What should I do to think I'm fine just the way I am?

I read it.

It's about accepting who you are now.
Many things may have happened to you, but now you are living a happy life. I spend every day helping each other with my family.
That's really a happy thing, isn't it?
That and this is life, so there are times when you're not satisfied, and there are times when it's painful, isn't it?

Nevertheless, you have been kept alive through your relationships with so many people. You also have family members who are irreplaceable.

Please tell everyone how happy you are, and your children will definitely receive that happy feeling.

I sincerely pray that you, your children, and everyone in your family will live a happy life now and in the future.

First of all, I think it's important not to equate them.
As you have learned, I think “a mother is an object of affection from a child's point of view, no matter what kind of parent they are.” There are many consultations where “what I received from my mother when I was young” has always drawn attention to Hasunoha's questions.
However, I think it was probably the best way to live until it was sad, saying, “If you didn't do that, you wouldn't be able to live as a child.” how is it?
In Buddhism, it is called “devotion.” Are you doing the best you can? It's not compared to someone else. Are you able to spend the moment “I'm doing my best for me when it's easy for me to give up”?
Then, when asked, I said, “It's the best I can do.” Or rather, “I just haven't gotten serious yet.” It's something everyone is asking every moment. Ichiro is known as a hard worker, but the possibility of “giving up on it tomorrow” isn't zero.
Will you “know” that figure of yourself and fall in love with it? That's another matter. It doesn't fly a leg. The book ends without worrying about “what stage” you are in real life. I feel like I don't have to finish reading it right now.

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

There are places where “you can leave it as it is,” or “you can leave it as it is,” seems like the logic of a strong person.

It is a logic for suppressing the strong against the weak and the weak to remain weak.

Make them turn their eyes away from unreasonableness and convince them just the way they are.

To be honest, if “as is” and “as is,” I don't think it's necessary to force yourself to accept it.

We must not easily compromise on unreasonableness and absurdity. If you compromise, in the end, you may end up with nothing changing.

So, change, what do we need in order to change?

Good causal relationships (causes and conditions) are still necessary for good change.

There are many hints in Buddhism for reconciling that good cause and effect, so I hope you will be more interested in Buddhism and work on your practice.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

What should I do to accept myself just the way I am?
What should I do to fall in love with myself?

First, “I want to change who I am now.” There was such a thing.
Behind that feeling, there is a denial that I shouldn't be who I am now
I think so.
Don't deny or affirm the feeling that “I can't be who I am now”
However, admitting that I have that kind of feeling
I think it means accepting yourself just the way you are.
Don't judge your own natural feelings, thoughts, or thoughts
I think it's about admitting it as is.
It's not about denying it and going next, it's about admitting and then going next
It's a feeling. It's subtle, but...
One step before the feeling of wanting to like yourself
I think there's a feeling that you don't like it or don't like it,
It means not denying or affirming it, just acknowledging it.

Judging yourself is also a habit or habit
I think I have a negative view of myself in the back of my heart
I think there's also a reason why I have it.
It's not my fault that I have this negative view, my parents
I learned it by being encouraged by other environments around me,
This self-denial is the source of each person's hardship in their own form
I think it has become so.

In order to think I'm fine just the way I am, I have some kind of negative feeling in the back of my heart
I wonder if it is necessary to be clearly and concretely aware, revise, or erase
I think so.
I think one way is to get help from a counselor,
Positive and negative, meaning, value, sense, and judgment through zazen and nembutsu
A way to step away and directly feel your true self and state of affairs,
Originally, nothing good, bad, clean, or dirty, it was prepared without any excess or deficiency,
I realized the state of my life without any problems,
I think there is also a way to erase negative views in the mind.