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I'm having trouble with my pet's castration surgery

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Currently, I live with my 2 cats at my parents' house.

I'm planning to have my cat neutered this time,
I'm suffering a lot because of that.
My parents didn't seem to want to do much about the surgery itself, but I
The stance was that I didn't want to do it, but I thought it would be better.

However, it's a very selfish story, but once surgery is decided,
I always feel sorry or unfortunate for cats in my daily life
I can't stop, and it's painful.

Cats are really attached to me, and when I watch how healthy they are,
It makes me cry, thinking that I would do such a terrible thing to you.

The reason for surgery is, after all, to make it easier for us to keep.
It may be absolutely necessary in order for people to live in a human society...

If you feel like making this child happy for the rest of your life instead of doing such terrible things to the cat, you may be prepared, but I myself am irresponsible and cannot live together until the cat dies in the future.
This is because we will have to stand on our own before long.

It's painful to feel guilty about recommending castration surgery even though I can't do anything for them.
However, the reason we recommended surgery was that we just wanted to have fun
Without it, I also wish my parents and the two cats could get along even a little bit.

I'm sorry. It's a selfish feeling, but I really wanted to spit it out.
How can I come to terms with this painful feeling?

Sorry for this very difficult question to answer.

5 Zen Responses

There is nothing better than cherishing relationships with cats and living.

When it comes to keeping animals, humans are selfish.
However, despite the contradiction, humans live in a human world. You are receiving the lives of living creatures in order to live, aren't you? They're stealing it, but if I don't do that, I won't be able to live. Humans are selfish, but while appreciating the blessings in this way, it is important to accept that I am being kept alive, and live through this person with care.

Having a pet is like that, too. Because it's lonely, because it's cute, because it's healing. Whatever the reason, keep a pet according to human lifestyle (without permission).
Even if you're worried, you may not be able to get an answer. Because neither answer is wrong. Maybe it's not right...

There is nothing better than cherishing your relationship with your cat and living your life.

A connected heart

I agree with Master Nakata. It all depends on our convenience. Feeling conflicted and worried is a natural progression in itself. It's a really bothersome problem.
There is a history where dogs and cats have coexisted very close to our lives since ancient times (although there isn't much detail). Here in Japan in particular, there is a background where dogs have supported a part of our lives since ancient civilizations. When I say “pet,” a correlation like “the side that keeps it and the side that is kept” comes to mind, but when I say “family, buddy,” I can somehow feel the feeling of someone you share your whole life with. I prefer the latter expression.
I wonder if drawing a quick line between what is right and what is wrong, and a world full of contradictions with this “thing of justice” is something that everyone really wants... I think there is something “something” that cannot be measured other than between you and your children. If you continue to do the best expression of affection you can do for those children, I am convinced that it will become your only “bond.”
I love cats too. Remembering a few years ago, I spoke passionately.

Why don't you increase your love for cats even more?

When I visited a facility where leprosy patients were hospitalized for human rights studies, what stuck in my heart the most was that people who had leprosy at the time were quarantined and forced to have castration surgery.
I watched the video, and the man said that the saddest thing was that he had been castrated.
It was born into this world as life, and even though it has historically been able to connect the activities of life for many years, what is it really like for humans to take away the ability to survive without permission?
I think this is unreasonable for both humans and cats.
If wild boars, deer, and bears are not regularly exterminated in the mountains, humans will also be harmed.
What would happen if only cats were breeding?
... synchronized.
If I were a cat club person who loves super cats, I would create a “Neshin Neko-chan Party.” They made a pledge to build Neko-chan Fantasyland, and called on Neko-chan believers from all over the country to collect cat taxes, pure goods, and donations to buy an uninhabited island, and build Ne 🐾 Burland in Ho Chi Minh. They make ferris wheels and roller coasters and let cats drive them.
Then, cats are celebrated as sacred animals, “neshin cats,” the messengers of the gods, and the cat statue at Nikko Toshogu Shrine is a sacred place, and they will become the guru of emerging religions.
Bottom line: You cat owners still have a low level of love for cats.
“If I had to be castrated, I would become the founder of an emerging religion, gather sympathizers on the internet, and buy them for you! An uninhabited island!” If you don't have that kind of spirit, don't buy it, cat.
As a matter of fact, depending on the region where you live, there are places where there is no problem even if the number of cats increases, and Gosho-ji Temple is a “cat temple” not a cat cafe. Cats are rather welcomed in places where people who love cats gather, so I think it would be a good idea to force them to just brazenly castrate them. If I were a cat, I wouldn't be bogged down.
Having a cat means you have that kind of responsibility, right?
In order to take this opportunity to stand from a larger perspective, I recommend that you learn the psychology of humans “becoming me and me” with respect to things, life, and other beings, and walk the unfettered path of Bodhisattva and Buddhism. This is because humans cannot escape suffering when discussing right and wrong with a human head in the human world.
Your relationship with Buddhism is about to begin today 🐾

For those of us who are foolish, it is difficult to protect many lives. It's not just cats. What is the life of the meat and fish we eat every day? What is the life of vegetables What happens to be the life of a woman's egg or a man's sperm? You can't protect everyone. You can only protect your own life. No, I can't even protect my own life. Isn't that what we are?
If castration is necessary for the future lives of your parents or your cat, I think there is no choice but to do it.
Cats give birth to 2 to 6 cats in a single birth. Also, they are able to give birth six to six months after birth, and after that, they can give birth 6 to 7 times in their lifetime. Therefore, it is clear that if you don't use contraception by some method, it will increase steadily, and it will become unmanageable even if you search for a foster parent.
Please take care of your cat to the extent possible, to the extent that you can maintain your life, the lives of your parents, and that of your parents. If necessary for that, castration is unavoidable.
Also, I want to live without forgetting repentance and gratitude for the fact that we have taken so many lives and are living supported by so many lives.
Namu Amida Buddha

Don't do what the other person doesn't like

The basic moral of Buddhism is not to do what the other person doesn't like.
(It depends on the time and circumstances.)
Cats probably don't have the ability to understand that they will be castrated or operated on, or that I (I) won't be able to have children even if I get married because I've been operated on.
That's why I'm not averse to castration.
If your partner (cat) doesn't like it, I think that's fine.
However, I want to make it as painless as possible for them.
Cats don't like pain either.