I can't honestly take part in my friend's consultation

Girls, especially when they were teenagers, talked about everything with their friends and understood! I strongly feel that relationships where people can empathize with each other are friends and best friends.

Your friends spoil you too, what do you think? What should I do? They're probably going to feel free to talk to me about it.

But if you just listen, there are times when it gets tough. You too have a lot of things, don't you?
But once you throw them away, it's terrible when you're a teenager! There are times when relationships break down without being aware of the other person's feelings.

That's because girls want to be sympathized with rather than looking for answers. When you have room in your mind, you can just listen, and when you can't afford it, I think it's a good idea to honestly tell the other person that I'm sorry I can't listen to them properly because I'm worried right now.

I've also had a best friend since I was a teenager. Their personalities are also the exact opposite, and although they are friends, it seems strange that they can be seen from those around them (laughs) they don't say anything that would push each other hard, but they honestly talk about what they think ◎

I hope you make lots of precious friends (*^_^*)

Hello mth. They had the courage to post a lot. We look forward to working with you.

In response to a consultation from your best friend, you may feel like you're doing something wrong if you write them down like this, you can't be kind to them, the words you return become appropriate, and you end up comparing them.
However, if the other party feels uncomfortable about it, they should not be consulted in the future, but they will still be consulted... in other words, what Mr. MTH is doing is not a bad thing, and it is a very natural reaction. So you don't have to blame yourself.

However, it's painful to be asked for a consultation when your head and heart are full, isn't it? At that time, I thought, “Oh, this kid is feeling stressed by this kind of thing. Please listen to the story while thinking, “It must be difficult.” When you're busy, you can add a saying, “I don't have much time.”

Please talk a lot about MTH with people around you. That's because there are a lot of things that come together by saying things out or putting them into sentences.

mth
I'm worried, I've listened to it.
Rather than directly talking about myself, that problem is not being able to honestly listen to my best friend's worries. I felt that MTH was a kind person.

Well, I think boys often get advice from people.
So I did a lot of research and learned how to listen to people's stories and how to be useful. Among them, Momo, the main character in the children's novel “Momo” (by Michael Ende) is said to be the ideal “listener.”

Momo is a vagrant girl who lives in ruins on the outskirts of town; in modern terms, she is a homeless girl, but she is liked by everyone in the town.
Why is that? That's because Momo is very good at listening to people's concerns. Even if I listen to your concerns, I won't give you proper advice. It's just a matter of listening attentively to what the other person is saying.
Nevertheless, the people who consulted were sorted out their thoughts while talking, noticed their own mistakes, and went home feeling radiant.

Empty your mind and just listen to what the other person is saying... It's something you can't do even if you know it. I also listen to people's concerns, and in my heart, “I wish I had done this!” It makes me think a mess in my head, such as “What would I do if I were you.”

The introduction has been lengthened. In other words, it is quite natural for MTH to “not be able to honestly participate in a friend's consultation.” What's more, when you have a hard time for yourself, don't worry (^_^)

One more thing.
People who receive trouble need someone who can talk about that person's worries.
Just listening will fill up the “worry bag” in your heart.
Whether it's another friend, teacher, school counselor, or family member, please find someone who can listen to MTH's concerns.

　Mth, I think it's great to think so. For example, listening to the other person's story can often be troublesome sometimes even if it's not a problem. This isn't a bad thing; humans can't just listen to people's stories right away. I care about myself. While there are so many such people, I think the attitude of counselors trying to listen to people's stories rather than work is wonderful.
Some percent of people who say their worries feel joy from those who sympathize with them rather than their answers. As is the case with me, when I confided my concerns, I was initially talking to someone who could give an answer, but since there are many one-sided answers, I talk to people who sympathize with me.
Everyone makes comparisons in their hearts, so don't worry about it, and I recommend that you empathize one step ahead and imagine it in the other person's position. Sometimes it's different, but I think you'll be able to understand this as you repeat it.
Talk to hasunoha about your concerns or confide in someone you trust. I think it's also a good idea to confide in your troubled friends. Because I'm still in my teens... There are plenty of failures in a long life. I think it's better to make lots of mistakes. I also regret that I should have made more mistakes in love and friend relationships.

You can do what you can do, you can't do what you can't do.
Please be someone who can clearly say YES and NO.
There's nothing you can do about overdoing it and ruining yourself.
Let's express our honest feelings to the other person.
You are you, and you are good yourself.

Even so, you are useful to them.
A firm act of Bodhisattva (a religious practice that emphasizes compassion for others and tries to reach the highest enlightenment.) You can stay because of it.
I'm thankful for that.

To mth-sama

It is said that they are often consulted.
I'm sure it's a good thing to be relied upon by others due to your personality, etc.

However, I'm full of worries right now.
Why don't you honestly tell them how difficult it is to listen to your concerns in such circumstances?
Now I'm going to ask the other person to ask me about my current situation.
Sometimes it's okay to have the opposite relationship as before.
That's how humans are mochitotsuretsu
I think it will come about as a society.
Please think about it. Gassho

(^_^) Of course, I only have one body.
I have a lot of friends and people I want to be good friends with, but honestly, I don't have any health.
Five people I can really call my best friends is enough. If there are too many, it's hard to get along and make money. (^_^)
I have a lot of friends on Facebook, but there are also people I haven't talked to in person.
I don't like flimsy relationships, so at one point, I drastically reduced my Facebook friends. (lol)
That's because I've become friends with people I shouldn't be friends with.
I regularly distributed joke puja on Facebook instead of a blog, but since I became friends with certain people, my official status increased, and it was so stiff that I couldn't say what I wanted to say. Probably, due to the presence of that person, it seems that from their standpoint, I can only say presumptions. Among them, there were seniors, senior seniors, local elites, and people I honestly didn't really like.
I felt refreshed. (^_^) That's because I've become honest with myself.
A bandman said it. “My tension drops the most when my mom comes to the concert.”
Well, I can't put parentheses in front of my mom. (lol)
Human relationships are something where the characters around you, are influenced by whether or not there is only one person around you, and the characters change. It's such a delicate thing.
But if you can overcome that and show yourself, it means you're not lying to yourself.
A person who can just be you without overdoing it. That's a good relationship for you.
I'm not saying anything about that kid (^_^) I think I know my true intentions.