Is it OK for a man to torment his wife this much when it comes to infidelity

　In Buddhism, love is described as worry... desire. It's “lust.”
There is no true happiness beyond desire (love), and it is something we should leave...
So what is the relationship between the couple who have been together for many years? What is a relationship where you genuinely care for each other? Is that even lust and something we should hate? It seems that you will be asked questions such as...
I think that has already gone beyond a state of love into a relationship of true good friends.
However, it is highly questionable whether all couples can do this. Therefore, originally, the Buddhist Order preaches that they should abandon it without seeking marriage or love.
I read the blog... I don't know about couples from other places. The wife has discussed it with “this kind of husband” and is trying to start over... but no one else knows what is going on between the couple, whether it's because they are in love, or whether it's an economic issue.
Let's leave other people's affairs to others.
Please take care of your family and your children.
No, you already care about it, don't you? And it's too important, and are you afraid that your current home might break down...
Everything changes, including myself. Even if I say I don't like it, that's the truth.
If so, let's cherish the present, at least now that definitely exists and is alive... let's live to the fullest.
The Buddha cares more about you than anything else...
　

I read it.

I think it's a sentence of love and suffering.
It is written in such a way that it will be swallowed up by desire, suffering, and resentment.
Due to the crimes committed by her husband, the wife has changed from the end to suffering and hatred.

I feel like the crime I committed is growing more and more, attracting evil in my heart.

The way a married couple should be to treat each other with sincerity while respecting each other.
It's about apologizing sincerely and sincerely for the crime you have committed and what will happen from there.

I felt that it was important to look back on myself and correctly review the way we live.

I sincerely pray that you will take care of yourself and walk the right path while looking at your own life from now on.

Think about it by replacing it with appetite.
There are times when you look at the delicious food displayed in the store and want to try it.
However, if you don't have money, you don't eat it until you steal it, and if you're on a diet, you can't stand buying it.

Everyone has greed.
However, I think there are some people who break social rules and execute them at will.

Everyone has afflictions such as greed, anger, laziness, and pride.
This is reality.
The question is how to fight against that worry.
No one binds men's desires (other people's hearts).
However, it is natural for married couples to demand behavioral restrictions that prevent them from actually having an affair.

Incidentally, grief is the affliction of anger.
You too have worries.

Rei-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

In Buddhism, adultery or infidelity with the opposite sex, not to mention monks, is admonished as “fornication.”

The reason for this is that it is clearly a bad act, in other words, it is “bad work.”

The fact that it is stipulated that it must not be clarified is probably because it is an act that is easy to commit due to worry.

Also, it can be said that this is because that act is not limited to adultery, but it is also easy to lead to double or triple acts of misconduct by telling lies, stealing, etc.

Well, it doesn't mean that infidelity is common because it's a man, and it seems like there are quite a few women. In the first place, it doesn't work without both sexes, so if you know it's an “affair,” it can be said that it's bad for both of them, so I think it's probably 5 minutes 5 minutes.

Of course, there are many rational men and women who don't have affairs. Bad things stand out, so maybe there are places where you think there are a lot of them.

By all means, if you take this opportunity to learn about the “precepts” stipulated in Buddhism, understand, and follow them if possible, you can definitely reduce bad behavior, so I think it will be very appreciated.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho