss accounts and life plans are also important in order to live in a shabba world.

That's because the old man remembers himself over and over again and seems to be forgetful

These are the lyrics to a song.
Perhaps they insist on the importance of this because they are people who cannot be humble unless they consciously try to be humble.

By the way, there is also a phrase like this in the lyrics of the same song

Grandpa often worships Buddhist altars because it's a place I'll be moving soon