Change of feelings

I read your consultation.

First of all, it's wonderful to realize that obsession isn't good.
But after all, it's not that easy to divide, is it?

I also buy a new book by an author I like, but when my family reads it and throws away the book belt, I feel indescribable.
I feel like I understand that I want to keep my important things in perfect condition at hand.

If you preach like a monk, the changes in the world are impermanent, and nothing can stay the same forever. So the theory is that we shouldn't be obsessed with such things.
However, logic is logic.
That being said, there is definitely a feeling within Kanako that she was happy when Kanako got what she wanted, and there is also a feeling of being sad because of that, and there is also a feeling that she is worried because of that.

Both are true.
Even though it is an ephemeral world that is changing, we think about various things and live in it.

So, if you can't change your mind right now, you don't have to change it yet.

As a matter of logic, we shouldn't get attached to things. After understanding that somehow,
When you're happy, it's OK to be happy; when you're sad, you can shout that you're sad, and when you're frustrated.

Living is something that is carried out in various relationships with those around you.
Just as when things go well, they weren't made by myself alone,
When things don't go well, it's not just your fault.

Important things and important feelings are important because you can't easily say, oh yeah, it can't be helped, just because someone says something.
Even if you feel like you've somehow solved it with someone else's words, you may regret it again later.
I hope you can come into contact with many words, including the questions and answers here, and slowly search for answers that Kanako herself can be convinced by, that's true.

Things are nothing but things.
Nothing lasts forever. Even though it looks the same thing, it's different from what it was a second ago. Since people have memories, they are happy and disappointed by that change compared to the past.
It's constantly changing, yet it's perfect. There isn't a single thing missing. The facts are only for now.
There's no use for memory.
Even if you don't give up, the facts are clear.
We learn from the facts that are clear.

Getting hurt by something you care about is extremely unbearable.
It is humane to become obsessed, no matter how impermanent your actions are.
We sincerely apologize for this incident.

Well, all of the people Kanako cherishes are probably all valuable.
But it's not even part of your body.
It's your “property.”
Yes, originally, it is something that is supposed to benefit Kanako, such as being healed.

But before I knew it, my feelings were sinking and my heart was taken away by that “thing.”
Furthermore, my mind is shaken by the fact that I don't know if it will happen or not.
Your heart is in a state where it is owned by an entity that is originally owned.

Being hurt by something important causes emotions, such as pain or sadness, to boil up in a natural human state, so it would be difficult to reverse it.
However, you want to avoid getting too caught up in things and your own mind becoming the property of things.