Which is more important, childbirth or travel?

I don't know when to enter the month of the month and my body will prepare for childbirth, such as labor pains or water breakage, etc., but I don't think hospital teachers, midwives, or Buddha understand all of this.

But when asked about the due date, the mother-in-law, who gave birth to 6 sons, said, “Even if I'm a pregnant woman, I haven't given birth yet!” It's a phrase “My time is...”

I'm the one giving birth this time, not my mother-in-law. Both the mother and the baby are different, so I don't know what will happen, and I still think my life is at risk.

Nevertheless, my parents-in-law go on a trip every month, but my wife is in reprimand, so I can't even stay home at the temple. If I go, I have to clean up, etc., and when there is a funeral or memorial service, I and my older daughter stay away from home. I turned it down once, but now it's today, and my husband seems to have been contacted by my parents-in-law saying, “No matter what, I want to live on a trip.”

The trip is 2 nights and 3 days, but traveling is fun, right? I don't think it's impossible if you don't go.

If that's the case with my husband this time, will I stay with my weak newborn every month or after delivery? When asked, even I don't understand it because I have one body, head, and body. I say it.

Certainly, my father-in-law has an intractable illness where he gradually loses his eyesight, and it seems that he wants to take a look at various things now, but it doesn't mean that he won't be able to see right now, and if anything, I think I and my baby will be given priority again now, but what is it like?

Originally, she's my wife, but she doesn't live with her at the temple, and she probably has to stay away from home, but this time I think it's different, and I think it's okay if they understand it.

For that reason, I won't give my husband a day off. My husband is also unhappy.

I think my father-in-law and mother-in-law only think of us as handymen.

I'm really tired.

I'll have to put up with it, but from here on, I'm ready to welcome my baby now, and if I stay at my parents-in-law's house, I have to make preparations; if I make changes, I have to clean up; let alone prepare my carry case so that I can give birth or be hospitalized at any time, and I have to make my luggage again when I unpack my luggage and come home.

I'm the one to do that. It's not my husband.

I don't understand why we have to do that at the end of the month. Even if you go all over Japan, I don't think there are any pregnant women like that being swayed by their parents-in-law.
　

5 Zen Responses

Thank you for your hard work. I would like to express my sympathy for your suffering.
I want my mother to “be healthy” and give birth to a baby.
The mother's mood now seems to be overflowing with “anger.”

Well, there are all kinds of pregnant women in the world.
There's no need to compare them to them.

My elementary school classmate is one of those pregnant women, just before her child is born
He has passed away. A child also died.

The whole family, my parents-in-law, my husband, my biological parents,
While everyone is taking care of pregnant women
There was a sad reality of sudden death due to a brain hemorrhage.

I'm not going to compare that person to you.
You have your suffering.
In the same way, I want all pregnant women to suffer
You should know.

My parents-in-law's trip? If you go without permission, that's fine!
Isn't your husband helping? If you're willing to help, do it!

That's about it. It's not an exaggeration.

What you should face
I'm desperately trying to be born in your tummy
it must be Aka-chan!!

Please, be happy, be at peace for life to be born
I can't help but hope you can look at me kindly.

It's fine.
As for you, all of these Hasunoha Osho people
I'm watching. Don't think about unnecessary things,
Peace of mind for your baby first.

Whoa whoa, whoa. Gassho

It's a baby.

When you get the answer, you'll think, “Have you seen this ^_^?” Also, in order to convey the legitimacy of your thoughts, it's a good idea to show your husband your communication at Hasunoha up until now. Are you telling your husband that you are consulting here?
In other words, the way the problem was posed is wrong. As has been said a long time ago, “Why am I making my surroundings so bad?” I think that's probably the question you should ask, but how about it?
Again, please be prepared to “give birth to another person, and even raise one person when born.” I've only seen that of my own wife, but it's literally nothing, right? The first thing you should think about when it comes to your baby is you.
I really, sincerely pray for a safe delivery.

You should keep the temple closed

Let go of the stereotype that temples need caretakers. Nowadays, there are cell phones, and it's fine if no one else is at the temple.
My temple is a part-time worker, and my husband and wife work together, and the temple is empty during the daytime.

Also, what I'm worried about is, can't your biological parents come and stay? That's it.

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