I can't fill my loneliness

He has a divorced child, and even though he doesn't have children right in front of him, there is someone he once loved, and he has his own child there. He wants to protect his children, and it is his job to protect them. Including that, it's him.
Whether or not you can love yourself, including that, will have a big impact on your future life.

There's no doubt that it's not your ideal form.

Method 1
Without bringing in ideals, we can wholeheartedly accept him as he is now without putting up with it. →I can live happily as it is.

Method 2
You can't throw away your ideals. →Say goodbye and find someone else. →You can live a happy life.

It's not about which one is good and which one is bad, but you choose whichever you can.
If you put up with it, the limit will eventually come and it will explode.
Buddhism is the way to know a way of life you can't put up with and the fact that you can go the way you are.
If he's not a bad person, your training might pave the way.
I think it's good to learn through zazen.

Hello. I also read the previous question.
I think humans are ultimately unable to “divide.” I think so. I can think and say things. You can do things too. However, isn't it impossible to “divide yourself”? So, I have no choice but to keep on saying “Thank you, I won't be bothered, I'll add” for a long time. There is no “completion” day in and day out.
So, I think it's okay to annoy or hurt him. If you are aware of that.
“I'm sorry, I know I'm bothering you when I say this, but I'm lonely. I think you're meeting your wife.”
I don't know how he's going to react to that. There might be men and women here. However, no matter how far they go, they are not the same person. I don't think it's better than being humble and building up communication.

Marriage is about becoming a family, right? Isn't a family a family that doesn't change even after a divorce? You also have a father and mother, don't you? You're still a family even when you leave home, right? It's the same thing.
If you love him, allow him to meet his family.

This is the monk who answered the previous question.
As for the previous question, have you calmed down a bit?
I would be happy if our answers led to Kumanatsu's problem even a little bit.

It's a wonderful thing that my relationship with him has deepened.
I happened to meet someone in this world that I thought I liked.
Kumanatsu is happy just because of that.

However, what is a human feeling of love...
The more you fall in love, and the deeper your love becomes, the feeling of desire for exclusivity boils up.

It's definitely not just a bad feeling, and there are big and small...
I want to keep my partner's present, past, and future all to myself.
Right now, Kumanatsu is suffering from healthy emotions.

“Previous family” is one of the important issues when dating someone who has a history of divorce.

It's about my previous wife...
For kids, they're both parents.
So, for that point alone, he has an obligation to raise him in cooperation with his previous wife, sometimes in cooperation.
It's the opposite of your question, but if I were to tell him, I'd say “I'm in a position to understand.”
It's understandable that I feel really lonely, but since this is reality, there's no escape.

If you feel like watching him die, you can either live by being close to him, even if you don't acknowledge his ex-wife.
Also, if he doesn't really appreciate that feeling, your relationship won't work.
It means that this love was an illusion.

I'm not forcing Kumanatsu to understand him.
There are those who can accept and those who cannot.
I don't know if it's values or what, but...

If it's hard for you to accept everything about him, then it means you weren't the man he was meant to be.
At the same time, it means that Kumanatsu's options are limitless.