The person who will become my husband wants to attend my maternal grandmother's memorial service.

A long time ago, I asked you a question about marriage.
Now I'm engaged to that boyfriend, the betrothal has been completed, and I'm just waiting for the date of the ceremony.

The official naturalization and wedding are yet to be completed, but before that, the 17th anniversary of my maternal grandmother's death will be held.
He wants to get out for it.
I think I'd like to say hello to my relatives.

However, my mother showed her displeasure with it.
My mother says we should visit graves in the order of his father's side ➡ his mother's side ➡ my father's side ➡ my mother's side.
They say they are sorry to have them participate in this mother's memorial service before visiting the other side's grave.
He says, “My parents don't care.”

Incidentally, his ancestors' graves are quite far away, and you can't go there without a well-organized day off.

3 Zen Responses

Isn't it good

He's a wonderful guy.

You think that far, don't you think?

Feelings are more important than shape, and the heart is the most important thing in memorial services.

I think it's a good time to say hello.

It's good to have a good deal

I read it.
congratulations. I sincerely pray for you.

Personally, I think that's fine, but after all, there are circumstances in each house...

I think it would be a good idea for everyone to choose how to proceed smoothly.

I'm sure your ancestors also sincerely rejoiced and blessed their relationship.
I sincerely pray that everyone will have a wonderful relationship and that they will all get along well and live happily together from now on.

There's no need to be caught in order, but balance is also important.

　Congratulations on getting married.

I think it's a great idea to consider Aya's greetings to her ancestors and face connections to her relatives.

At the same time, I don't think we should ignore the fact that Aya's mother is worried.
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They say we should visit graves in the order of his father's side ➡ his mother's side ➡ my father's side ➡ my mother's side.
They say they are sorry to have them participate in this mother's memorial service before visiting the other side's grave.
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Even though he said he didn't mind, Aya said, “I want to say hello to each of his paternal and maternal sides.” If he expresses his intention, I think his parents will be happy, and I think they will appreciate Aya's concerns. Within the limitations of distance and time, it would be impossible to “make both sides completely equal.” If we don't want to be equal, I think it's important to consider the balance between the two. I think it would be nice if they could consider a schedule to greet his ancestors and incorporate it into the schedule.

Even if you are invited to a wedding or wedding reception, it is difficult to slowly introduce each other on the day. In that sense, I think this memorial service is a good opportunity. I think greeting Aya's maternal ancestors and keeping them face to face with her relatives is a good thing for socializing with her relatives later.

Needless to say, be sure to explain the circumstances in advance to the person who will be the recipient of the 17th memorial service and ask them to agree to attend.

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