The meaning of living

As a parent, it must be really painful to hear my son say “it's already over” himself. I think it's a natural emotion for any parent to want their children to be lively and have them smile.

At the same time, children also don't want to bother their parents, and they probably want them to be happy in the back of their hearts. First, I would like Tamago-san to get rid of your emotional fatigue. Please nourish your energy by eating delicious food and reading your favorite books. I think it's difficult for Tamago to suddenly smile, but please actually put it into words and tell her, “I'm satisfied enough just because you're alive.”
“I'm glad you ate your meal.”
“It's great to take a proper bath, isn't it?”
etc.
If possible, it's a good idea to attach it to a notebook. Please remember when you were just born, when you were just sleeping so easily that you were unbearably adorable. What a splendid growth compared to those days!

At first, it may be disgusting, but every day, if you can tell it from the bottom of your heart, I think your child will surely feel relieved that they are not not going to school, but that they are alive and that they have a mother who accepts it with both hands.

In adolescence, shyness is a serious problem.
There is a possibility that parents will be embarrassed to say the reason for truancy or the real reason, so there is also a possibility that my son hasn't told me the real reason yet.

The fact that my grades are falling and that I haven't been able to go to school very often is probably also a scene where I feel ashamed of my existence.
If you become an invisible person and don't get attention from your classmates, you can go to school,
I don't want to go to school because I feel like my classmates are watching me with strange eyes,
There is also a possibility of that feeling.

Learning is a joy for children around the world. If my son doesn't have negative feelings such as “embarrassment,” he probably doesn't like learning at school itself.
The same goes for the meaning of life. Only Buddha has no desire for life itself, and normal people want to live without a reason.
However, since there is a negative feeling of wanting to escape the pain of student life, the grand excuse “meaning of life” is simply necessary.
Rather than seeking the positive “meaning of life,” it may be difficult to honestly acknowledge one's negative feelings (weakness).

I think it's important to create an atmosphere where it's easy to talk about your true intentions.
It's important to listen to what your son said by repeating “I don't want to go to school” or “OK, don't you want to go?”

When people say “I've already finished,”
They say, “Idiot, it hasn't even started yet,”
It makes me want to say famous lines from “Kids Return (directed by Takeshi Kitano)” (laughs)

A question about the world that “I don't know the point of going to school.”
The intention is “I want to spend a quiet time.”
From the phrase “I'm done,” which is due to a drop in grades,
I can feel the high level of pride.

The kind words “maybe it means to search for the meaning of life,”
Throwing them out saying, “If you have time to say that, help with housework,”
It's a great guideline as a parent.
You can say which one you like.
Boys will grow up well no matter which one they listen to.

This is how I think about my son and say I want to get rid of the sense of blockage he feels
If you treat them with a kind feeling, your son will grow before you know it, and he is free from that sense of blockage.

That's what puberty is for boys.

I don't want to go to school. I don't understand the meaning.
I don't want to do this job. It's not right for me.
I don't understand the point of doing this work.

I prioritize thinking in my head like this, and when something isn't convenient for me, I try to run away for some reason. Of course, unless there is a reason such as bullying, etc., but if not, then that's overthinking the reason.

In modern education, no matter what you do, reasons stick together. Even in school education, reasons must be stated in various situations.
Being able to clearly state the reason is evaluated, and it is regarded as a good thing. There are situations where parents are not convinced unless they explain it with a reason. I think general society is becoming westernized in the same way.

The facts are different. There's no reason. You just have to do it. It doesn't matter if you're convinced or not. There is no reason to be born, there is no reason to live. If you think about it with your head, you might be able to say something that seems like an answer, but it's not true.
There's no point in living. That's because I'm being utilized by more power than what I think I am. Thinking with your head is confusing. You won't be able to get out of your suffering, and you won't be able to move. It's also important to move before you think.

At times like that, please show them the attitude of working together to defeat enemies that children hate.
・First, let the child do whatever they want (a sense of security that parents acknowledge who they are now)
・Since the act of worrying itself is equivalent to being “denied” from a child's point of view, it reveals trust without worrying too much.
“You'll be fine.” “I left it up to you.” “If you have any problems, I'll sue the school or the guy you don't like.”
・If you're worried, don't deny your child.
・There are many truant children even if it's not bullying. I won't try to force you to take advantage of it.
・It's not bothersome
・Parents are not in trouble (this is important)
・When parents blatantly express their troubled faces, they blame themselves, saying, “Oh, whatever...”, so stop.
・Parents will do their best to protect them. Protect children by getting into school (with both parents).
・Apologize what parents should apologize for. (There are cases where it is an important issue for children even if it is not a big deal for parents)
・Don't forget that this is the person in question.
・Look at your child as a friend. (If you're parenting, you'll be able to stand and the distance will expand steadily)
・ “Mom was bad”
・A phrase from “Dad was bad”
・If children don't feel a sense of security that they will definitely protect them anyway, they can't feel at ease.
・Let them take a cell phone or IC recorder with them, and if something bad happens or is bullied, let them call you right away.
Rather than just talking with the family, create an atmosphere where children can talk about their true intentions with a public third party.