Quite often, we hear news about children who have died of abuse. What's on the news is just the tip of the iceberg, and it hurts my heart to think that there are children being abused even at this moment.
I sincerely hope that the world will be free of abuse, but the only thing I can do right now is pray.
It makes my heart flutter. Isn't there anything I can do?
I know it's not in the catechism, but I'm saying “prayer is a connection”
I feel it.
There is a word called “Svaha.”
In kanji, it is the word “shaba-ha,” or the word sowaka.
The prayer I want it to be like this, I want it to be that way is a bit
It was different and said, “Light, huh. Like “I'm lucky for that,”
It is a word with complex meanings.
This is a word that often appears in Buddhist scriptures.
I don't know if the Buddha actually said it,
Like maybe it's Rakuchiguse, “that's right, that's right”
Maybe I was saying that.
For example, NPOs to prevent abuse around you
Yes, if there's anything I can do to help
I definitely want to get your help, and I'm sure it's for you
I think it has a big meaning.
If you can't do that easily, pray.
It's like Sowaka saying “whoa whoa, whoa,”
To the luckiest children, and again,
Strangely enough, even for the children who left without being touched by warmth,
Please direct your thoughts to “whoa, whoa.”
That warm prayer always binds relationships.
Until that time, when each edge bears fruit,
I will continue to pray, just like you.
Abusive parents were often abused when they were children.
People who weren't loved by their parents
Become a parent and I don't know how to love my kids
They say they will repeat the abuse they have suffered to their children
A chain of abuse will occur.
A person called “Hasegawa Hirokazu” has published many books on child abuse.
“Somebody stop me abusing children!” etc
It's a book that sharply captures the darkness of abusive parents.
When you understand the mechanism of abuse, there is a slight sense of emptiness in the mind
I think it will ease up.
However, there are many people who have broken the chain of abuse and are living healthy lives.
After all, “love” is important.
Not only abuse, but also bullying, domestic violence, and all kinds of crimes,
I think the cause is the darkness of my heart.
Darkness of the heart is, in essence, a sense of inferiority.
It is Buddha's wisdom to break this.
The Buddha forgives, recognizes, and praises everyone.
Therefore, the sense of inferiority can be overcome before the Buddha.
Since it breaks through darkness, wisdom is expressed as light.
When I read the sutras, the Buddha's world is full of light,
I can feel the strong intention of the Buddha trying to break through the darkness of the heart.
Doesn't Hasepi have an inferiority complex in her heart?
I'm not saying everyone has an inferiority complex, but many people have it.
The first thing Hasepi-san can do is break through the darkness of Hasepi-san's inner heart.
Then, once your heart is filled with light, it's about treating the people around you with that heart.
Light overflows from smiles and words (bright smiles and bright words),
Light also reaches the hearts of those who come into contact with it, and the darkness is broken through.
And so, someday, the world will be filled with light,
Abuse, bullying, and DV will go away.
Is such a world really coming? I don't know when they say that,
I believe that such a world will surely come, so I'm a monk.
Yes, my heart hurts too.
There are various types of abuse. There are physical abuses that cause bruises on the body, and mental abuse and physical abuse where people blame them with words even if they don't raise their hands... Weak people who can't raise their voices are sacrificed. It's a sad world.
Regarding raising children... This is a very difficult thing. Since they are my own children, not only are they cute, but parents are always raising children under heavy responsibility. Being a parent is hard work.
Older people are told that children will grow up even if left alone. This is because it was a society where everyone raised children, where the environment around them was a community, and children were a treasure.
Today, we are nuclear families, and relationships with neighboring regions are getting weaker than in the past. Also, it is an age where the social environment is very cold for working mothers while raising children.
I'm not advocating for abusive parents. Now that you're a parent, you have a responsibility to protect and nurture lives. Repeated abuse without being friendly is something that should not happen.
