Which is more important, childbirth or travel? again

I'll be blind in a year! My father-in-law was told by the doctor, and I understand the feeling that my father-in-law himself wanted to take a look at various things.

If I were in the opposite position, I think so too. There is room for sympathy.

I want to do what I can for them, but now I'm doing my best to take care of myself and my baby due to my weight.
I don't understand why I have to do extra work in my spare time.

I heard the conversation with my husband yesterday, and I shared my feelings via email this morning. I'm not doing anything even if I'm away from home this time. I'm not ready to go or clean up at all. I will also talk to the parishioners about this current situation. I said that and did it.

She is a terrible religious person who only becomes the heroine of the tragedy and leaves her home without looking back at her surroundings and ignoring her wife from Rengetsu. You are a member of such a temple. I mean!

Also, it's too bad, so I'll declare it to my husband. My wife went on a trip when she was on her last month, so I go on trips and play even when my parents-in-law are nursing or in the hospital. I mean!

Why do we always have to worry up to this point, and why do we get worried?

I can only think of it as harassment from my parents-in-law to give birth to a boy who will be my heir. This is Matahara.

I don't want to get into trouble, so I only complain or dislike my husband. I really want to say the above to my mother-in-law. I don't want to help my father-in-law even if he is blind with this.
Conversely, I think being blind is a good thing that harasses me.

For example, putting trash in tea...

I want you to think even a little bit about the wife of the last month. Nobody thinks about it.

Also... it's really exhausting.
People around me who aren't doctors or midwives really know everything about childbirth. You're the only one who doesn't understand! It's in a state.

It's painful, painful, I really want help. If this were to happen, I think I shouldn't have made a second one.

I think it's just a trip, but I'm sure my parents-in-law will be swayed by a lot of things in the future. Meanwhile, taking care of my parents-in-law, doing temple work, raising children, and hanging out with my husband piled up. The rest was an inheritance when my parents-in-law disappeared due to a relationship between my brother-in-law who had a habit and his wife Miyako. (There are also siblings who sprinted)

The problems are piling up.

4 Zen Responses

I'm sorry.

The solution is already for past questions
The elite members of Hasunoha are throwing it, so
The rest, I think, is a question of whether or not to receive it.

Probably, there aren't enough complaints written on the Hasunoha paper
I think so.
Let's stir up your dissatisfaction with Word or something and let your thoughts flow.
There is no limit on how many sheets or how many characters.
Why don't you type in as many complaints as you like?

Please post it again on Hasunoha when it runs out.
We look forward to seeing you.
Gassho

Don't you have any real parents?

Aren't your real parents alive?
I think it would be safe if something happened if my real parents came to stay.

Also, my husband only works at temples, right? If something happens, aren't you close enough to deal with it right away?

The past has passed away and is no more.
The future has yet to come, and it's still not there.
Even when thoughts and anger are inflated in your head, it is you who are suffering.
You'd better not think too much.

Why don't you ask the public health nurse in charge of pregnant women at the government office to listen to your complaints?

Visiting temples must have been his hobby.

　Hello. Continuous throws mean they haven't been born yet. Thank you for your hard work.
I'm sure they've talked about “I like visiting temples...” before. Are there any stories you've heard around that time that are useful to you now? (In other words, is Buddhism useful in your life?)
Honestly, it seems that the situation (neither you nor your surroundings) is improving, despite the fact that various monks from various denominations are giving your own answers on the internet.
If there is someone who now remembers, “I heard the story of Mr. Osho at this temple a long time ago was good,” you should go to that person's place. Of course, that's until the baby is born and it's okay to go outside.
Well, anyway, I'm angry this time around.

They don't understand the pain. This is really painful, painful, and makes me feel extra angry, doesn't it?
I sincerely apologize.

In particular, temples are often different from ordinary households, so thank you for your hard work.
I also joined the temple as an heir from an ordinary family, so I went crazy at that time.
(I'm here because I was introduced to it by a monk I met during that madness)

In conclusion
・Go to counseling
・If you think it's morahara or matahara, go to counseling agencies that specialize in women

How about this one?

It's probably impossible for you, your husband, or parents-in-law to change your mind now.
At times like that, the only way is to keep your distance.
And above all else, stress is the worst condition for childbirth.

Also, unfortunately, it is difficult for people with invisible faces called the internet to understand your situation.

Now, in counseling, you first spit out what the client wants to say, accept it, and sort out the mental traffic of what you want to do the most.
It's not a place to think about psychology or criticize.

I would definitely recommend it to you right now.

If you can't find it, I can introduce it to you.

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