My best friend passed away in May.
Even though I can go to the grave to raise incense sticks...
Even though I can talk to them...
I couldn't put my hands together...
Is this because they haven't been accepted?
Is it because they don't want to accept it?
Is it better not to go to the grave?
Is it OK to go to the grave like this?
Please give us your opinions and suggestions.
Right now.
You don't have to be able to put your hands together...
It doesn't have to be accepted...
Go ahead, do whatever you want and do what you can do right now.
The memorial service is more exciting than the shape..
And don't forget it, and remember it from time to time.
Also, someday, the day will come when we can meet again.
When I put my hands together, I think my left hand is mine, and my right hand is Amida, and I put my hands together.
I think it would be nice if you were in front of the grave, thinking that your left hand is your best friend and your right hand is your best friend, so you can match them perfectly, and think they'll always be together.
Namu Amida Buddha
I read it.
Maybe so... That's because it's really hard to come to terms with the death of someone close to you.
Please ask the Buddha to properly receive guidance from the Buddha and be at peace with the Buddha from the bottom of your heart, and please keep quiet with the Buddha.
I'm also praying for that person to pass away in paradise, and I'm going to be quiet with Nembutsu.
Namu Amida Buddha
The Buddha will always guide that person correctly. And please rest easy from the bottom of my heart.
I think there will be no shortage of sorrow, but please think of that person and hold a memorial service with all your heart.
Apart from going to the grave or not going to the grave, I think either is fine now. I think it's fine when you think you can go.
Someday, your sorrow will surely heal and you will be able to accept it.
The relationship between you and that person will continue from now on.
Good evening
I would like to express my deepest condolences for the passing of my friend.
I also lost a dear friend about 15 years ago. It was a traffic accident. I still haven't sorted out my mind. It's hard, isn't it?
Suddenly putting your hands together to say hello to a friend you've never put your hands together until now is something unnatural, and it feels like they're no longer friends.
I think that's fine.
Please tell me about it at the grave. I'm sure it's working. After praying, it's a good idea to stop by memorable places you went together during your lifetime.
Gassho is an expression of respect and appreciation for the other person. I'm sure someday there will come a time when I can naturally focus my hands on graves from the bottom of my heart.
If you need to put your hands together, I'll put my hands together; if you need to accept the present, you have no choice but to accept it.
That means we don't need either right now.
In short, for Kumi-san, putting their hands together and whether or not they are accepting is fine for now.
However, there is a fact that I went to the grave without hesitation.
It's a fact that it's not “made me go,” it's not “I decided to go,” but “I went.”
Through the experience of my best friend's death, I thought, “Shouldn't I do it?” I think that obsession has blossomed in Kumi's heart.
Because of that, I even began to think about whether or not to go to the grave...
There is no need for distractions right now.
Please go and pray.
it's just...
I want you to feel close to friends.
That alone makes my best friend happy.