However, raising children is difficult. Any parent has mental stress that causes them to have that kind of mental stress. I think it's something we can do to create an environment and society where mothers can raise their children with peace of mind, such as an environment where they can consult with someone, an environment where they can rely on childcare professionals such as nursery schools, etc., and exchanges at local child-rearing clubs.
It's about watching over and accepting parents who risk their lives to raise children who will create the next era (*^_^*)
Hasebi
I totally agree.
I feel sad and angry when I see child abuse and murder on the news. I wonder why other painful incidents, wars, and terrorism have not disappeared.
I belong to something called the “Association of Monks Facing Suicide and Suicide.”
There are only a few people who can directly listen to conversations and exchange letters.
On the other hand, the number of people who died by suicide in Japan is around 30,000 every year, and the number of survivors who died by suicide is probably increasing by more than 100,000 every year.
What we do may be burning stones is water.
Even though I want abuse, suicide, and war to go away, I also feel that they will never go away.
But that doesn't mean I'm going to give up, and I want to act even with little effort.
If you say “face things that seem impossible with constant effort,” the hurdles are high, but if you paraphrase it as “do even small things steadily,” it may be easier to tackle them.
※ “Infinity Pledge for Sentient Life (Shujo Muhenseigando)”
・The oath of those who practice Buddhism to save all living things.
~Additional Notes~
I'll take a look at “thank you” and add it.
Hasebi: “Is there anything I can do?” I was saying, but you're doing a great job raising children, aren't you?
I think showing your hard work back to children and treating them with love is a more important activity than anything else.
I will continue to have that mindset, and if I have a relationship, I think there will be opportunities for outside activities. Please give your child as much love as possible right now.
As each mentor says, first of all, “The only thing I can do right now is pray.” I hope you will definitely bring this place, and that an NPO corporation related to that somewhere will participate and help.
Incidentally, our NPO corporation suicide prevention network style “http://www.soudannet-kaze.jp/”
However, we are always looking for support and supporters.
To Hasepi-sama
Me too
I'm heartbroken by the kids' news.
To that end, think about what I can do now,
At Toyama, there are events for the child-rearing generation, yoga classes, roundtable discussions, etc.
It is being held.
I hope you work hard to do what you can to deal with this problem
Maybe society will change someday when such circles are connected.
Please consider it. Gassho
Hasepi-sama
This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.
I am heartbroken every time I hear the news about daily abuse, Zusei.
Why do people abuse... Of course, people who abuse have mental problems. War, violence, human rights abuses, discrimination, prejudice, etc. have also become an issue of our state of mind.
In Buddhism, these problematic states of mind are called “ignorance (ignorance)” (fundamental ignorance, a state of mind that has moved away from understanding the truth), and we are lost and tormented by the work caused by that “ignorance.”
One such trend is “ignorance → worry → bad work.” Then, due to the accumulation of bad deeds, they will continue to reincarnate in a world of confusion and suffering.
How to break this vicious cycle is important in Buddhism.
In order to break up, “ignorance” must first be solved somehow. The solution was explained by the Buddha's teachings, in other words, Buddhism.
In Buddhism, in order to break through this ignorance, it is desired to devotion to the Three Treasures (Buddha, Buddhism, and monks), develop a Bodhi mind (heart aiming for enlightenment), and accumulate two things: the acquisition of wisdom and the practice of good fortune. Wisdom is understanding the state of truth in this world of emptiness and good fortune, and good fortune is altruism based on mercy (in current language, the terms volunteer/service/charitable activity are close. Strictly speaking, the target is to indiscriminately target all sentient beings and all people).
It's a bit difficult, but simply, if everyone realizes the importance of helping, supporting, and sharing, and can spend time with each other with kindness, compassion, and care, a happy world without hearing bad news will surely be realized.
Achieving this is also a goal for those of us involved in Buddhism.
I hope that Mr. Hasepi will be involved in various aspects of Buddhism little by little from now on, and that they will be part of it and work together to make it a reality. By all means, let's work hard together.
Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho